I'm Sick of Rude Comments About My Weight?

Question

I was seriously ill for about 8 months. I lost a lot of weight in a short period of time. I'm finding nearly impossible to put back on. I'm 5'7 and weigh 95lbs right now, where I used to weigh about 120/125.I work in a large place and I deal with many departments, so a lot of people know who I am, but don't know me personally or what I've gone through. I get so many comments about being to skinny, it not being healthy, looking like Nicole Ritchie, ect. I've heard people make even more rude comments in whispers to their coworkers.

Why do people find it okay to make comments about my weight? They wouldn't look at someone overweight and tell them they were too fat or needed to go on a diet. Why is it okay for them to tell me I'm too skinny? What can I say to these rude people. I don't want to be known as the poor sick girl, but being known as the anorexic freak might be worse.

Answer 1

Not much you can do about people who don't know how to act right. Be classy, ignore the comment and change the subject, or excuse yourself from the conversation if they persist. Sooner or later they give up and go find something else to worry about.

I hope you're feeling better soon.

Answer 2

Think back, haven't you thought or made comments about someone who looks out of the ordinary? If you answer "no", I'll be charitable and assume you have a poor memory.

Stop worrying about what others say, and more importantly work on getting yourself healthy again. You ARE NOT going to stop people from talking, so to worry about it is counter-productive to you own well being.

I have psoriasis (yeah, that stuff of heartbreak). It got better when I stopped caring what people thought and stopped hiding it. The doctor said that the mental attitude is more important than the medicine. The same goes for you.

I am fat. Always have been fat (not morbidly obese), used to worry about it and be shy. Now I don't care, even joke about it before someone else can. I've never had such an active social life in and out of bed. Life can be good if you are in control others respect and like that in you no matter what your looks are.

Answer 3

Yes people will say anything about anybody. I know you are tired of the rude comments. It is not ok for them to tell you that you are too skinny. You already know that. Some people are, in a word, stupid. Some, I'll bet, even say you have AIDS.

Perhaps you may explain to them why you've lost weight. Or, you can ignore this talk, because soon your weight will return, and there you'll be, all normal weight again! Keep your chin up.

Answer 4

Actually, you might be surprised at how badly overweight people get treated. When I saw the title of your question, I thought it was about people making mean comments about you being overweight. It's rare to hear about thin people being harassed. Either way, it's wrong.

You don't owe them any explanation about your weight. It's not their business. It's not okay for them to tell you you're too skinny or that you're not healthy, etc. And you have every right to tell them it's not okay. The next time someone bothers you, say "With all due respect, I prefer not to discuss this issue." Then change the subject. If you overhear rude comments, casually walk over to them and say, "Excuse me, but did you have something to say?" And then tell them that you don't appreciate these comments. When people realize that you're not willing to listen to it or talk about it, they will eventually stop. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well, you partially answered your own question. My advise is to just honestly and nicely tell them that you have been sick for a while. I guess a lot of people, when they hear what you've been through, will feel a little more sympathetic towards you, and I bet most of them will even feel ashamed of themselves that they behaved in such a rude way, while you yourself reacted in a nice way. If you don't want them to think of you as the poor sick girl, just tell them that you're okay now, but that is just hard to gain back the weight you have lost.

Answer 6

My advice would be to ignore them. You know you're not anorexic. Most people just gossip about people for fun, which is disgusting. Over time, if you don't bring attention to it, or let people know you're bothered by it, they'll lose their interest and move on to something else. If you're seriously THAT worried about being thought of as an "anorexic freak" why don't you show them you're not anorexic without being too obvious by sitting at your desk/in the cafeteria/wherever you eat, and eat a nice big lunch? They will see that you obviously eat and will get over it.

Answer 7

Its not okay and I'm sorry that there are so many rude people around you.

A lot of people lack manners and boundaries so, they don't see anything wrong with acting rude.

If someone makes a smart comment, I would make one back, since it seems that ignoring them hasn't gotten them to stop.

When someone says , "You're to skinny", I would comment back, "what makes you the expert of me being to anything?"

or "when did it become your place to decide what I'm supposed to look like"

Or "I lost weight because I was ill, thanks for being rude and insensitive and bringing up my personal health problems"

So many people confuse being crass, crude and rude as being honest, they are very different things.

I hope you are feeling better, that this helps you out and I wish you good luck with everything.

Answer 8

Most people judge before they should, weight shouldn't matter for anyone's judgement of how you are or what your lifestyle is like, so what if you're skinny? As long as you like who you are there shouldn't be a problem with what or who you are. ^.^ You should try to explain that being sick did cause you to loose some weight... just don't try to act like it damaged your life forever. Hope this helped!

Answer 9

Firstly, if you think people don't make comments about weight to fat people, you are sorely mistaken. I have a very good friend who is grossly overweight and she gets comments, stares, you name it. It doesn't make it right, to be sure - but it happens ALL THE TIME.

You just have to suck it up. People are rude. Feel free to stick up for yourself. You don't need to give them your whole medical history or life story to put them in their place for their very inappropriate behavior. But if you think the human race is going to stop being the assh*les we all know we're capable of being, you'll have a long, sad life missy.

Answer 10

"Sick? No.I feel fabulous thank you,"and blast them the biggest smile you can muster as u walk away working your cute Nicole Ricci butt. It's ****** rude and it's raising my blood pressure just reading it.They'll be the most pissed if it doesn't get to you and if u remain strong and confident. It could be a lot worse sweety. You sound just beautiful and I'm SURE they're just jealous or having a bad day and trying to take it out on whomever is walking by at the moment.