Why Won't She Talk To Me?

Question

I was at my mates house and her mum and dad were arguing and when i came down her dad punched her mum n bust her lip. My dad used to hit my mum so when my mates dad did this i just flipped and beat her dad up. Now my mate won't talk to me but i don't really understand why, i was only sticking up for her mum. Im 15 by the way. How can i get her to talk to me again?

Answer 1

Personally I think you did a good thing and if your mate cant understand it then she is really messed up. Or likely her dad punished her for what you did and now she isnt allowed to see you.

Answer 2

She is confused between you and her Dad and can understand why. I know it was hard for you to that,but she saw what you saw and then you beating her Dad up! Wow! Her Dad has probably told her to have nothing to do with you.Maybe you could write her a letter as why you did what you did.Tell her your sorry and was out of place...you were in their home....even though this man was in the wrong! She also might be afraid that you are like her Dad with a bad temper.Please be careful and choose your fights carefully,because the outcome could have been much worse.Take care

Answer 3

I understand why you did what you did but this is her family. How would you feel if its the other way around. It's just you took something personal and made it your business. You need to talk to her, tell her why you reacted that way and that you shouldn't of done what you did. Before you took that initiative you should of gave her options to talk to someone else, like the police and let her make the decision.

This is just a personal matter within a family. You kind of stepped in beyond your space. Best wishes in trying to talk to her, give her time, she's upset with you and you might of made it worse indeed. Do your best to get her to talk to you to make sure everything is ok. Do not give up.

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Answer 4

Did you hear the convers? Maybe her mum was threatining her dad. Maybe her dad was sticking up for her. Maybe her dad lied and told her a lie. Try talking to her whenever you get the chance. I think her mummight like you now!

Answer 5

That oughta hurt..anyway the reason why she might not be talking to you is because her dad probably told her not to communicate with u cause u beat up the dad. well, the only thing i could think of is, to give it sometime like 3 more days. then just phone her and tell her to meet up with you and talk about it.

Answer 6

hmm. tough call..try to apologize for sticking your hands in other peoples business. and tell her you were only doing what you thought was best.

Nobody likes to see their dad beat up by a 15 year old. Give her time. She'll come around. But i wouldn't expect being invited to dinner anytime soon..

Answer 7

Domestic violence is a nasty thing.
You do not know how controlling her Dad is or just how violent he actually be. She does.

I commend you for standing up for her Mum, but you may have to wait for your mate to come around. Sorry.
Give her some time. And if you see that bloke punching his ole lady again ---- bust him one for me :)

Answer 8

Next time stay out of her family business. You feel good about what you did, but you have no idea what she had to endure from her dad after you left do you? You made a bad situation worse.

Answer 9

She will come around in her own time, that was awful, and probably embarrassing for her. And u might have frightened her maybe that's a side of u she didn't c before, so be careful when u do speak to her. Keep texting..........

Answer 10

you did what was right.....im happy for you on that one...but you should tell your girlfriend that you went through that with your parents & you were sticking up for her mom....she should be proud of you for that ....if she doesn't talk to you after to say you're sorry....she probably doesn't understand why you beat up her dad...or her dad won't let her talk to you...good luck!!!!