I was having sex with a guy I was dating. I had never done IT before but I was trying to lossen my morals with him I suppose? With this guy it was the opposite case, he had been in the process of improving himself before he met me, morally where he stood on casual sex I'm not exactly sure............but he had become more religious and had stopped sleeping around. We were unable to really become more serious and eventually I had to come clean. I felt what I was doing was wrong. He felt uneasy about it too for other reasons, I just wonder if I should have let morality guide me or if morality is outdated or what? It was bothering me alot before we talked................we are still friends, that I'm thankful for. I just wonder if I really did the right thing, he seems fine either way but I miss the phisical so much. Alot of people do friends with benies, but I see him as more than just a bed buddy. Do you think our friendship will be better without the phisical?
2007-08-22 16:34:43 · 7 answers · asked by candiecorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well to be honest is up to both of you. well more of him. If you really want him back you should tell him if you can both work something out. I think that you did nothing wrong with not going with your morals i am sure you are old enought to know those things since you are having sex. Well i think that just tell him what you really feel and see what happens is better you tell him now then never because then you will wonder what if you would of said something.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 16:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be. I mean he can be someone much more genuwine to you now. Sex only gets people used when they don't trully care for the person in that way. Not to mention the fact that you said you are both trying to get your life back together in the right way. You both would feel like hypocrites if you went back to sex like that. You would have lied to each other and mainly yourselves. I know most people can live with that sort of thing. But the real reason why people have morals in the first place is to have a set of guidelines they live by and stick to. If you can't stick to your own word and say this is the person that I am because I feel and believe this way or that way, then you and him would be in a world of trouble. So be greatful you have a decent friend now, they are so hard to come by these days. And if you want the physical so much, then maybe you should invest in a toy or two. And he should actually talk more to a priest or something, if he is working on religious stuff. You both have to do things to help yourselves. Because soon or a later things will work out for the better.
P.S. Never compromise what you believe in just to make someone else happy. If you keep loosening your morals for every guy or girl that comes along, and its sad to say this, but you would be one of those people that fall for anything and stand for nothing. So use your brain babe, and determine what is best for you first and foremost and then someone else.
2007-08-22 16:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would let him know how much you really care about him. That you are more than willing to accept him just the way he is & accept his moral standings on certain issues. If you really care about him, become a good friend. The best marriages are based on good friends first, & the other aspects of life kinda fall into place as time goes by. If you really do care about him, let go of the physical part of things for the time being. This w/let you really get to know one another better & actually you'll be able to builf on a good firm relationship. I feel this is most important in the beginning anyway. Just take things a day at a timek & get closer in that way. This w/give you an idea too just how much he really means to you alsollll
2007-08-22 16:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether morals are outdated or not, it doesn't matter what other people think. You need to do what is right for you. If you are not ready for the physical relationship, that's perfectly fine. Don't let what you think other people are doing dictate your own relationships. Whatever happens with this guy, you should keep communication open. The only way you will be comfortable with any relationship is if you are honest with yourself and your partner.
2007-08-22 16:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morality has never or should never be considered outdates.
You followed your heart and the morals you've been taught.
great for you, don't let outside pressures ever persuade you in a direction other than where you want to go.
2007-08-22 16:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you gave it up to the wrong guy.
2007-08-22 16:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn`t being doing it if your not sure .
2007-08-22 16:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by ♥bbyLin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋