I told one of my female friends i loved her and we have known each other for 2 months. She asked me if i wanted her to be my girlfriend and i said yes. We started hanging out! Each time she tried to seduce me, resisted and this happened 4 two weeks. She later on asked me if i love her, i said yes, she tried again but i refused. She is now angry with me, she doesnt even answer my calls. I really love that girl but i dont want to go to that part so that was why i asked the question.
2007-08-22 13:02:28 · 27 answers · asked by pikin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, this is a stark contrast to what usually happens, cause for the most part, guys are the ones who want sex and want it bad. So bad that it drives them to cheat even though they're in a functional relationship. You need to let her know that you're in this for the long haul and the sex will come later but for right now yu just want to spend time getting to know her for who she is and not what she can do for you sexually. Let her know that you value her for who she is and your relationship with her so much that you are willing to wait. You don't mind holding hands, hugging, or even kissing from time to time, but sex is something sacred and you'd prefer to take that step when you both are emotionally ready to do so, not before.
2007-08-22 13:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand today's generation. It is possible to have a meaningful gf/bf relationship without sex. I have had many over the years, some long-term up to 3 years where there was no sex involved. There was true intimacy, like hugging, kissing and touching. I have even slept in the same bed with guys without having sex. There has to be true adult understanding for this to happen and usually a religious or some sort of personal conviction and understanding. True love is accepting someone for who and what they are without wanting to change that person or go against their personal morals, values, or standards.
Obviously this girl was not in love with you truly or she would not have kept trying to seduce you and she would not have left you when you did not want to have sex with her. There is more to a relationship then sex. I know this personally myself.
I was celibate for most of my adult life and had some very good rewarding relationship. I am not putting it out much now and still seem to have good relationships with guys. In the long run, you are respected for your convictions, and not acting like an animal in heat. There is a girl out there who will respect you for your convictions. Just keep trying.
2007-08-22 13:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are smart not to rush into a sexual relationship. There is nothing wrong with taking your time and getting to know someone better first. Also, if you are young you should wait until you are older . You have many years ahead of you to explore being in physical relationships. If your girlfriend keeps insisting you do something you aren't wanting to do yet maybe you should go back to just being friends.
2007-08-22 13:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who recently got married. She and her now husband had been dating for 7 years (basically since high school) and they never had sex. Moral of the story; sex is not necessary and if someone tries to pressure you into something you do not want to do then they don't really love you. Trying talking to her. Not over the phone or internet but in person. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't respect your choice then she doesn't respect you and doesn't deserve your love.
2007-08-22 13:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by champagne0684 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
some people equate sex with love. unfortunately, those poor souls will find out in the long run that the two do not always go hand in hand. it's sweet that you love her and want to enjoy a non-sexual relationship. i think focusing on the intellectual and personal bond first is important for a good, healthy and happy sexual relationship later.
keep in mind, if she loved you, she would wait and not be so upset with you right now. check out your options for a more mature girl elsewhere.
2007-08-22 13:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I have been there. You shouldn't worry. Waited it out. Let her suffer. You'll find out if she does love you and she will call you back. You should have known "Love" is the cherry on the pie. You are not God. You won't able to love someone within two months. Girlfriend and boyfriend, all the bull shits are came down to sexual attraction. If she ever call you back. You should tell her, "Come and fcuk me, baby". That is. Love is all about when you are ready to sacrifice youself to her.
2007-08-22 13:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by J Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you ought to ask HER why she's so quick to jump into a sexual relationship with you.
Actually, I find that rather ...repelling, too. Women are usually raised to not be so aggressive because it's unattractive.
Mama told me something a LONG LONG time ago, and it's as true today as it was then: "Any man can run faster than the woman who chases him"
2007-08-22 13:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is a rare one usually it is the girl wondering why boys cant just be friends I think when your young and a female if a boy is interested in you then its not to be your friend if you say you love a girl that to her means your in love with her.
I think maybe you should next time be a little assertive with getting what you really want to say outthere. Life is to short to fight over foolish things if yor true friends when she's cooled off you guys will sort it out. MY BEST ADVISE IS WHEN SHE IS READY TO TALK BE COMPLETELY HONEST WITH HER.
2007-08-22 13:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Alana Y 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, once a person gets into a sexual relationship, it seems to be a cycle that they keep repeating. if you want to be involved with this girl, you need to have a conversation with her about where you stand. I dated a guy one time that I absolutely adored, and before we got too far in, we had a talk and decided it was best that we NOT have sex. it worked well for us. maybe it can work for you, too. but when you have this talk, tell her that you desire her, but that you would rather keep respect for her than jump into something you're not sure you want and lose respect for her. good luck!
2007-08-22 13:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why you don't want to have sex? Are you just not ready to have sex yet? The only thing you can do is be honest with her and tell her why you want to wait to have sex so she doesn't feel like you're not attracted to her or that she's doing something wrong. Maybe she'll understand, but if she doesn't, she may move on but at least you were honest.
2007-08-22 13:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋