I am 36 and 1999 was the last time I had s with a man. I can't
say the s word. I tried to release myself by m..........ing almost
everyday but it doesn't work.... I'm still hor...
Can't I just ask a man for one night stand... and then
I will be okay after that? I don't want a boyfriend or husband.
I just want to be fix down there. I am frustrated.
2007-08-22 14:32:50 · 24 answers · asked by Jagger Otto 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough one..all I can say is dil_o
2007-08-22 14:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't have a one night stand because that would only leave you feeling more empty, yeah it would satisfy you for that night but in a week or a month you'll be back to the start and then another one night stand and then another one night stand, try to find a man and get in a serious relationship where you'll be intimate or like the other person said buy you something you can use on yourself to take care of that need
hope that helps
2007-08-22 21:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by ewbandit2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrased by saying the word SEX - it's just a WORD after all...
Have you considered picking up yourself some "power tools" for the bedroom? They can be LIFESAVERS during those dry spells...
As for just having a physical relationship, I would look into setting up a personal ad - or just hitting the bar scene!
Here are three little letters that will serve you well - NSA!
As in "No Strings Attached" - by using this in your personal ad, you are stating that you are looking JUST for sex, without ANY of the hassle of a relationship (this would be the "strings" part)
And if all you're looking for is a little "servicing" by some hot young stud, then just ask around about the local hangout for "Cougars" - as in "the bar where 20 year-old guys go to check out women who are between 35-45"
Good luck - and enjoy yourself for the rest of us ;););););)
2007-08-22 21:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Ja, You want to be very careful about picking up some guy you don't know. He could be an Axe murder and you wouldn't know it until it was to late. This is not a joke you can get hurt or murder there's a lot of sick-o out in the world anymore. Get your self some kind of sex toy and see if this helps you are not. I don't know what guy in your life has hurt you so much that you don't want a BF or Husband. The Husband part i can understand that. Be careful and try to enjoy your sex life what ever way you can!!!
A Friend.
poppy1
2007-08-22 21:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by poppy1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have problems like that perhaps you should get some psychiatric help! It sounds like you may have nymphomaniac tendencies; that is a psychiatric condition which is often treatable.
BTW, it's a lot safer to use a vibrator than to go for a one-night stand! What do you have against getting married? The Apostle Paul said, "it is better to marry than to burn with passion." I Corinthians 7:9b (NIV)
2007-08-22 22:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by trebor namyl hcaeb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that you are a hoax, but I will give you the benefit of the doubt.
You might want to take down your question.
The answers so far are kindly meant but will not be helpful for you. If you leave your question up, every loser, predator, and moron who reads it will get in touch with you. I don't think that's what you want. You are an adult, and free to do as you wish, but short-term, once-only, sex-only relationships are very unsatisfying.
2007-08-22 21:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, its normal to have those urges, especially at ur age. Best thing to do...buy a battery operated friend. It sounds crude, and yes it means self fulfillment, but better than getting a disease from a one night stand, or worse...someone who is going to depend on you for the rest of your life. Then again, maybe you really do need a b/f, because u miss the intimacy of a mans touch.Good luck.
2007-08-22 21:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by li68taurus 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it the s__ itself, or is it a fear of intimacy? Did your family somehow make you feel like "down there" was dirty and naughty? Were you sexually abused?
Pleasuring yourself is perfectly alright and kind of fun. You just need to relax, maybe buy a "toy" to sort of help things along.
Have you had a relationship since 1999? That is what makes me wonder if it is a problem with intimacy or "letting go."
2007-08-22 21:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Helen T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to have urges. If you feel that your urges are not "normal" talk to your doctor, get a professional opinion. If you do decide to have a one night stand, think of the kind of person you will be with. Be very careful. Think of the risks involved, first and foremost the medical consequences. Secondly, what if you develop feelings for this person and they are under the impression that its a one night stand. Either way...protect yourself.
2007-08-22 21:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by susie2962 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to ask for a one night stand! Go out with some girlfriends, or by yourself and go to a wine bar or a bar in general. Do something you like to do, it is not hard to find someone like that. One night stand with no strings attached is what most men are looking for!!!
2007-08-22 21:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by amy elise 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh honey! I have been there many times. but you dont want to ask for it, most guys are ready for it, just go out with some friends to a club or bar, find a good looking guy and of course use protection! if you dont want a bf thats cool I can absolutely respect that but there is always a man ready to go for it.......do it girl.......make the best of it , but dont get caught ;)
2007-08-22 21:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋