I've always been kind of a loner (grew up an only child) and now I'm moving away to college to live with a roommate. I'm very nervous about this. I doubt my roommate will like me because most people my age like to party and I dont. What should I do?
2007-08-22 17:13:36 · 9 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I went away to college the same way. Guess what? I met a whole bunch of people who didn't party, and we hung out at the library sometimes until 2 or 3 in the morning, met at coffeeshops and had deep discussions, and did service projects and hosted on-campus concerts.
The great thing about college is that there is something for everybody, and you're definitely going to find a group that matches your thinking.
2007-08-22 17:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you do not have to be a party animal to have friends in college. I made friends at lunch, we had friendly card games going, and people came and went at their leisure. Games are a good way to make casual friends, and you don't have to talk much.
Join clubs, socialize with people who do not have beer busts. Make it known to friends that you hang at a particular coffee house, and say they can come sit with you if they like.
It is a smart thing, to make rules with the roommate right away. Peace and quiet after a certain time at night, no parties or friends over at study time, no overnight guests, like that. You will be glad you did, it is much harder to wait until it happens, than to talk about it now. I see so many questions here about bad roomates and what should they do about it!
and you will find out now what a roommate is all about, if they are a party animal, best to know now, and then you can have a foot race with the roomie to see who can go apply for a new room mate the fastest! Loser has to do the moving out, LOL.
Good luck at college, mind the party rules if you plan on trying out the party scene. Do not drink anything you did not see prepared, and do not eat anything, either. Take a trusted friend, and agree to watch out for each other, do not leave each other's sight all eve. And arrange for safe transportation. Do not carry a purse, no shoes that you can't run in, and if you have to walk home, well, don't.
2007-08-22 17:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very far from being alone, so don't worry.
You don't have to party if you don't want to, but it is healthy to sociate with people from time to time. If for nothing else, basic social skills will make it easier to deal with the job-world when you're older.
So, my suggestion is this: Find a club that related to one of your hobbies or subjects in school. That way, you'll meet people, make friends (good friends can mean more for you than a good bank account) and you'll get a little variation into your life, wich is good too.
If your roomate is a real party animal, just ask him to be quiet when he comes home during the night, and you'll have no problem at all.
Who knows, maybe you should go to a party on campus and see how you'll like it. Just remember to go with someone you trust, and for that, joining a club is ideal.
Have fun at college.
2007-08-22 17:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Georgina Elin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will find others like yourself who would rather stay in than go out and party. No need to pretend to be something your not and end up acting a fool at a frat party. That said, stick to your guns and don't let people intimidate you, but don't be afraid to go out and try new things too. This doesn't mean go out and rip 10 shots your first night out, but you might find that you enjoy socializing and having a drink or two. Good luck in school! :)
2007-08-23 05:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Monica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about a situation that hasn't happened yet.
You don't know what "most people" are going to be doing at this college your attending so don't JUDGE it until you get there.
College is filled with people of ALL AGES and all types.
IF your roomate IS a partier? She won't be around so you won't be seeing her much and she won't even have time to think about you.
You will LOVE college. You will fit in fine and do just fine. It is a whole new world and you will blossom there. If your shy? You won't be after College i can guarantee you that!
2007-08-22 17:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give your roommate a chance. Give yourself a chance. You can have a social life without becoming a falling down drunk.
Be prepared that life away from home will be different. Don't fight all of it, but give yourself permission to live differently. That doesn't mean a massive change, but lighten up on yourself. People will be different, but they will also be interesting.
2007-08-22 17:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by brian s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your like my dad. focus on your studies and some clubs. frat parties..a lot of hazing and sexual crap goes down and the majority ..is not positive. i went to a frat party in Philly and i went with my bf who knew friends but i was slipped a roofie and luckily my bf found me upstairs,10 min later in bathroom.. meds and roofies don't mix. so keep to yourself and you will be fine. find some other people who are on scholarships and keep away from parties. you will be fine.sometimes colleges let you trade up roomies
2007-08-22 17:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to think of the nervousness as excitement. they're going to be the best years of your life.
2007-08-22 17:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are people like you in college dude.......thats whats cool about college :D you can find people that are like you and sh1t.
2007-08-22 17:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋