My friend is going to act like some emergency came up during the wedding, so he does not have to go through with it.......what should I do! Tell the bride or just stay out of it?? He told me in strictest confidence..........but...........I dunno.......
2007-08-22 12:22:41 · 28 answers · asked by Celebrate 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
your friend is a thoughtless piece of crap... gutless too!
2007-08-22 12:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by bullwinkle3006 4 · 9⤊ 1⤋
You and your friend might want to consider this.
If he breaks it off before the wedding, then some of the vendors may only keep the deposits and not make them pay the full amount of everything.
If he waits til the day of, then everything will be done and will still have to be paid in full.
If this bride chooses to do so, and I would recommend that she does, she can SUE HIM for his half of the cancelled wedding expenses. And, I have seen it won many times! He may have to pay!
Other than being a pig with no conscience, maybe this fact will deter him from humiliating a woman he supposedly loved and made a commitment to!
2007-08-22 22:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by valschmal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell the bride's father and let HIM handled your sorry friend. Aside from the huge expense of a wedding his daughter's heart is worth much, much more.
You need to be a man of integrity and character since your friend obviously isn't. That bride will be humiliated in front of everyone she knows and loves. Besides, does he think that if he finds some 'emergency' big enough to excuse him from the wedding that he will not have to explain later? Better now then later.
One more reason for you to tell is what if he is chicken and goes ahead just to avoid conflict and then the bride has to deal with it when her husband walks out in six months. Better now then later.
Be a man. And get a new friend.
Good luck.
2007-08-22 20:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
tell someone and pass the blame off on them. that is a crappy thing that guy is doing, if he does have cold feet they may just go away once the ceremony starts, or he could be bluffing u too see what happens. my hubbys friends kidnapped him 2 hours before the wedding to try and talk him out of it, as a joke and he was 1 hour late to the wedding but i was doing pictures so i really didnt realize it till someone said well its about time k got here then i realized he was late. so make sure this guy isnt kidding or something else before u rile up anyone else...
2007-08-23 12:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that if he doesn't tell the bride then YOU will. Try to talk to him about it. Is he getting cold feet? What is the reason behind it? When is the wedding? Tell him if he doesn't want to marry her then he should tell her sooner, not an hour before the wedding starts. Seriously, if he doesn't want to tell the bride then YOU should tell her. If you don't tell her then you will have this guilty feeling of what you should have said or done, trust me on that.
2007-08-23 00:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are gonna hand this off to his father. that is right my friend, you are gonna make a phone call to your friend right now and tell him that you and he ( he must be pretty close to you to tell you this, it is shocking but not unheard of) ....you and he are gonna right now go and talk to his dad about this. you are gonna wake him if you need to. if he does not have a dad, then, his favorite married uncle. men sometimes, oftentimes, panic and say they want to flee, but then they do go thru with it. they can talk this out with a trusted male figure who is older. you go too and make sure!!!! he does this!!!! these are peoples lives he is toying with. so, this is what you do right this minute, you and he go talk this out with his father or uncle or whoever the adult male person in his life is. do not !!!!!!!!!! delay. if he is too ashamed to do this, you !!!!! tell him that you know for a fact ( cause you read it here right now and i guarantee it is a fact) that this is common to do this and that is why in the church they dont even let people get married without counseling. and he needs to talk this out with an understanding man. if and only if you do this, he would then know hopefully by first thing tomorrow that he is fine or not, and if he is not he needs to talk to her. the very strange circumstances that he is proposing on how to get out of it, get dressed for his wedding go all the way there and then literally run away, as if no one would question his sudden emergency and know immediately what he was up to, everyone would be on to him at once!!!!!! tell him this!!!!!! you are the guy who asked this here, you are the guy who needs to bring this guy to some help. right now tonight. right now.
2007-08-22 22:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by jaded 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to your friend and try and talk him out of it. He is panicing obviously, but he needs to consider other peoples feelings. Tell him to think about all the money that has been spent on the event. If he bails on the day of there is a slim chance to get any of the money back, but if he cancels ahead of time they may be able to get of the deposits back.
If he really does not want to go through with it then he needs to be a man and talk to his fiancee and call it off.
You are in a very difficult position, I would threaten him that if he doesn't come clean you will tell his fiancee, that way you can tell her and not feel guilyt because it would be his own fault.
I really hope he does the right thing.
2007-08-22 21:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
boy oh boy,,,,,stay out of this one.
he may be nervous right now and just saying this but by the time the big day arrives he'll be fine.
if you say something and he doesn't go through with the emergency thing then you are going to look like such a fool because you will look like you are trying to cause trouble.
and don't ever doubt the fact that he would deny ever saying he was going to back out of the wedding! he'd be telling her you are a big fat liar!
if you feel you absolutely must say something tosomeone go talk to the preacher thats going to marry them, he can take it from there and tell him not to mention your name! ever!
but i will say it again, you really should stay out of this one!
good luck!
2007-08-22 19:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by wild thing 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is your friend? Talk to him IMMEDIATELY and tell him that he better tell the bride NOW or YOU WILL. This is totally rude. No, that's not the right word....I don't even have a word for it...it's beyond rude. If he wants to call it off....fine...but tell him to do so as a man and not an hour before the ceremony.
2007-08-22 19:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If this is a serious statement--and the guy is going to do THAT to everyone involved...
Let's judge this shall we?
1. The guests
2. The parents
3. The cost for the location
4. The cost for the catering
5. The cost for the flower arrangements
6. The cost of hair and makeup for all involved
7. Travel costs for those not local including hotel and flight and car
8. The emotional backlash to all involved!
Against....
One person who doesn't have the guts to back out gracefully.
Yes. You ABSOLUTELY should tell.
2007-08-22 19:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia E 3 · 13⤊ 1⤋
What type of person does somethink like it, if they dont want to go through with it they shoudl come clean & explain! Imagine if the person done it to them & how they would feel! why let this person be totally heart broken & embarrssed ? and all the money/time & effort goes in to it all, this person is a pig & selfish
2007-08-22 19:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋