what do u do if u had a nosy mother???

Question

i was on the phone with one of my best friends and my mom picked up the phone (i didnt no) and was listenin to our conversation... me and my friend were talking bout this boy she wanted me to go out with (i'm 15) and after i hung up my mom started yelling at me for no reason she acted like the only thing i think about are boys

what should i do???

Answer 1

when it happened to me i moved out.

Answer 2

Your mom is just being a mother. Here are some things that go through a mother's mind when she realizes that her daughter is into boys
* OMG my baby is growing up
* Boys only want one thing (SEX)
* My baby is going to get attached to this guy and eventually get her feelings hurt
* I am too young to be a grandmother!!!

I really do not know your level of responsibility. Therefore, do not take this as an attack on you... These are the things that went through my mind when my daughter started dating! What I did as a mother was sit my daughter down and make talk to her to see how much she knew about boys. Some teenage girls do not realize what boys are capable of and mother's have a vivid imagination!

What you might want to do is have an open discussion with your mom. Again, I do not know how your relationship is with her and how willing she is to listen and discuss this topic with you. Maybe she is not ready for this topic to discuss with her baby... Yes I said baby... children are always a parents baby now matter how old they are... My daughter is still my baby and she is 20!
If your mother is not ready for the topic. Please please take that into consideration and tell her that you would really like to discuss the "boys" discussion with her to learn from her and to let you know when she is ready.
During this discussion, hopefully, you already realize that boys can be tricky and let your mom know this. This discussion could be uncomfortable for both of you and make the discussions short to your and your mom's comfort!
I did not let my daughter go out on a date until she was 16 and we did have short discussions about boys.

I hope this helps some... give mom some slack, she is just being a mother by nature :)

Answer 3

I had a nosy mother. She would go thru my room looking for anything wrong. Of course I knew that so I never kept anything in there. But I baited her. I left things in there to puzzle her like clothes that belonged to my friends, library books on race cars, etc. Nothing bad, but I hid them. She couldn't ask me about them without revealing she was snooping really hard. I changed the clothes and book subjects periodically. I knew she had seen them because they had been repositioned. I don't know if you can do the same on the phone, like have fake conversations. or confersations where you change the subject back and forth and make up slang,. but I bet you can if you think about it. Get your friends involved. Set her up.

Answer 4

Okay, i am 15 also, and you have to let her know that you NEED your privacy, that this is wrong and shouldn't be done, tell her if she wasn't so damn nosy then you would actually TELL her about things like this and she wouldn't have to go to the trouble of listening in on your private conversations, to know about your life. (but of course in a much nicer, calm way lol)

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Friends-With-Your-Parents
http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Heart-to-Heart-Talk-With-Your-Parents

Let her know that once she can trust you with the phone, your friends and your choices (even the smallest bit without freaking out) then you can be able to trust her with your problems and promise to be more open about everything in your life, sometimes we forget that they were kids too, and because their way wiser than us (older too lol) we should try listening to what they say.

My parents say that even if only 50% of the things that they say to me get through, then they have still done their job, they can protect you from loads of things, but there are still some things that are left for us to find out about ourselfs.

Good Luck and God Bless!
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Answer 5

Parents try to help there children so they Dont make the SAME mistakes they made in their past. Think if you have given her any reason to not trust your judgement and if you dont know *CALMLY* ask her. Conversation is Key. Let her know you are mature not by saying but by the actions you take..like not freaking out on her back. she might just be trying to protect you.
-you will never really know until you become a mother yourself.

Answer 6

I think that is a natural reaction for moms, my mom still reads my msn conversations, but i would just sit down and talk to her about it. Thats the best thing to do.

Answer 7

don't talk about that stuff on the phone
take the phone outside so she can't hear
listen for the click when the phone is picked up and just have silence on your end until she hangs up

Answer 8

ask why she was listening to begin with.. if she wanted to know tell her she coulda asked.. explain that was just one converstation.. *unless there was explicit content*

also point out that she is invading your personal space and that even criminals are given some privacy.. *well maybe dont point that out.. *

Talk to your dad about the situation.. unless you were told to wrap up the call.. or were on a time limit... she should give you some privacy to express yourself

Answer 9

well don't blame her... she's ur mom...and moms always act this way towards thier children... specially girls like u... they are so protective just like a mother lion to her cubs... or a dog to her pups... u try geeting a pup away from her mother and see wat happens... same thing goes to our moms... they will always look out for the better interest of her children... so don;t cursed her.. for sure when u grow up 2b a mom urself... u'll do the same 2 ur kids... and thats a fact.

Answer 10

You should tell her that what she did was disrespectful, and that you can't help but like boys. I mean, at 15, who doesn't? lol

Answer 11

Really, not much you can do, except tell her how it makes you feel. You don't have much longer until you can move out if it gets to be too much.