My brother just punched me for a really stupid reason and my mom isnt doing anything, HELP! what do i do?

Question

The phone was ringing and he told my friend i wasnt home and i was all like: "dont hang up im home!!" and he was all like 'f you' and then he punched my face (i have really sensitive skin and it will bruise)and my mom was standing right there in the middle of it and didnt do anything.

SHE NEVER DOES ANYTHING WHEN HE PHYSICALLY HURTS ME!! I dont want to call the police because i have enough to do with them with custody issues but i think he needs anger management?

he always beats on me when his life is going wrong which it always is, and he is way the hell bigger than me and older by only one year. What can i do about this? I'm serious about this, i feel like my life is in danger and there is no one out there to help me. My mom just shrugged it off, thats it and my face is frikkin stinging!!

WHAT CAN I DO? WHO can i get to come see him, im serious he has problems and i dont know why he takes his problems out on me but its horrible its like living in an abusive, negative hell

Can i file charges against him or get a restraining order?? what can i do?

I did hit him back but it doesnt work in the long run.

it might be abit late to add this but i just turned 14 this year.
Thanks everyone for all ur info so far! its helped so much! just showing my brother all the help im getting from this post is already making him sorta feel bad.

Answer 1

take a crap in his pillowcase.

your mum needs a smack in the head, people like that shouldn't have kids.

also you should practise martial arts, after about 2 yrs your brother will be no longer a problem you'll own him.

in the mean time you need to think smart. Find something that you can have over him even if you need to create the situation yourself. then use that as blackmail to prevent him doing anything to you. don't feel bad about this as it is a nessacary defence an is no where as bad as what he does. Think along the lines ofsomething that'll really stuff him up if it got out like, he cheated on his girlfriend or something to do with his job (just rough ideas).

oh and don't forget your mum, she needs to be punnished as well, but focus on the task at hand first.

good luck mate.

Answer 2

First of all don't be scared you need to talk to your mother to do something about it or you will. If that doesn't work go live with your dad or a relative who will help you. He shouldn't be hitting girls how old are you? Don't stay quite about it tell some one who will help you and give advice on what to do. You don't have to put up with it because that is a form of abuse and your mother might need help too cause she allows it she is countable. Go to a local good fellowship church who will do you the favor to talk to him and your mom it sounds your mother might be scared of him. He can get out of hand if he is not stopped you have every right to call the cops for hurting you I bet he won't do it again but will your mom support you or not . Learn some self defense and hit him back where it hurts see how he likes that do you think your mom will stop you or act like nothing happened? When they call for him don't give him the phone tell them he don't live their any more and hang up. Your mom is ignorant for not helping you and not stopping him. But yes there are people who will help you and some times it's the law no guy or man should hit a women or a girl. Pray for God to remove him away from the house hold but if there is some one where you can go live with who can help until your mother does something about it. Don't allow your self to get hit hit back don't be scared if he gets a hold of you call the cops and tell them you were in self defense cause he wouldn't stop hitting you. Also let them know it's been happening for a long time but your mother never did anything about it. There's allot of children of all ages who die cause of abuse all it takes is one wrong hit so think about it it's your life if you don't care enough for it who will? obviously not even your mother.
god bless you and take care.

Answer 3

Ok well it all really depends on how old you are. Look I now it sounds wrong but hey thats how our government works. But if you are 18 or he is 18 you have the right to get a order of protectence which is like a restraining order but faster to get. And it doesn't hurt talking to a city council member about this. Heck even your mother, but in a safe environment like a therapist office. I don't recommend counselors. Because don't do anything but take sides and never try to work for a mutual benefit.

Answer 4

It sounds like your mother doesn't think it's a serious problem. I suggest you sit her down and have a serious talk with her and let her know that you think it's a big problem. Tell her that if she doesn't stop him from hurting you, that you're going to go to the authorities and have them do it. That should get her attention. It can be hard for a kid to have a talk like that with their parents, but I think it'd be good if you did it. Be very serious with her, and firm.

Then if she still doesn't do anything, you might have to go to the authorities. It'd probably be more of a problem for a social worker, or someone at your school, rather than the police. You should tell them that it's not a huge deal, and you don't necessarily want them to arrest your brother or take you guys away from your Mom. But tell them that you want them to talk to your Mom for you and give her a wake up call.

Answer 5

Don't do to much drastic things like call the police or restraining order ur mom probably doesnt do anything because deep down she is scared of him or it could be because ur dad (dont get me wrong)he could have been abusive usually fighting happens in a house hold so next time he hits u hit him bck so he knows nt 2 do it again

Answer 6

There is no way to solve this without getting the authorities involved if you're under 18 Honey. I suggest you seek the help of a school counselor and/or neutral family member. That house is dangerous and both your brother and mother are committing criminal offenses. I know that's hard to hear, but your mother's job is to protect you, and she's not doing that. Please seek help now. If you're both living in that house, a restraining order won't do anything, and you can't get one without involving the courts. Do it before you end up in the hospital. It will also force your brother to get some help.

Answer 7

Don't blame your mom, she may not be strong enough to stop him. Sometimes interfering only makes the situation worse. I had 2 older brothers and an older cousin that used to punch me all the time. After a few swift kicks to you know where and hitting them in the head with bottles, wrenches and whatever else I could find, they learned not to bully me. If your going to fight mean buisness, or you could try getting someone else to give him a whooping. I would only involve social services and the police as a last resort. Just last week my brother fliped me over his shoulder, I turned around and punched him right in the mouth. He will think twice before trying that again. If he knows you are afraid of him it will only get worse. ;-)

Answer 8

you have a mark if there is child custody problems it won't hurt you you and whatever child or just you whatever the unstated case is will go into protection if the parent doesn 't stop the abuser they may as well be doing the hitting and it is illegal to let this happen.if you are a kid call 1 800 9999999 and if you are an adult go to a shelter for battered women he is like on drugs or like was said needs anger management. police can arrange it.

Answer 9

You need to call the police. If you have coustdy problem with coustdy issues will only get worse if anyone finds out you live with an abusive person and don't do anything about it. Press charges, let him know it isn't ok.

Answer 10

Sit down and talk. You need to tell your mom how you feel. If she doesn't do anything, talk to an adult you trust like a guidance teacher. However, keep the fact that it's normal for brothers and sister to fight in mind. Also, you should talk to your brother. DONT hit him back! That can only make problems worse.