ok is this wrong?

Question

Well i am 16 and i want to have a baby...but then i dont want to because i dont want to miss the fun days and the partys?
please help?

Answer 1

Just wait.

You can't be partying when your a mom, so get that out of your system first.

Answer 2

I think that it is a much smarter idea to wait until you are married in a loving relationship so the baby has a mother and a father. Also you should make sure that you have enough money to support the baby and all of your other expenses (so you need a good, steady paying job). The baby is going too need a lot of care and nurturing that you may not be able to offer him or her, because you are still a child yourself. You may not even be totally physically mature until you reach about eighteen so it will be very tolling on your body. You are still young and have many years ahead of you that will probably be full of stress, drama, and other such problems. A baby before you are ready for it (not saying you aren't necessarily) would only add to this. There will be plenty of time to have as many children as you want later on, but you aren't even legally an adult yet, you don't want to be stuck at home everyday and night when all of your friends are out having fun, or having to pay outrageous babysitting prices so you can go out too. Wait until the circumstances are better, it will come soon enough. (And I'm not an adult telling you that you're too young, I'm 15, and I know I am). Be smart and safe. Best of luck.

Answer 3

I don't think you need a baby. Not at 16.

It's nice that you want one, because you will clearly be a good parent, and you are clearly looking forward to eventually becoming one.

But, sweetie, wait until you are married, in a house or apartment, and make sure you have a comfortable life before trying to create one for a new life.

A baby is a HUGE responsibility. Not to say that you haven't thought about this, clearly you have, but if you have a baby right now, you will be missing out on a LOT of fun high school and college days.

I totally understand wanting one; I'm 14 and CAN'T WAIT to be a mom one day. Just wait. Trust me. It will be all the sweeter if you do.

Answer 4

Well I can think of more reasons why NOT to have a baby at 16:

*You're still in high school.
*It will be much harder to have a good job that will support you and your baby when you haven't gotten your high school diploma.
*You'll want to have a partner/spouse who will support you and the baby
*You WILL miss out on the fun of being a teenager with your teenage friends
*You have a lot of other things in life to experience first
*You probably cannot financially support yourself right now. It will be even harder when you have another to support.
*You will grow up and look back and perhaps wonder why you didn't wait
*Financially when you're older, you'll be able to take care of yourself and your baby easier. Not just living paycheck to paycheck, but having a long term financial goal. Like money for once your child goes off to college or for when you retire (so that you don't have to work until you die).
*It's not all about you.... it wouldn't be fair for the baby for you to "decide" to have one when you're up in the air about having a baby or not wanting to miss the fun days and the parties.
*AND when your baby is 16 and says that she wants to have a baby, you can tell her that you were once there and you chose not to because you wanted to give her a better life.


Not to put a damper on your desire to have a baby, but you're still young. You should just go out and be a teenager. You'll have plenty of time later to settle down and be a responsible parent... when you're older.

Answer 5

If you still want to party, do not bring a child into the situation. You will risk losing the child to the state. Most people cannot handle a child at 16, look into parenting classes and try to find a place that will allow you to try a false pregnancy pillow for a while, then try to tend one of the baby dolls that cry and wet and act like a real baby. This will show you if you are truly ready to handle the responsibility. Also talk to others who have gone through this already, there is not one out there that will tell you it was easy.

Answer 6

Enjoy the fun days and the partys. You can always have a baby and you will do a much better job as a parent after you have had the fun and enjoyed your youth. You will wind up blaming the baby for all you have missed and both you and the baby will suffer. You have gobs of time, enjoy the age you're at. The right time will come for the baby.

Answer 7

When I was your age, I remember thinking I wanted a baby too. Now that I am older and know what it takes to raise a child, I am so thankful that I never got pregnant then. You will have plenty of time to have children in your future. Maybe try babysitting - then you can get a "baby fix" and still be able to do all the "fun stuff" you don't want to miss out on.

Answer 8

You don't want to have a baby...now...you need to wait until you are an adult, over the age of twenty-one before you even consider this.

You are not of legal age to consent to having sex until you are at least eighteen or twenty-one, so you do not have to think about being pregnant until that time.

If you do want to become a responsible parent, you have to be an adult in order to do so.

Finish high school, go to college and then think about getting married and having a family.

Think about how your parents would feel if you had a baby at this point in your life...nor a good choice.

If this will not convince you, baby sit for a few days and then you will really learn how much work it is taking care of babys and children. Party time will be over, and should be.

Answer 9

Yes its wrong! Youre only 16 years old!! You have your whole life to live ahead of you. Dont rush into things sooo fast. You need to concentrate on graduating school, going to college and having fun, get a good career and settle down with a man that can help support you and your baby. Who would support you now if you had a baby?? Theres alot of things that youre not looking into and alot of things that go along with parenting. Please dont make this mistake!! And wait until you're married and financially stable before even thinking about starting a family. Think about the baby before you think about your wants and needs you have now as a teenager!!!

Answer 10

I think you need to ask yourself why you want to have a baby? Do you want the attention? Do you crave someone relying on you all the time? Did you not have someone pay enough attention to you such as a Parent? A child is a huge responsibility. A child requires all your time. A child never got asked to be brought into this world when their mom has no time for them. Do you and your future kids a favor, get an education and a good job, so you can provide the children you plan on having a better life then what you have endured.

Answer 11

It's OK to want to have a baby. You have a long time to do that, and trust me bringing a child into this world is a huge responsibility. You need to be mature enough to make the right decisions, and 16 is just not a good age. I am not trying to make you feel like you are a little kid, but there are a lot of life experiences that you need before you can mature to the proper level of caring for a child, physically and mentally. Just wait, you have so much to do before you raise a child... there is a lot in this world for you...