How do you live with someone who uses severe mental torture?

Question

They can literally make you psychotic with the way they treat you.

Answer 1

If you are over 17, you don't, you move somewhere else. If you are under 18, you see a psychologist or other counsellor for professional advice on how to deal with the situation.

Answer 2

I hate to say it but you either have to get away from them or go to counseling with them. I had a friend in high school that did that and she ended up losing all her friends because it was just too painful for anyone to be around her when she got into that kind of mood. Why does the person you are living with use mental torture? If there is a medical reason, try to get them to seek help. You shouldn't have to go through the abuse and I hope you get the help you are looking for.

Answer 3

You think of how what you do and say will effect the person and then plan your actions accordingly. Avoid doing anything to upset him/her. Spend all of your energy trying to figure out what will upset them. It is quite possible you can avoid the torture with these techniques. The only problem is you loose so much of what makes you, you in the process. A much more difficult process, but better long term results if you want to be happy, is leave the person. They won't change unless you allow them to control you.

Answer 4

This is the time that you have to realize, that you have some choices..you can look at this different ways...you can take it as a calling from God, and Jesus...to pull you closer to Them, and to serve Them...by praying, and putting your faith in Them, and letting God handle it.. forgiving constantly, showing a loving attitude, in the face of evil...but you can also be assured that God Gave you the good sense, to know what to do and how much to take..is this person sick. or just evil?..are you married to them? if not, you might just see first, if you can get them into some counseling..and even offer to go, if there is anything salvagable here.. I have been there, and if nothing else, it brought me much closer to God and Jesus...any maybe that was what it was all about, in these trying times..

Answer 5

you have to arm yourself. when people try and manipulate you, tell them that the travel agent said not to go on any guilt trips....remember nobody can make you feel bad, except yourself. It's all in your reaction. once you de-fuse the person's arsenel, they will look for another victim. these people usually are so hurt themselves, that they project their hurt to others for a moment of relief,. think of it as a game of hot potato.
I can give you your first moment of zen, but then you have to seek others as well.
If i walked up to you with a sack full of dead fish that reeked, was leaking and looked heavy, and said to you "here take this" would you? probably not. and what would be the end result? I would be forced to keep the heavy burdens of the sack. so why take someone's abuse when you don't have to? refuse it, then they will have to hold on to that anger until they find either another victim, or another way to deal with it.

hope that helps.

Answer 6

You don't, you need to leave. Who is this person? If you are there because you have no where else to go, is there a shelter you can go to? If you are there by choice, like you are living with a girlfriend, you need to leave, fast. How old are you? If you are under 18, call protective service or talk to a counselor at school. This will f u up if you let it continue. Do you hear me?

Answer 7

im one of those people who do that....:-)

Answer 8

I don't.