I dated this guy 2 years ago, he was there 4 me when I was going thru an abusive relationship. He was the one that talked some senses into me n convinced me 2 leave the abusive relationship 4 good.
We dated for several months after, then he moved away. We've lost contact since. He didn't write much n I decided to stop writing him because I was going thru a lot of issues n I felt like always dumping my problems on him. I fetl I needed 2 deal with my problems on my own.
2 years has passed, my life has been much better, n I'm getting myself together. I've moved on n I'm now in a new relationship. Recently, I ran into him but it was so awkward. I wanted to talk to him, but my boyfriend was with me and he felt really insecure that my ex was there. So I didn't get to talk 2 him much because I felt it wasn't the right time n now I wished I did. I just want to tell him thank u for talking senses into me years ago n let him know I'm better now. Should I send him a card, or let it go?
2007-08-22 12:41:24 · 10 answers · asked by Me 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My boyfriend knows the whole story of what my ex did for me and I did tell my ex when we met face to face that I am with someone new. But I couldn't bring myself to tell him "thank you" to his face without being overwhelm by my emotions, and there just wasn't enough time. I'm not looking to get back with him because we both have moved on, but I want him to know he made a difference in my life. It is unfortunate it took me a long time to truly understand what he has really done for me. I can't imagin what my life would be like had I not been helped.
2007-08-22 13:32:10 · update #1
Something very similar happened to me. I have to tell you that my heart led me to say thank you and let him know that I was grateful for the time spent together as it helped me grow as a person and that I would forever be thankful for that. I too had a boyfriend (same one now in fact) I was very upfront and honest and assured my current love that I have no desire to re-live the past and have no "love connection" with the past boyfriend but that I did want to say thank you as a gesture of kindness and let it be at that. So in the end I did just that and my current boyfriend was quite the gentleman and secure in my love for him so he actually supported me in it. After the thank you's that was it and we have not spoken since. It is always a good idea to close chapters in your life that you think have been left open, but it is just as imprortant to have people in your life currently that support you and trust your motives completely.
2007-08-22 14:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by ~BrumbyRocks~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have shifted your love to another man after he assisted you overcome a great problem. Now that you are happy with a new bf, life must move on. You should appreciate him and remain nice with him, but discuss with your new bf what had happened before. By this you do not act suspiciously to both. Above all, make yourself happy and move on in life. The past relations should have assisted you to gain experience. A card or no card may not make much difference.
2007-08-22 12:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by viccheny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better late than never! It is too bad that you didn't think to thank him sooner but that is past. It shouldn't have been awkward to talk to him like a friend. If it was a female, would you have reacted the same way? Your new boyfriend must not be very secure in himself or he wouldn't feel threatened about an old friend that saw you through rough times. These are the kind of friends to be cherished.
So...you didn't thank him, but you still have time...so do it. Keep it friendly!
2007-08-22 12:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble to me... If you couldn't talk with your boyfriend around its a bad situation. A thank you card that explains your in a happy relationship might help. If you are in a happy relationship that is. But the boyfriend wont be happy either way, if he finds out.
2007-08-22 12:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might ship a thanks card but when you're going to, do opt for a tasteful one. A clean card together with your possess message would cross down higher. In any occasion, comprise a individual message that you've got written your self. Flowers may even paintings good. You might ship them or take them with you whilst you cross to opt for her up for the following date.
2016-09-05 10:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a touching story. Sending the card sounds like a wonderful idea.
2007-08-22 12:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by JuanB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a card. It will make him feel good, and you feel better. But watch out for your insecure bf.
2007-08-22 12:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never stop yourself when it comes to showing gratefulness to someone who helped you out. You never know how it will make their day that much brighter. :-) Say basically what you did here, since you're happily dating this other guy.
2007-08-22 12:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Serena 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you start out with someone you dated...
then, later in your story you say your ex?
too much drama
2007-08-22 13:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, send him a thank you card, but don't let your bf know about it..
2007-08-23 01:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋