signs a guy is controlling?

Question

im a little nervous that my new guy friend is controlling. here are some little things that has happened.
1. he got mad when i was talking to his brother on the phone (as a friend.)
2. he got mad when i said white boys are cute
3. he said he doesnt have patience and he doesnt like to wait for a girl to give him an answer
4. he always begs for stuff he wants even after i constantly say NO.
5. he's very judging

so is he controlling?

well were both 16. and btw i used to talk to his brother.
he also says he loves me sooo much. but hes been through alot

Answer 1

Well, talking to his brother on the phone is not the smartest thing to do really. I'm not sure how you were talking, but it could be taken wrong so in itself, not controlling. Making remarks about how cute other guys are is not smart.
Wanting an answer to everything immediately and being impatient about it doesn't sound controlling, it sounds immature. So does "begging" for stuff after you say no. Being judgemental is just being judgemental.
To be honest, it sounds like he's just really immature. I'm not sure how old he is, but sounds like he's about 13 going on 2. Not sure how old you are either.
Maybe he's just too immature to have a girlfriend. But you need to learn a few rules of the road too if you are going to be with a guy. Like don't p*** them off by saying things about other guys to them.

Answer 2

Yes it seems like he is a little controlling, but that isn't necessarily a bad thing! So many people in the world are controlling, and unfortunately us less-controlling people have to deal with it. There's probably a reason why he's controlling- if it is bothering you you should ask him if anything has happened to make him so uptight! You could do it in a nice way, like "Dude relax! Why do you always seem so uptight?!". It seems like he also might like you a little bit...? Why else would he get a little irritated when you were talking on the phone with his bro, or when you said white boys are cute (I'm assuming he's not white haha). He might also do these other things just to get your attention. So, check that out also! Good luck girl!

Answer 3

cowmoomoo this is the love doctor and i always keep it 100. there is only one tell tell sign of a controlling man. and i could loose my platinum black player card for telling you this stuff but in the same turn i'm a doctor and i took a oath.:) if everything is about him and his well being and as long as he is satisfied then lilmama he is a very controlling guy. someone being controlling is all about then but he lets you see your mistakes and your faults and short comings and you can't make the right decisions without him. it's not about him begging for stuff it's about him not the stuff. so be a strong black woman that i know you are and handle your shesnit. a relationship should be about two people not one person. this is the love doctor and i always keep it 100 later

Answer 4

He doesn't sound like much of a catch to me. If he can't wait, can't take no for an answer, gets mad when you have an opinion, he doesn't care about you, only what he wants you to be, you need to Move on and find a man that will care about you for what you are.

Answer 5

straight up yes, hes already jealous and if you let him into your life its just gonna be a big ole stress ball of youtryingto appease him, eventually your life will fall apart bc all yoru friends will ditch ye bc your no fun, and all your guy friends will ditch you bc youll be begging them to leave just so your (controler ) doesnt get mad at you. DONT DO IT.

get a better man.

steven,

Answer 6

he's very manipulative and immature

i'd advise you to breakup/separate from him

i can see this relationship going nowhere

he obviously doesn't care much about the relationship if:

-he has no patience
-always begging for stuff even if you say no (not to frighten you but what if he asks you for sex or action and you say no? you'd never know how he would react, things could turn ugly)

Answer 7

hes going to be real controlling not going to let you do nothing i was in a relationship for a year with this guy and he was so nice at first then he started off with little things like getting mad for no reason at all then he was telling me that i had to stay in the house all the time and not go out at all and then one time when i went out with my friends he found me and told me to take a ride with him that he wasn't mad once i got in the car he started yelling at me calling me a slut and i asked him how i was a slut by hanging out with my friends then he brought me to this park and choked me and started punching me then thats when i had enough and left so babygurl leave now before it gets to that point trust me even if you do love him

Answer 8

Go to the Paul Simon Song...50 ways to leave your lover.

Answer 9

YES. I WENT WITH A MAN LIKE THIS AND LOST A BABY DUE TO A RAPE A FIST FIGHT AND A TOSS DOWN 30 STEPS. YOU BETTER DUMP HIM CAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO BE ME. WHEN YOU GET THAT FEAR AND THAT ICY FEELING ALL OVER YOUR BODY AND YOU MAKE EXCIUSES FOR HIM AND HIS BEHAVIOR..IT'S SOOOOOOOOO OVER. BREAK UP WITH HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR PARENTS OR SOME ONE YOU KNOW BECAUSE SOME MEN CAN GET REAL PISSY LATER ON.

Answer 10

Yup. Big time control freak. Be very very careful with this one. These signs are not good and are not healthy.