the first question was how would you react if someone called you a bad mother.
This question, what if it was somone who was your friend, a person who you believed waas a bad mother. After she went into detail to hundreds of people of why she thought you were a bad mother. Would you attack her motherlyness or leave it alone?
2007-08-22 18:01:24 · 10 answers · asked by sara_and_cj 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
1st if someone said I was a bad mother I would think about why they would say that and what is it that they feel makes me a bad mom.
If the they are correct then there you go.. If I do not agree with them I would keep my distance and move on with my life.
My friends would not bad mouth me and talk behind my back.
So I would never be in that situation of resorting to name calling and high school games.
Surround yourself around a better class of people. You might find life not so stress full.
2007-08-23 08:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really believe in your heart that you are a good mother, than there's no need to defend yourself. I've encountered this a few times in my life in different situations where someone has said things about me that actually were far more applicable to them. Leaving the situation alone and dumping this "friend" is your best bet. Letting her see that her comments don't have an effect on you will make her lose the wind in her sails and hopefully she will drop it herself. Adding fuel to her fire by yelling and screaming and starting your own smear campaign will only spiral this situation out of control
2007-08-23 06:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would possibly ask her what gives her the right to judge me, not in a vindictive matter but just matter-of-factly, and then leave it at that with her. I would then pray about it knowing that what they have said isn't true even though it was extremely hurtful to hear.
No one has the right to judge how you mother your children when you're not being abusive to your children. There's a great bible verse that states, "Why do you see the speck in your neighbor's eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?"... seems to me this applies here.
2007-08-23 01:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a dream that my grandmother called me a bad mother. I woke up crying and was really depressed for months because of it. I am not a bad mother, I do my best not perfect my no means but still stuff like that hurts bad.
2007-08-23 01:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and excuse myself. A real friend wouldn't call you a bad mother but might bring up concerns. I wouldn't stoop to their level and badmouth them though. That makes you like them.
2007-08-23 01:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would think that she is projecting her feelings about herself onto me to avoid taking responsibility. Attacking or even talking about it with her is not likely to make a difference.
2007-08-23 01:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by future dr.t (IM) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone.
In one ear and out the other. just stay away from people like that.
2007-08-23 03:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont know what i would do. I would like to think that i would probably not bring myself to her level and walk away - realistically i'd probably have a go back
2007-08-23 01:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kylie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would dump this person they are not your friend and move on with my life and my real friends
2007-08-23 01:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋