I am just wondering I myself have been in this situation twice in my life. It seems like it made me miserable and feel like a fool and unworthy of love. It took so long to get over it! I was wondering about other peoples ideas and views. Thanks! :)
2007-08-22 12:47:25 · 10 answers · asked by Prof. Dave 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was my best friend. I was in love with her for years, but she always had a boyfriend, and was quick to move onto another one before I had built the guts to ask her out. When she had broken up with her last boyfriend, we finally started dating when, in the second week, she got back together with him. Thinking back on the whole ordeal, all those years as friends, it felt like a waste at first. But then I really thought about what she'd been saying all that time: "You have a good personality" "you're my best friend, you're always there for me" "You treat me better then my boyfriend does". And while we were just friends at the time, it made me realize that she's right. I am loyal. I did treat her better then any of her boyfriends. And when the time is right, I will make a good one myself. I myself had felt unworthy of love, but thinking back to what she said, and what others have said about me, I realized that quite the opposite was true. I am worthy of love. I'm worthy of someone who will be as loyal to me as I am to her. I just have to hang in there and be the best me I can be until I find the right girl.
2007-08-22 13:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. It caused me to feel angry and disappointed in myself which lead to a feeling of being unworthy of love. But as much as it hurt I didn't dwell and looked for other ways to redirect that energy. That caused me to not only meet new women, some I ended up dating, but it made me internally stronger.
2007-08-22 12:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by verbalmedicine7443 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me once, I was totally in love with the guy and couldn't figure out why he didn't love me? For as desperate as I felt there was nothing I could do but stop seeing him altogether and wait for the knot in my stomach to go away...I know how you feel.Nobody is unworthy of love..Hang in there it will get better!!
2007-08-22 13:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dave ; )
Yes, this has happened to me once in my life and it makes the days absolutely miserable. I almost couldn't breathe sometimes. The best thing is to keep busy, see your friends and feel as good as you can about yourself. Tomorrow is always around the corner wih new opportunities.
2007-08-22 13:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ Pamela ♫ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that situation right now. I don't think I will ever get over it. I hope to move on, but I believe that he will always hold a special place in my heart. He was my first "everything" (If you know what I mean) and I'm 27. He will always be in my heart no matter what. I don't know how to move on, but I hope that someday I'll find someone who loves me as much as I love them.
2007-08-22 12:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck yeah!!!! I was *so* in love with a guy at work, and I pointed him out to my best friend in the whole world at the time, telling her that if I ever married, he was the one I wanted for all time. In less than a year, she was pregnant with his child and they married some time later. As much as I hated it and wanted to hate them both (and fooled myself into believing I did for awhile), I realized that I loved them both more than I did the idea of "being his chosen one". But, like you, it took LOTS of time for me to get to that place.
(Incidentally, she now tells me she may never forgive me for "letting her take him"...and yes, we DO laugh about it now)
2007-08-22 12:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It has left me incomplete. I feel like my life would have been correct had she loved me too. I never got over her . . I just made her part of my memory.
2007-08-22 12:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time alone...then date someone else. I know, it sucks, but you have to get over it.
2007-08-22 12:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah me too, i try to do things i like and that wont remind me of that person as much
2007-08-22 12:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes one to get over another!!!!!!!!
2007-08-22 12:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by spaced out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋