Too many flower girls?

Question

I have three little girls (ages at time of wedding:5,5,and 7) And he has a niece too, 10. They have all been asked (their parents really) to be flower girls in our wedding. I know it's MY wedding but is four too many?- I want them all in it but what can I do with them to break it up a bit. Someone told me I could have the oldest pass out roses to the parents and special people and be more of a floral bearer and help the little ones out with what they're doing.
Need ideas?

Im GOING TO use all of them so omitting some or one isn't the prolem. The ten year old is not too old in my opinion (she's tiny). And I already have 2 jr bms (they are 17 and 14 yrs old) she wouldn't fit anyway.

I asked if you thought it was, I didn't say that your THOUGHTS would make me NOT use all of them. Just answer the question or get off

My family has A LOT more kids than this lol. These are just the ones Im close to.

Wow! Thanks for all the great ideas. I wish I could pick more than one best answer! lol
I may just go with the Bible bearer then reading the scripture. Probably not the train idea...i dont want to seem concieded.

Answer 1

Four flower girls is more than average, certainly, but if you want all four to do it and the girls and their parents are all happy with it, I think you should go right ahead and do it.

One thing you might consider is having the two older girls come first and pass out roses to parents and people you'd like to honor, and then have the other two come down together in the more traditional flower girl role. That way it breaks up the look a little, gives the older girls a role with slightly more responsibility (but still well within their capabilities), and doesn't take as long as having four little girls come down the aisle one at a time.

Or if you're having a very long train, you could make two of them pages. They would carry the train and arrange it when you get to the altar. Again, it would be better to have the two older girls do this because it requires a bit more responsibility.

Whatever you decide, I think it's lovely that you're involving these kids in your wedding. Just be flexible in case one of them developes a case of stagefright on the day and can't go through with it.

Answer 2

Do you have a boy to ask the ring bearer?
If you don't....
I was at a wedding where they had 3 girls (about 6,8 &11)
They had the oldest hand roses to the parents and grandparents----the middle aged carry the rings in a beautiful 'treasure chest' style jewelry/ring box---and the youngest was the flower girl.

You could also break them up to where the oldest hands out the flowers to the parents....the 7 yr old carries the flower basket and the 5 yr olds are on either side of her tossing down the flowers.

Just some ideas...maybe it'll help?

Answer 3

I love having children in weddings, they are so much fun. I have had a toddler put into a white wagon and pulled by an older child. It was precious! She tossed out flower petals every once in a while. (They had already placed flower petals on the runner). If I had your wedding, I would have the 7 year old follow the 2 5 year olds tossing petals, the 10 year old would be in front of them carrying the "Book". I use either a black or white leather page holder, that contains the wedding ceremony. She would hand be my book and then take her place with the maids or have a special seat waiting Wedding Officiate

Answer 4

A couple of suggestions.

Let the two five year olds be the flower girls.

Then the seven year old can be a train bearer. You don't see them often but it is something that used to be done. My daughter was one a couple of years ago and took the job to heart. Very serious about making sure the bride's train didn't drag and when she stopped my daughter made sure it was straight and neat. Tell the 7 year old it is her job to keep the train tidy and neat. Very important job and oh so cute for the photographer to capture.

How about the 10 year old carrying in a beautiful white bible after the flower girls. It can be a new bible that you and your fianace buy together as your family bible to start your new lives together, with your both your names on it....***** and **** Smith. Have a passage selected to be read, like in Ruth (don't have my bible in front of me but if you email I can give you the exact verses) where it says, I will go where you go, Your people will be my people. Let her carry the bible open to that passage with a book mark in case it blows shut while walking. Then when she get to the front she will walk to a microphone and wait. Then you arrive on Dad's arm with train bearer behind. Allow her to fuss over you. Your guests will love it and she will feel that she has done a job well done. Anyway, once your father has handed you to your groom and the pastor has welcomed everyone and prayed, allow the 10 year old bible bearer to read your selected scripture. She is old enough to study ahead and read it smoothly.

Hope these ideas help. Congratulations and many blessings for the next 50 years together!

Answer 5

I don't think four is too many. They're all young enough to do the job, but not old enough to do anything else without supervision.

I have one niece (3 years old) and my fiance has three (age 8 and two 10 year olds). They're all going to be flower girls because there's nothing else for them to really do and we want them to be involved. And we also have his two nephews as ring bearers. They will walk down the aisle and then sit down next to their parents on the front row. Since they're cute and we have a lot of our guests that will be bringing kids, we don't think having that many in the wedding will be a problem.

Answer 6

The 3 younger ones could walk down the aisle together, possibly holding hands. The 10 year old could follow behind them because the 2 younger ones might be a little frightened once they see all of the people at the ceremony. My daughter's stepdaughter is 10 years old and she was the flower girl in my daughter's wedding. 10 is not too old for a flower girl. However you work it out, I'm sure all of them will just be adorable!!!

Answer 7

How about the two little ones as flower girls and the two older ones as junior bridesmaids. they can even have slightly different dresses. The 2 flower girls can walk together and the 2 junior bridesmaids can walk together.

I think it's great that you are incorporating all of them in your special day I am sure they will all look adorable!

Good luck!

PS after reading the rest of your comments seeing you already have jr bms, I do not think 4 flower girls is too many. I have seen English weddings where 3 or 4 little girls carry the brides train as she walks down the aisle, so maybe 2 in front of you and 2 behind?

Answer 8

I think it 4 flower girls is a lot, but at least they are old enough to hold it together during the ceremony. They shouldn't be crying or running around, etc. Maybe the 10 year old could help with the train of your dress? She could fluff it when you get to the alter, and right before you walk back down the isle at the end of the ceremony. For the other 3 girls, they could walk down the isle together...the 7 year old could hold a basket of flower petals, and the other two could walk on either side of her and spread the petals. Whatever you decide, good luck managing all these kids! ;-)

Answer 9

OK, first you asked a question....too many flower girls??? Then when people give you their opinion, you say you are going to USE ALL OF THEM....so why did you ask in the first place?

If you want 4 flower girls and 2 junior bridesmaids, along with your other bridesmaids and maid of honor - fine. If, you are just wanting them to be A PART of the wedding, you can split them up in a number of different roles as others have suggested. The 2 five year olds can be flower girls, the 7 year old can hand out programs or roses and the 10 year old can be a candle lighter.

Answer 10

digital diva is awesome! give her best answer.
i was going to suggest the two five year olds as flower girls, the seven year old carrying the train and the ten year old as a junior bridesmaid but i never got any further than that! i hadn't thought of one of the youngsters carrying your train, its a very old tradition and was really very charming to witness young ones taking the job so seriously.
i wanna get married again just so i can use her ideas!
especially the bible idea. years back every family had a bible that they kept births, marriages, deaths recorded in, you could see the family's history all written neatly in their bible. that would be a wonderful tradition for your and your husband to bring to life!
have a great wedding, a wonderful life and God bless!