She got very angry with me for that,
It's not like I said it loudly, it just kinda slipped out.
The kid was being obnoxious, he needed to be told, right?
2007-08-22 15:06:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
LOL! That's funny! I understand why you did it, because there are some kids out there who are obnoxious. But you have to understand. Most parents are very protective, perhaps overly so, for their kids--and they won't take kindly any interference from you. And that is how she would have seen it--interference--as well as being rude. Don't worry about it. It's done and over with. Just plan on people getting mad at you if you accidentally do it again.
2007-08-22 15:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Just as it is in your power to get up and leave a situation that you don't like it is just as easy for others to do their best to make the environment palatable for the rest, specially when it involves children.
Not correcting your out of control children in public only says to your child they can do whatever they want in public without consequence.
Your having said something sure upset her because you are acknowledging her shortcomings but just as with anything else, denial is the first hurdle to overcome.
It may have not been the completely correct way to approach or correct it but having an obnoxious child (whether s/he is/not: see Hey Hey Hey's response) and/or knowing the way society works, she should always be prepared for snide remarks or teach her child to respect other people's environmental privileges.
2007-08-22 15:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by astryd13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have to bring their children into public places. I've been a Tr. for 10 yrs. U don't know the circumstances..4 all u know this poor mom has an autistic child (VERY prevalent right now). Often the best consequence for such behavior is to ignore it because their motive is usually attention seeking. U basically engaged the child which may have made her extra pissed because the child probably enjoyed your reaction/ the attention. Let her handle it. Neither she nor her son have bad intentions. Give the poor lady a break.
2007-08-22 15:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by ... 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you had issues with the child's behaviour, you should have spoken with the parent.
NEVER speak to a child you don't know about their behaviour, or anything else unless you are warning them of immediate danger.
In today's world, parents are very concerned about the safety of their child and would be alarmed at you saying anything.
To top it off, it is no business of yours how the child behaves.
If you are being caused direct inconvenience, say something to the parent. Speaking to the child directly could be considered bullying, and it is very, very rarely appropriate.
Cheers :-)
2007-08-22 16:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're right! if the kid is obnoxious and nobodys doing anything about it, you have the right to stand up! I think the lady wants to be the only one in charge of the kid, I don't think she liked strangers to tell her kid what to do. either that or the mom is obnoxious too.
2007-08-22 15:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by bella♥ 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You should have minded your own business. I had this huge amazon old woman punch my kid in the arm today (kidding around) in the grocery store because he was play swatting his older brother (not loud, one is 6 and one is 16), and I swear I don't know why she thought it was OK to do that... she hauled off and slammed my 6-year-old in the shoulder and was laughing... She must have been drunk or something but my kids and I all looked at her like WTH was THAT all about??? Reaaaally P'ed me off because I don't spank or hit my kids and here's this stranger literally hitting my kid... Long story short... you should have kept your comments or opinions to yourself... The only time you have a right to intervene is if the parent is abusing the child... otherwise, go ahead and be annoyed, but it's still not your business...
2007-08-22 16:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mercedes 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Wrong. Just because you feel the kid was being obnoxious doesn't necessarily mean the kid WAS being obnoxious. Plus, did it ever occur to you that it's not your place to tell someone elses' child to be quiet? As a parent, I would have gotten pissed off too.
2007-08-22 15:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by loveblue 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Even if you were right about the child and said "be quiet" in a non-hostile manner, what did you expect the mom to do, hug you? She knows she has no control over her child and so has chosen to ignore the behavior, and you reminded her of her short-comings as a parent.
2007-08-22 15:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because it is impolite to discipline someone elses child, no matter ho obnoxious the lurrle brat is, Unless the child is endangering himself or others everyone else is required to just keep quiet. At most you should have addressed the child's mother.
2007-08-22 15:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by babydoll 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not only is it rude, but by saying that about someone else's child while their parent is standing beside you, it makes them seem as though they are a bad parent in the eyes of others.
It's just common courtesy that you should never tell someone else's child to be quiet or tell them what to do unless you have the parent's permission.
2007-08-22 15:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋