is this rude?

Question

i was talking to my dad he lives in Ohio and i live in California which is about 2,000 miles away from Ohio and i only get to see my dad once a year in the summer time. Anyways me and dad were talking on the phone and then all the sudden his girlfriend Linda beeps in on the other line.My Dad was like "i have to go Linda is on the other line" Dads girlfriend Linda lives 3 miles away from my dad so she gets to see him all the time. But i live Far and i hardly ever get to see him. Plus i'm the pne paying long distance charges to talk to dad. do you think my dad was rude?i wasnt even talking that long to him we talked for 10 minutes plus he was telling me he'd call me back i waited all night and my dad never called back

Answer 1

I DO BELIEVE THAT WAS RUDE. Make him call u so he pays for the long distance charges

Answer 2

Well maybe u should juss talk to ur dad and tell him how u feel I mean there is no way thatu all can work thru the issue if he knows nothing about it so juss say dad I really need to talk to u something has been bothering me and tell him that u feel that while u r here that he should spend more time with u instead of putting u off for his girlfriend that he sees all the time and that u dont appreciate it when he lies to u and says that he will call u back and doesnt and I am pretty sure that he will stop doing those things for the sake of his child and for the sake of the relatioship that the 2 of u have good luck

Answer 3

Don't judge so harshly - just yet.

There are a hundred reasons why that might have happened. Linda called and he said he would call you back, right? Maybe they spoke longer than expected, the door bell rang, the dog got out, the dishes had to be done then maybe when he webt to call you, it was late.

Call you dad, and let him know how you feel. Tell him half jokingly, "hey, you owe me a call - you never called me back when Linda called. You said you would. You call me next time."

Then ask him to book a day he will call you so you don't miss his call. If he doesn't call, then call him again and let him know his calls are important to you and that you want to be able to rely on him calling when he says he is going to.

Give him a chance before you get mad at him. Let him know how you feel. Ok?

Answer 4

Yes that was very rude BUT you should tell him how you feel by saying. "Dad when I am calling long distance and you get off the phone with me I feel sad, rejected, last on your list because I don't live close and don't get to see you often. . . or however it made you feel. . ..make very sure you use when you do this "I feel this" If you say YOU MAKE ME FEEL that is harder to accept and is accusing. Always use I statements. By telling him you don't bottle it up and get angry and it come out later and he will wonder what the heck is going on. So take care of your feelings right away so it does not eat at you. He should understand this. If he doesn't let him call on his dime.

Answer 5

Maybe it was an emergancy and thats why he had to go and did not call you back. He could have fallen asleep and forgot to return your call. My SD lives with her biological mom most of the yr now and my husband will tell her he'll call her back if something comes up and sometimes he forgets. He's not trying to be rude or make my SD feel as if she's not loved he just forgets, falls asleep or gets busy doing something and when he remembers hes supposed to call her back its to late she'd already be in bed. Give your dad some slack I know it bothers you but you dont know what the other call was about.

Answer 6

You have to let him know how you feel if you don't it will eat you up inside. And the weird thing about your story is I live 20minutes away from dad and only see him every once in awhile but when I ask him to do something he say "I will see it depends on if Linda is coming in to town or not." But we live in KS. So I really know how you feel.

Answer 7

Since we don't really know why your Dad felt that there was such an urgent problem that he had to take Linda's call, we can only think that it had to be something very serious.
Whatever you do, don't let this incident keep you from contacting your Dad.

Answer 8

Sorry - but it sounds like maybe you have learned one of the reasons why your folks aren't together.
Meanwhile just try to remember that you don't know all of the background - you don't know if Linda had a particular problem and needed his assistance or if she just wanted to talk. Hold on and try to forget it until you know its a real pattern of behavior.
but then all you can do is accept his faults and love him anyways. None of us are perfect or go thru life without hurting the ones we love.

Answer 9

Yes that was rude on your father's part and his girlfriends .

I would not call your dad next time, if he asks why he has not heard from you, tell him the reason ...

Maybe he will understand that Family is thicker than Water ( girlfriends ) and realize that You are More important than his
girlfriend.

Answer 10

Sorry to say, but yes, i do think that your father was rude. He should have continue talking to you even if his girlfriend was calling him. You are his daughter. You share the same blood. But not his girlfriend. You should be more important to him.

Moreover, he should have call you back. What he did was wrong. You should talk to him about how you feel ok?

Good luck!

Answer 11

Has he done it before? If not, maybe there was an emergency and he couldn't call back. If he has done it before, it was rude and you should really tell him how it made you feel. Some people are pretty self-centered and don't think about how their thoughtlessness affects other people. Also, next time call him collect.