That I'm not just someone to play with but someone to look after her and keep her out of harm's way? Cuz if I remove her from anything that's dangerous or harmful or she can break(like computer), she screams bloody murder and I'm the only one she does this to. She doesn't have any full time mother or father and my mom raises her.
So how to put a stop to this? I just pick her up and put her out of the room and try to give her a toy or whatever but she just sits there and throws a temper tantrum and my parents think I'm torturing her until they come and see us.
I am sick of this!
2007-08-22 16:59:25 · 6 answers · asked by Inferna Dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way she's 2
2007-08-22 16:59:39 · update #1
Her mom is a drug addict, wants nothing to do with her kids.
Her dad is too lazy.
2007-08-22 17:13:30 · update #2
Start giving her time outs when she cries.
I know some people think that she is too young for time outs but that is the perfect age to start. She will begin to understand very shortly.
I would pick her up when she cries and then set her down either in a corner or on a step stool, kneel down to her level & explain calmly that you were helping her & whenever she acts like that she will sit in timeout for 2 minutes. She will not know the concept of 2 min yet but that is why you should set a timer. (remember most microwaves have a timer if you don't have one) She will begin to see how long 2 min is with the timer. Make sure that timeout is secluded away from toys/TV etc. Put her down, set the timer and walk away.
She will prob. cry & scream. and probably even run out of the spot. Walk her or carry her back and tell her if she gets up again the time will start over. Keep at her and after a while she will grab onto the concept that she can't have everything her way. It will suck at first but either way she is screaming. At least this way she will learn.
If you ask her when she cries or is bad, "you want a timeout?" You must follow through or it will be pointless.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 17:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by CRAZYGIRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound like youre on the right track by removing your niece from places and things she shouldnt be in to! I am raising my grandson. My daughter helps a lot with hernephew. It is really tough! See, we have already had OUR kids. Just like your mom and dad. In a way they might be over protective and it is easy to blame you for the tantrums and screaming. My grandson is 2 yrs old! He is special needs because both his parents did drugs and abused him. So he is a BIG challange! HE is ALWAYS into EVERYTHING. I run run run all day! When he gets into things and I catch him doing it, I remove him from it and try to distract him with something else! Yes I seem to over react when other people are home and helping with him and he throws a fit. Guess I dont really know why I do that. My family is just trying to help me! Talk to your folks! Maybe they will listen to you. Your a BIG sweetie for being such a helper! I know how tuff it is to take care of someone elses baby!
2007-08-22 17:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by tpettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol shes 2 you should expect this. My son is 15 months old and does this. Its a phase they get over it. Let her kick and scream and have her fit dont give into her she doesnt understand that your doing it so she doesnt get hurt or break something. Now if she was 6 doing it then I'd have had a different answer..Enjoy her now hon because when you blink she'll be grown. I remeber it like yesterday my nephews where born and they are now 16&17
2007-08-22 17:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's what 2yr olds do. This is a baby and cannot possibly understand what you are doing for her. Get some books about 2yr olds and learn something about this age. Its really stressful for some kids, and she doesn't know about her mom and dad, she's a baby.
2007-08-22 17:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All 2 year olds do this. Thats why they call it the terrible 2's. Just keep protecting her and be consistent.
2007-08-22 18:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, she needs a mother!!
and why dont you just send her back to her family? or just let your mom keeps raising her, but you have to stay clear that you are not going to do that anymore!
she is 2 and i dun think she will understand what you are trying to do.. but it takes time however..
well goo luck to you!
2007-08-22 17:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋