I barely have any friends, I go out and my mom gets upset that I come home at 4am, she doesn't like me staying overnite places (i drink when i go out so sometimes i don't want to drive home). I'm in the house Mon-Friday morning to night, sometimes not even setting foot outside. I feel like there's so many things that i want to do. I want to meet new people, I want to see and grow into the person I am w/o having to worry about my mom or family being critical of my every move. I'm feeling stuck right now- like everyone else is being active in life and being content (even though there are responsibilities). I need to move out!! I make roughly a little over 1,000 a month. I can rent out a room for $500. It's just taking that big step to finally say, ok, I'm doing my own thing. I need some advice...please. Am I being too critical here?
2007-08-22 17:10:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HONEY!!!! u r sooooo ready to get out there on ur own and when u do i promise u r gonna say what the hell was i waiting for...
mom needs to cut that umbilical cord...
u need to spread ur wings and fly away from that nest...
n when u do, have a "i am free!!! PARTY!!!"
remind mom she did her job well raising u n it is time!
also remind her that u will still come back to her when u need advice n when u r down and in need of one of her hugs...
she will always be there for u, that's what moms r for...
there can be no courage without fear...
TAKE THAT LEAP OF FAITH!!!
if God gave u a vision, He will give u the provisions...
2007-08-22 17:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I say save up your money. I mean I'm sort of in the same position though I don't have a job, don't drink and sort of going to school and have loans to pay back after a while. But yea I want to travel and see the world too, but my folks say that I'm too young. Just 20 and all that. But still I say you should save up as much money as you can. Since you aren't paying for anything and for places on the net to stay. As you said you can get a sleeping room or something for 500 bucks. I say save up to that amount first and then come up with a pro and con list of actually moving into the sleeping room. If you find there are still more cons then don't move yet, get on the computer look up some nicely affordable places. Check them out when you do go out. Then when you find a nice one save up for that then do the pros and cons list again. You may have to do this several times until you find a place that is worth living in and when you feel you can take care of yourself enough too. Good luck to you.
2007-08-22 17:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am 23 and i started out on my own at 20. It's hard but you can do it. Sit down and calculate all the bills such as utilities and rent. Shop around for apartments, check them out. They have apartments that are nice that go by your income search for them. Start getting things for your apartment. Catch the sales. Don't worry about furniture right away. Check to see if anyone is giving furniture away. Starting out you have to be cheap. I didn't have cable, Internet , or a phone like I do now! But I made It I work two jobs when I was living alone but know my boyfriend and i live together. I don't like the roommate thing. But he drives trucks so he is never there. Having your own is so much better but be careful. You will have to cut down on your wants and focus on your needs.
2007-08-22 17:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by ladydeneice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if your 24 and have a job and can afford to move out then do it. As long as your under your parents roof its their rules. Its time to grow up and if your ready and willing then you should. Maybe they are just as frustrated that your still at home but arent willing to tell you. Before you make that leap to a 500 dollar room you need to consider food, utilities, insurance, gas, clothing and so forth maybe a cheaper place until you know for sure what you can afford
2007-08-22 17:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get a better job, you can't make it spending half your income on rent. When you are making twice what you are now, find a nice apartment and get a roomate. You are old enough to move out, I know its scary but the only way you will become your own person is to do so.
2007-08-22 17:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely need to get out of the house and get a hobby but be realistic about your finances. $1000/mo will not cover rent plus utilities. think about getting into a roommate situation. Also think about getting a better job. If all else fails go back to school!!!
2007-08-22 17:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Caryn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tomorow just look in the paper for a place to live.When you get your own place you will feel this surge of relief and freedom. Just DO it.
2007-08-22 18:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your going to have to move out to have your life.
Your parents are tryig to look out for you and have started controlling your life.
Good Luck and Take Care.
If you someone to talk with I'm here.
2007-08-22 17:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋