hey, I am really confused, I am 20 and I used to live with my mom last year I went to uni. my father lives in another country and I applied for some universities there too, my Mom always told me it is ok with her if I want to go and that is all up to me...this summer I was visiting my Dad... and I was accepted in this university...I called my Mom and told her that I think I want to stay here because the university and everything else here are much better. she told me that it is all ok.... but today I called her and caught her crying that it is all over now...and that I am gone forever!
I really don't know what to do, I want to go to this uni but don't want my Mom to be upset! what should I do????!
2007-08-22 13:13:11 · 4 answers · asked by Diana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother will adjust. Its natural for her to be sad right now but she does want whats best for you. Just keep in touch with her often so she knows shes still part of your life.
2007-08-22 13:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's completely normal, since you're still her lil baby. She is realizing that you'd be a whole country away from her and is feeling 'empty nest' syndrome. In other words, she's feeling lonely especially without your father around. But this is a small bump in the road, don't feel guilty. Just go to the university and keep in touch with her everyday. You'll notice slowly how well she adjusts. Things are always uneasy at first when it comes to change. Slowly it becomes the norm...
2007-08-22 20:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Pandu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom called your bluff. thinking you could not live without her. but, instead she found she could not live with out. if you want to seriously go to this university, you should. it's not all over for your mom. she just never expected it to happen. let her know you love her, and, really nothing has changed, this is no different than going away to any other university. you will always be in her life and she should not be threaten by what you are doing. just get a good education and make something of yourself. good luck to you.
2007-08-22 20:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and tell her all is ok. she doens't realize its not and i can see what she is thinking its hard when they are spearated divorced or whatever but if you take her and talk to her it will end ok and you should go there its good experience.
2007-08-26 20:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋