I have a guy friend that I've known for awhile. Kind of "sexual" things happened between us at one point. We're still pretty good friends, however, we live far from each other. (Other states)
He calls maybe about once a week, and he talks about coming down to visit me when he gets a chance. He's made comments about having sex with each other. He admits to knowing I care for him, He admits to liking me at one point in time, yet, even when I've asked, he hasn't said his feelings for me.
I'm confused. Does, or Doesn't he like me?
2007-08-22 16:07:01 · 18 answers · asked by tinker_872006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly i feel that the attraction is purely sexual and that this continues because there is an avenue for him to obtain sexual gratification through you.
2007-08-22 16:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by jon t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget trying to interpret what he feels or wants, that's a waste of time and you might get it wrong anyway. First decide what you want and go from there. Do like him as a friend only, nothing more? Or are you attracted to him and want the sex but only casual( friends with benefits)? or do you have love type feelings for him and want a relationship and sex or without sex. Once you figure out what you, you should try to bring up this topic with him, outlining your intentions. Chances are he may be just as confused about your feelings toward him. People should just say how they feel and what they want instead of wasting times on droppings hints and playing games.
2007-08-22 23:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Renée G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's wanting sex from you and that's all.
You should probably draw the line and tell him "Hey, I like you for more than just having sex, so if you want to be with me, then do it, if not....then the sex ends here." Look, you shouldn't let someone use you like that. There's much better guys out there for you. He may talk about having sex with you, but that doesn't mean that he loves or cares about you. And what if you were to get pregnant by him? He wouldn't stay around, all he's wanting is a quick **** and then he's gone until the next time he wants to have sex. So just try to get him out of your life and put him in your past, he's not worth your time or effort if all he's wanting is sex.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 23:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Syn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he likes you as a friend ... but not in a relationship sense. A girlfriend of mine has this good friend (male) and they hang out as mates but also allow 'sexual things' as you put it. It's more than just a casual f**k-buddy cos they don't see each other just for sex. They still get along, do stuff and talk without always letting it lead to other stuff. Her words to me were - 'He's such a good mate and I think he's hot, but I'm not keen for a relationship. So basically we're good mates who help each other learn new things with sex ... but in a fun way. And I never feel embarrassed or attached cos he's my mate.' This friend of yours is obviously interested in you sexually, and maybe he is wanting to catch up more if there's a possibility of him getting some (he is male remember?) ... If you trust that he won't go blabbing about it, or making fun then maybe think about adopting the same opinion and just enjoy having some fun with a good mate. But if you've got stronger feelings for him then don't get too involved - it might jeopardise the friendship.
2007-08-22 23:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy-jo87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, guys are not all that smart - I know - I am one. And this is not true of every guy in every situation, but have you ever heard:
Guys use love to get sex
Women use sex to get love
So be careful that he is not using one thing to get the other. You can do that easily by setting the expectation of no sex - even if you need it, want it and he is great at it. See if he still calls, still comes to see you, makes that extra effort.
Good luck and guard your heart!
2007-08-22 23:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by vegasrob89118 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he admits liking you then that must mean that he likes you. But if it's only at times then that must mean that he can be unsure of it. He might not be sure if he likes you or not,maybe he is second guessing his self. You ust gotta give him time to figure it out. But mostly likely so far it seems like he likes you but all i gotta say is don't get in to deep if your unsure of his liking.
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2007-08-22 23:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by MiiSS LOVL3Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, he likes you, though it might only be for the sex. Do you ever talk about other things that are more important? If so, he might consider you a friend too.
2007-08-22 23:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he only says he likes you to mess with ur mind and then use u for a booty call but then says he doesnt have feelings for you to make sure u keep a distance away from him
2007-08-22 23:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by 2PHAT4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect a fairytale ending. A guy would say anything he has to, to get what he wants from you. He won't say his feelings for you because he doesn't have any beyond sexual ones.
2007-08-22 23:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him... He's interested in the "booty call", but not the long term comitment... He keeps you around, because you let him... He's just making sure that you are available when / if he ever comes into town... He's stringing you along...
2007-08-22 23:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by minitrail70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋