I've moved here from out of state bout 2 years ago. don't have family here except for my mom, and she's not the most popular person in the world either. everywhere I go ppl make fun of me, i'm trying to get back into college, but i don't wanna go without friends. sure college is where you go to get a social life, but if I go now (i'm 28) everyone will think i'm a loser. i've tried joining clubs, going to bars, being friendly (not outgoing) to guys at work, but somehow I just don't fit in. i joined a judo club, tried to find a bird watchers club (i know its dorky but you can't say JUST BE YOURSELF), finding others with similar interests. I was the shyest person in the world in jr high, and i've never been to a dance. hardly ever been to a party, and when i did, i just sat there. i thought moving here would be the best thing i ever did, i could start off fresh, but its so cliquish here, no one wants to let me join their clicque, because i'm not already in one. who else has gone this?
2007-08-22 13:47:50 · 7 answers · asked by aretwo_d2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the great responses (even the one about the birdwatching wtf, I appreciate the humor). this is way better then the last set of responses (I only had 3) when i posted this exact same question.
by the way, i didn't mean that I would be a loser because i'm 28 and going back to school, i mean that i'd be a loser by going back to school and not having friends. ppl will want to know why i don't have friends, and they will think its not my fault and there's something wrong with me and not want to hang out with me. it would be so much easier if I had some friends here in gallup first before I moved to cruces. then at least I wouldn't have to pretend so hard that i'm not needy... because I am... so what... "so dude what ya doing this weekend?"... me: "absolutely nothing... again..." i don't want to be like that, even if it is best to be honest... but i don't want to be "can I tag along?" either... because that would be equally as bad.
2007-08-22 13:48:23 · update #1
what the hell is guitar hero?
2007-08-30 13:37:39 · update #2
Why don't you do volunteer work in a field that interests you?
Like for the National Audobon Society or some Martial Arts organization?
It would be a good way to meet other with similar values and everyone likes a person who is willing to give their time and energy to help out.
2007-08-23 21:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a class, not for credit just for fun. There is a reason people hook up all the time while in high school and college. Because there is a comfertable structure to the social interaction. Taking a class will give you the chance to be some place where most of the people will not know each other. Plus in a class setting you can easily break the ice. "Oh how do you like the class? How do you like the professor? What made you want to take [what ever]?" Another great thing is always volunteer work. Some times you get that clique thing going too, but generally no. Having worked for the world's most famous non-profit I can assure you people try to make new volunteers feel welcomed (because we don't want them to quit). Good luck.
2016-05-20 03:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you don't think that college at 28 is a loser. I'm 35 and going back to school, thank you very much. lol But at this age, going to school shouldn't be about parties and clubs and friends. It should be about getting that education so you can have a secure future for yourself and your future family. It sounds like you have tried to fit in but no luck. So.....
My advice? Stop trying so hard! Concentrate on school and/or work. Put all that energy you've been spending trying to fit in somewhere and use it for your future! If you get your mind on that, then the stuff you will have been waiting for will just happen out of the blue when you least expect it. That's the way life works baby! Best of luck to you!!
2007-08-30 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by babyblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wake up and small the coffee!! Your a loser!! Why can't you accept this as a fact? Your never gonna make any real friends, so my advice to you is just settle for other loser friends like yourself, and make the best out of a bad situation. No, your life won't be any better than it is now, but at least you'll stop setting yourself up for dissapointment.
2007-08-22 13:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by whatthefever123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get on the internet and play "Guitar Hero" with some 50 year old, out of work computer programmer. He needs all the friends he can get.
2007-08-30 13:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Joey Michaels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try getting one or 2 really good friends first, then meet and befriend their circle of friends?
2007-08-22 13:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by W B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try going to clubs?
2007-08-22 13:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by dr_smith789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋