Okay guys help me out! A new guy friend has been flirting with me, talking to me all the time, sharing lunch w/me, touching me, gave me his number (but we've only talked on the phone briefly twice), looks into my eyes when speaking, asks friends about me,etc. Then we have drunk sex. I am 10 yrs older & was married at the time & we work together. A few days later he says he just wants to be friends & that I'm a great girl but it's complicated-age, work, etc. I'm no longer with my husband-for other reasons- and we've been hanging out here & there. My friends seem to think he's into me & people thought we were having sex way before we actually did. Now that I'm separated, things are weird. One minute he's like he was in the beginning, the next minute-who knows. Does he maybe like me more than he wants to admit? Or was I a one night stand. Help please!
2007-08-22 16:14:54 · 17 answers · asked by baffled 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and our mutual friend from work seems to be interfering a little. It's almost like maybe he likes me & is trying to get the other guy out of the picture. He keeps saying things to me like, "Oh, he's too young for you. You should forget about him & concentrate on helping me find a woman." & weird stuff like that. He also shows up when me & my guy friend are talking. What a freak! lol
2007-08-22 16:25:10 · update #1
Please don't judge me-I know I shouldn't have done what I did when I was married-I never did anything like that before in the 13 years we were together. I'm not a slut.
2007-08-22 16:33:06 · update #2
Well you said you was married at the time you had sex, he probably decided it wasn't a great idea getting involved with a person who is married. Now that you single he probably doesn't know what the next step to take. I guess the most practical way to know is flat out just ask him. You cant be in limbo waiting on someone who has no commitment's other then just for some drunken sex. There are to many other men out there waiting for a solid relationship.
2007-08-22 16:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by recyclebin66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may like you more than he is willing to admit. The thing is he seems caught up on the age thing. There is really no way around it that I know of and lord knows I have tried twice. Just be nice to him but not to nice. Flirt with him just a little to let him still know you are into him and see where it goes from their. He may have used you as a one night stand but it is clear that he thinks you are a pretty woman. The only way to know is to lay low and flirt a little and be nice to him. Show him you like him and are interested in him but not all into him. Then see how he reacts to you when you are around.
2007-08-22 23:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to admit it, but for someone who so readily said that it would be too complicated to have a relationship with you after he had sex with you, i think you could have just been used. Most people are like that, everything is an object to them, once you get what you one you look for something new. Suck it up and move on. Gd luck!
2007-08-22 23:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by jon t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's one of two possibilities. You are either a notch on his bedpost, so to speak, or he's feeling guilt. Guilt would be over the fact that you were married before. No, it doesn't matter that you are no longer with your husband now, nor does it matter the reason why you're no longer with him. There could be guilt over the act anyway.
Like I said, they are possibilities. It all depends on whether he had any real feelings for you or if it was all lust.
2007-08-22 23:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's only playing. I also think your actions toward him could have been more mature and responsible. Don't mean to be harsh, but the choices you've made have contributed to your present dilema. If you can't gauge him then don't wage him. So work on self improvement and your gratification will come when you happen upon someone who's a mature benefit for you...take care...
2007-08-22 23:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ezel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced the same thing once before, i left it at one stand. really the only reason i did.I didn't like her. i thought it would be fun to have sex with her, she was sexy, smart and really good looking. but after it happened i just changed my mind, i kinda got what i wanted, so there was no reason to further complicate things.i didn't do it to be mean, it just didn't turn the way i thought it would. AND We're still friends to this day.Things might have been different had i continued to persue or date her after our drunken fun.He could also be affraid of you, i personally wouldn't want to be with someone who cheated on her husband.
2007-08-22 23:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I would say f^ck it and move on to someone else. If he wants you he will pusue. This time don't give it up until you know what it is and if it's suitable for you.
Sounds to me like he has you categorized as a piece. If you're comfortable with that let him know. If not do as I said.
2007-08-22 23:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by honesthustler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ask you to married him. If not it a one night stand when ever he want sex. There is no love here.
2007-08-22 23:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Questionable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i would know is to ask the guy. if he said the "just friends thing" after he got some... that might be what he was going for, or he is really unsure what he wants.
2007-08-22 23:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he did like u and wanted 2 develop a relationship but drunk sex changes a lotta things sometimes
2007-08-22 23:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋