how do i keep my sister in check???

Question

ok so i just found out i had to watch my sister outta nowhere and i havent really babysat someone before...plus shes and annoying little child with a bad temper if she doesnt get what she wants.becuz of the way my parents spoil her..so i just wanna know how do i keep her in check..you know just tell her whos in charge and whatever...

ok im 21 shes 8...i barely even know the child becuz shes not biological sister.shes the child my father had from some other woman and ive only met her like 3 times...my parents told me that she listens to me and im in charge...

its not that i dont like her...i just dont know her very well so i dont know what to expect from her....

Answer 1

perfect time to start getting to know her. You could do the movie & a pizza thing, talk to her about her friends, what she likes etc, or you could let her do her own thing (8 year olds are pretty self sufficient) and just keep an eye on her to make sure she's not disobeying any of your parent's rules. Make sure you know what time she is supposed to be in bed - that would probably be the hardest thing to enforce - and just plan on having a night in. Don't invite friends over or do anything that you would not want your parents to catch you doing in front of your sister. (i.e., drink, smoke, curse or whatever)

An 8 year old is easy as pie - all you need to do is set her up with a board game, video game, tv, movies, or books and she'll be all set. If you play WITH her, extra bonus big sibling points to you.

Answer 2

well she is half your blood to start with and it sounds like it was all decided and then you was told which at 21 would sort of get my back up as well BUT if you have no choice over the matter this might be a good time to get to know her.....they are more or less out the snotty stage and rather into the "I really look up to big girls stage".....so you could try and just keep her occupied with the whole nail and hair thing....a sort of mini girlie night out..........so maybe if it is a school night for her, tell her once home work and chores are done, the two of you can sit and paint toe nails and if there is time do hair............if you run out of time then "Hair" is ready for next time..........

The thing is there is no point in you getting all pi$ey at her I am sure she did not demand that you was her only sitter, she, like you was TOLD this was going to happen and there is no point in the two of you getting on each others nerves any more than you need to.........with an 8 yr old you can do a lot of things that you would do normally just need to tame it down for her age group.........once she knows that this might just be fun, the rebellion side of her will let go with luck......My 17 yr old has the neighbors 7yr old a fair bit to give the mum a break and this child just wants to do everything "big" girls do.

regards

Answer 3

You need to provide more information. We pretty much can tell that you don't like or want to babysit your little sister (maybe she's not the only one her parents spoiled?). You must have had this sister for awhile I think. But you have never had to babysit her before? How old are you? How old is she? Do you have any training or skills for babysitting?
When parents leave a child with a babysitter they are the ones to tell the child that the sitter is in charge. But if you are not able to control her behavior, you are probably not an appropriate babysitter for her.

Answer 4

*WITH THIS ANSWER I WAS THINKING YOU HAD TO PERMANENTLY WATCH HER... IF THIS IS JUST A ONE TIME THING OMIT WHAT I'VE SAID AND CHILL WITH HER... RENT A COUPLE OF MOVIES, EAT SOME PIZZA, PLAY A COUPLE OF GAMES... IT WON'T BE SO BAD.*

Watch the nanny shows! Great reference points! It's important that you get down to her level when she has done something wrong, tell her what she did wrong and why it is not okay. Then tell her that she needs to go on a time out. Find a specific spot or mat or chair or something that will consistently be her time-out spot. "They" say, typically, that time outs should be about one minute for every year... so for her she would get 8 minute time-outs. After her time out is up you need to go back to her, get down to her level, tell her again why she got a time-out and why it is not okay to behave in that way, and then give her a big hug and let her know that everything's alright and you're not mad at her. It really is important that you don't act out in anger towards her. Your goal is not to make her feel like crap but to make her understand that her behavior is not acceptable.

Answer 5

You don't. Ask your parents -- the ones who are actually supposed to be disciplining her and setting the rules -- to make it clear that when you're babysitting, you're in charge.

Then understand that "being in charge" is not the same thing as getting to boss around excessively or otherwise lord it over your sister, nor does it mean you should expect a major personality change, with her deferring to you on all matters.

Answer 6

u sound so lame first off if your father concieved her yes she is your sister maybe just 1/2 but still your "real" sister. Get over it try and work with her, your statement sounds like its coming from a SPOILED BRAT so maybe you dont like her because shes just a spoiled as you are... I am 26 and also have an 8 year old sister it was big surprise but I welcomed her with open arms cause after all she is only 8.