i've been this guy for a about a year now and im his longest relationship..well he went off to boot camp at the marines and he came back.. well he's change and i accepted taht becuase i love him..well before he had left to boot camp he had cheated on me and chose that other chick over me..(that girl knew he was with me still went after him) well we were broken up for 2 weeks and he kept writing me telling me he'll do watever it takes to get me back in his life.. well i took him back.. everything was fine untill he came home..things just change..well he broke up with me today on our anniversery...i've been crying all day long...he just say that he's change and that i'm still the same...he expect so much from me he wants to me to work and be more independent..its hard wen im a full time student and i'll be graduating from college next spring with a BA...I'm always at school. why cant he just be happy with me as of rite now...i accepted him for who he was and not wat he was...I love him.
2007-08-22 18:35:35 · 14 answers · asked by nancy p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you chose to take him back, you should have thought more with your brain instead of your heart.
As far as his return from boot camp....military training changes people. It's designed to toughen people up. Now that he's been toughened up, he figures you need to do the same.
Now with you being in school, put ya damn foot down and stand up. If he can't accept you then replace him. It's ok to love and accept somone, but it's stupid to be with someone who doesn't do it in return.
2007-08-22 18:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by riding128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing. If he's cheated before, he's more prone to cheating again. As far as change, I don't know which way he has changed. Its hard to pin point the exact reason why he broke up with you and I don't want to assume things. Maybe things are for the better. Regarding education, finish up your schooling since you're almost done. Sometimes it is hard to endure all this especially when the relationship has been a lengthful one. Focus on school and get your degree. Once all that is done, you can focus on finding a better person in which you deserve. Good luck
2007-08-22 18:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by rjksmooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you, then he is not worth you time. You are going to cry, and you need to. It is a way of dealing with the grief. It sounds as though you need someone who will be with you and not going back to the marines. You need someone with a career. Take some time to find yourself and just be with friends and family right now. When you feel ready start dating again. Guys love girls with college degrees, I have no doubt that you will find someone. Your heart may be broken now, but new love has ways of fixing it to be even stronger.
2007-08-22 18:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you have to get over him! I'm sorry to say this, but its true! He obviously wan't good enough for you and/or you guys just weren't meant for each other. I think you should just focus on yourself, you have a lot of things going for you-you are going to school and getting your BA soon. You need to spend some time NOT thinking about guys and being single and really getting to know yourself. Once you know yourself and you are confident enough in yourself, then you will be ready to take on a serious relationship once again. I suggest picking up some new hobbies and trying not to think about this guy, spend some time with your girls or family, go shopping, watch some happy movies, anything! Maybe even just going on dates with guys just to stop thinking about him, even if you aren't planning on getting serious with the guy. Just have some fun! I really feel sorry for you and hope you feel better soon. Just know it's okay to cry it out sometimes and not hold all of those emotions in!
2007-08-22 18:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by noname 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nance-
Forget about him. Seriously, you don't want to date a marine. He is going to be a totally different person from now on, and will likely cheat on you many times. That's what the military does to people. I have been there, seen it first hand, watched friends agonize over it, and friends get divorced over it. Stay in school. There are a bunch of cool guys on campus. Stay away from the baseball cap wearing, back row sitting joculars who just want to score. Find some biology major who is fervently anti-war and let him play doctor on you.
2007-08-22 18:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like little penis syndrome. He doesn't want you to go to college and finish. He wants you to drop out and end up with a low paying job to make him happy. I'm sorry to say, you are better of without him. Besides, he cheated on you and makes everything your fault by blaming you for not changing. This will always be this way if you stay with him. You hang in there, and there will be someone more in your league who will have goals and is trying to go some place with their life too. Hugs.
2007-08-22 18:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, break ups are always hard..you should try to occupy your spare time now that you're single by hanging out with your girlfriends, reading, or going out places. Cry it all out first if you have to but only for a couple days but after that just realize that you might be better off without a cheater. good luck to you and best wishes
2007-08-22 18:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by mexicanabeibi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey sister this is as clear as day this guy is not for you. i know its hard but dry ur tears... weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning.
As it was said in diary of a mad black woman" Sometimes we hold on to the things that God Himself is trying to tear out of out lives." this is just the season for you to move on accept it and " ask the saviour to help you. this is your opportunity to find your true love and you should not cheat yourself of this opportunity.
YOU should really look at DIARY of a Mad Black Woman that should help you feel better and if you have seen it watch it again.
Dry your eyes, the heart ache is over today, its a new day!!!
2007-08-22 18:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what I can say is he dont deserve to be with you. Love is about caring and sharing but not by changing someone to suite one needs/wish. We can change if only change is for better but not just to pleased someone. I feel that you must learn to love yourself, be proud of yourself, if he dont know the meaning of love and appreciation then it is better you let him go, I m sure you will find someone who will love you. In a happy relationship, its must have 2 ways... means to love and to be loved. So, Love yourself to be loved! cheers
2007-08-22 18:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysbme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't seem to be all there - like he doesn't know what he wants. he sounds very confused. Give him time to figure out what he wants to do, and be patient and show him kindness - just be a friend. even if he breaks up with you - keep being a friend. it's so stupid to break off a friendship just because they don't want to date you. but honestly I think he is confused and doesn't know what he wants.
I was thinking what's wrong with this guy
is he hiding in his hole? then he's in emotional pain and probably will hide until he feels safe enough to come out.
2007-08-22 18:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋