Had I of known a broken heart would hurt this much I never would have gotten into the relationship to begin with. I'm just so tired of feeling this way. I'm tired of crying & feeling so hurt all the time. I'm tired of missing him. I think of him constantly. He was my everything. I want to let go & to move on, but this has been the hardest thing I've EVER had to go through. When will it be over?
2007-08-22 16:34:42 · 10 answers · asked by goingxunder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depending on the intensity of your relationship, if something bad happened during the realtionship, and the severity of the breakup, it could take a short time or a really long time. just remember, there is NO TIMETABLE. My parents wanted me to stop feeling blue after a month, my friends gave me a few months to feel better, but in all honesty, its up to YOU when this will be over. Unfortunately, it took a therapist for me to see that the person who decides when it will be over, is you.
Ah, whatever you do, DO NOT get back with him and get your feelings for him all over again--trust me, i did it, and it took my coping process even longer to happen. If the breakup was recent, then dont feel bad for feeling bad. see, i felt bad FOR FEELING BAD, but its a natural thing. you lost someone you really cared for. Take however long you need to get over him. But let me tell ya, once you start dating again, it'll seem shaky to be with someone else, but after a little while, its absolutely amazing. take your time now to discover yourself, and make yourself better. improve yourself in every way possible, like taking up a new hobby. but remember how beautiful and amazing you are (and that you were blessed to have someone you cared about, and cared about you, too!) remember: he is taking it just as, if not MORE SO, hard than you are, as well. so its not liek its just you thats sad. take care :)
2007-08-22 16:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Gators08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can heal a broken heart. You will survive without this person. Rely on your friends and family for a while. Find something you really enjoy doing, even without him. One day you will learn why you were with him in the first place. You will learn something about yourself and you will grow as a person. Yes, you're going through a mourning period right now because of the loss of the relationship you had. And you will one day find something better on so many levels. Don't worry about how long it will take. One day it'll just dawn on you that you're not as hurt as you used to be. And one day you're realize that it's better to be hurt for a while than to never have experienced the amazing feeling it is to be in a relationship.
Take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. It will get better. Your heart will heal. Hugs!
2007-08-22 16:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is that thing about it taking half the time you two dated will be how long it takes to get over him. But I think that is a little silly. You just have to do what is best for you. Take your mind off him by taking up a new hobby, reconnecting with old friends, making new friends, reading a book you've haven't had time for, start going out and looking for someone else if you are interested in that, but most importantly do things that make you happy. Take care of yourself is the best advise I have. And believe me, it'll take time, but you'll get over it.
2007-08-22 16:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by ShoreD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. It gets tiring picking yourself up all the time. I think you gotta find something that is rewarding to you. Like i play the guitar. So i channel all my energy into it and i've actually improved so much since i broke up. Distance yourself from the hurt first by keeping yourself occupied, then accept the fact that its happened, get over him and move on. SIncerely i wish you all the best.
2007-08-22 16:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by jon t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u neva stop loving someone and when u have loved someone for so long and then u and that person break up it will hurt but it cant be over until u let it be over if u seriously want things to end then u have to let go I know that it will be hard but u juss have to stick with it and be consistant good luck
2007-08-22 16:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by SexieIndianPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say when your pain will end, but trust me when I say it will. And then you'll be able to look back at the experience without hard feelings. It's hard when your heart gets broken, but just remember the good times. The bad will disappear.
2007-08-22 16:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take weeks, or it can takes years, sadly. My heart goes out to you! Good luck getting over it. Seek help from your friends and family in the hardest times.
2007-08-22 16:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Larryboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,,,there is never a sure thing in love...You need to move on and put this and him behind you....Trust me,,,If it is over then you really need to find something to occupy yourself with until you can find the right guy for you.
2007-08-22 16:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, dont dwell on him forever. there are much better people out there and i suggest you stop crying about a guy that might never be coming back, and go find a better guy. good luck!
2007-08-22 16:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by -mary; the one and only. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find a replacement.
2007-08-22 16:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Bacse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋