2007-08-22 12:43:19 · 50 answers · asked by Royal 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Leave as soon as possible.
2007-08-22 12:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Meow. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I teach this in business training. People going to partys, work parties maybe you are new and dont know anybody. This also works in social situations.
Scan the room when you walk in. Look at the groups of people talking. You might find a group of 3 or 4 or 5 or 10. In that group there will always be somebody. They are in the converstation but only talk once in awhile. That is the person you target. They are all her/his friends but they might not be comfortable with so many people.
Thats your target. When it works just start chatting with that person. They will feel more comfortable talking 1 on 1 at first. Then move into the other friends she will most likely introduce you, or even he will. Doesnt matter if its a boy or a girl you talk to. Your not picking them up. Just a chat.
So when you are done with that target and met her friends, work the other targets you picked out. Pretty soon you have met 80% of the room. And you can mention oh yeah Sue was talking about that. Ask do you know sue? No they say, or maybe they do. They will say do you know her? nope you say just met.
Now you are part of all the groups. If people dont know eachother you start introducing everybody. In 30 minutes you are talking to everybody. Keep your targets around, and introduce them to the other targets.
At this point you are now controlling the room. With picking out 2-3 people. Smaller groups it might only be one. You will know exactly who they are because chances are its how you might be.
After a couple times you will be pro and moving the room. It helps if you are really good at remembering names, if your not just remember you targets name, introduce your friend from one group to your target and let her/him introduce the rest.
Good Luck. Thats just one suggestion but it works really well.
2007-08-22 12:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by financing_loans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I fortunately very assertive ,but there was a stage where I went through the exact same thing .Hang back and allow someone else to dominate the conversation .Look intuitive and wait one or 2 sec when answering a question as this gives off the feel of intelligence and thought through commentry .You will soon be invited back to a party as people like to be associated with intellectually superior individuals.
2007-08-26 08:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually will ask a question that everyone in the group should be able to answer, and pray that the conversation will go on from there. Usually it does, but I know some people that tend to just end the conversation after they've answered.
2007-08-22 13:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself and get into a conversation. Ask them a question. People like to talk about themselves. Bring up a subject that you know something about so you can give your opinion. It depends on the situation your in. Just start talking to them. As you get to know them it will get easier. They are just people like you. They might be thinking what they can do to become more comfortable around you. Sometimes just letting people know you are a little nervous or uncomfortable in the situation will get them to be friendlier and help you get to know them. Just relax. Be yourself.
2007-08-22 16:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, however I wish that I knew. I am the same way, although I am normally that way around people that I do know. I think mine is self-esteem issue. But it boils down to you are either a people person or you are not. Just make sure you remember that they are not any better than you are. And don't think that anything that you want to say is stupid, you are just the same as them.
Sorry, I was not much help.
2007-08-22 12:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nally25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable, you don't feel comfortable. You don't need to force anything... Just be yourself and if the situation is right, it will work for you. Just don't be afraid to be there, it may not work out, but you don't have to develop social anxiety over one bad outing.
2007-08-22 12:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ilya S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they are others in the group who are in your position...find any point of commonality...if you have cards bust em out show magic tricks, play poker, drinking games...
most people have this ideal version of themself that they never put into practice...nows your perfect opportunity...be charming, have fun be yourself...get comfortable in situations that make you uncomfortable...
sky's the limit...see you at the top...
2007-08-22 13:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Who Am I? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you have in common make a joke or something then the conversation will flow you can become good friends if you just get to know eachother
If not it was just one conversation and experience there is no loss
2007-08-22 12:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by ismith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to "do" anything. I'm completely comfortable with myself so I can adjust to any social situation. What also helps is that I really don't care what people think of me.
2007-08-22 12:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b urself and try ur best 2 get 2 know them. the more u talk the more comfortable u feel...unless u say something totally awkward
2007-08-22 12:46:44 · answer #11 · answered by Mikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋