i've been seeing this guy for about 6 months everything is ok... I'm not crazy about him but the time we've spent together makes me care about him... also about 8months ago I met this guy that was in town for a week and we exchanged numbers we've been in contact since he wants to come visit and ofcourse spend the time with me... how do I see him while he is in town without letting the other know???
2007-08-22 14:30:05 · 20 answers · asked by cupcake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not my "BOYFRIEND" he can't call me his girlfriend because he is going through a divorce... BLAH BLAH heard it all before.. Just trying to have my cake and eat it too. Plus how many girls have had this done to them???
2007-08-22 14:53:02 · update #1
To begin with, you are no ones property. Next, weigh the pros and cons of your current relationship and then after tallying up each side, ask yourself where you see yourself with this person in 6 months, a year, 5 years. Then do the same for the guy who is from out of town. Although the list will no doubt be shorter, give it the same merit you gave your relationship. Was there enough time with the out of town er to make a comparison? If there is, due so. You may not be crazy about your current relationship but if you care about him, in time you could learn to really love him. If the possibility exist that you don't see a long future with the current, don't beat yourself up trying to justify the possibility that you may find more in common with the out of town er. Also keep in mind, the out of town er is just that, an out of town er. He will eventually leave and you will be left behind with what you started out with. If the out of town er is only going to be in town briefly, I would be honest with your current and tell him that you are going to be spending a little bit of time with a friend who is coming into town for a short visit. Be honest with yourself and you won't have any problem being honest with him.
2007-08-22 14:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by jlsmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about is the bane of most relationship.In fact, you want to be able to keep both guys,hide the one you have been seeing for six months during the visit by the guy you met while he was visiting.You can see him without letting the other guy know by lying:1)tell the other guy that he is a family friend or a member of your family who is visiting and would require you to be with him2)Don't tell the other guy of his visit and subsequent arrival3)You can also claim you are going to be unavailable during the time the guy is in town4)Or you can tell him the truth However, I want to remind you that lies have a way of becoming public.So be careful in the decision you make or you might lose them both.
2007-08-22 21:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first are you ready to cheat on your bf? just make sure of that first so you wont make a mistake that you will later forget. the logistics of the thing shouldn't be that hard to figure out. figure out a lie that works-going shopping with your mom sleeping over a friends house, you are really sick with a stomach virus. just dont get too creative cuz you dont want him to be suspicious. finally if you like the new guy more than you should dump the old guy rather than leading him on in a relat going nowhere
2007-08-22 21:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by joeschmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're playing with fire here if you think that you can see the Out of Town Guy without letting your bf know about it! I wouldn't advise it, but I'm not you. If you choose to do so, I'm sorry that I can't tell you how to go behind your man's back. Unless...you want to see Out of Town Guy as friends. Then you can invite your man along to go with you as a fun thing.
2007-08-22 21:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
kk you dont mention da 6th month guy bein ur boyfriend so it shouldnt matter cuz you guys are not together an it really wouldnt be cheating an you met da 8th month guy first so like go out or something and dont tell anyone an just go out wit him an anywaiz if hes not from dat town you wont see him physicaly again an nobody would know so it would be like nuttin happened but just be careful.
AND DONT TELL ANYONE
2007-08-22 21:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur seeing a guy now and try to have something with that other guy u can lose the guy ur seeing now if u dont care than go ahead but my advise is dont do it tell that guy u r seeing some1 and u cant see him.
2007-08-22 21:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by indi9891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is the best policy maby you should just tell him your gonna hang around with a boy thats a friend ?
Or does that boy like you more than a friend?
'Cause if he does then you need to find what how you really feel about both of them wich one you care about more
2007-08-22 21:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Daniela17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what ur planning on doing with teh other guy coming in from town. If ur plannin on doing anything inappropriate if u know wut i mean, then u need to sneak it somehow or just pick one or the other guy.
If ur just planning on seeing him as a friend, y do u care if ur boyfriend finds out if he is JUST a friend.
So, let us know if he is a friend...or more than that?
2007-08-22 21:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let him visit you..see what is going on with you and the boyfriend first before you start dealing with 2 guys.. then it will be a big love triangle...and you don't want the drama!
2007-08-22 21:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lee-Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the new guy you just wanna be friends for now cuz u have a boyfriend. if you like him more, break up with ur bf for the other guy
2007-08-22 21:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by lana s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋