Domesticity - have a lovely 2 year old who I adore but at times do wonder if I am cut out for domestic life -?

Question

hate hate hate housework etc

Love being a Mum don't get me wrong - just hate all the maintenance that comes with it - lol

Any other Mum's (or Dad's for that matter) ever on the odd occasion feel the same?

p.s Don't get wrong, I will/have done the best for my daughter - just mean the feeling inside I sometimes get.

Answer 1

I doubt there's a mother out there who hasn't felt the same! Join the club honey.

Answer 2

I used to stress over this because I HATE housework with a passion and I used to feel inadequate and useless which in turn made me feel tired and so I tended to lack on the housework side. But then I started to relax and I caught up on the washing and the pots etc and now I actually quite enjoy doing my little jobs around the house, I wouldnt say I was a domestic godess but at least I am enjoying what I do, its a start I guess. Also, enjoy being a mum and doing fun things with your child while they are still young, this is the best piece of advice I was given, they dont stay young forever!

Good luck x

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean. I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old and sometimes especially here lately I feel as if I love my kids but I am not a big fan of all the stuff that goes along with being a mom. I am a stay at home mom and I enrolled in the local college to get me away from the kids for a while. In my opinion the key to being a happy parent is ensuring that you have time when you can forget about being a parent ( for the most part you can't totally forget) You can go to a movie or whatever you like but have time when you can be you and not just be mommy.

Answer 4

You ask many questions, are you feeling OK. Did you have baby blues as it may still be there. No body likes to do these things, but it's part and parcel I am afraid. Thanks for adding the dad bit, much appreciated. I hope your partner helps out with the chores, if not, why not? I have a feeling you are just getting tired and need a break, tell your partner to look after the baby for a couple of days and go away somewhere and sleep and rest. You will miss the routine so much you will be fine when you get back. Good luck I know how you feel as due to an injury I am a house husband at the moment and I love the contact with my child on a day to day basis. Just feeding my child can be fun and so pleasant to watch. Get a big dishwasher though and other gadgets to make everything easier.

Answer 5

I only do housework on Fridays. Obviously I do cooking, washing up and laundry, but nothing else (OK maybe a little hoovering). It's amazing what a big blast of chores can achieve, and it means the rest of the week I don't feel so bad about not doing it!

I also try to go out with my small children every day - even if it;'s just to buy a paper. Staying in all day drives me insane.

I think everyone feels like this, especially of you had a job/busy social life previously. It's hard not to resent it, but really if you were out at work you wouldn't spend all day cleaning, so why should you now?

Answer 6

Yes we all feel this way, but this is the way I look at it. I was a secretary, did all the books etc. before I stayed home with my kids. I may have to do all the maintenance etc. but is it really any different than punching numbers over and over every month. The only difference is the payoff, I get to have time with my kids and I get to take them to school etc. worth the sacrifice to me. But I do defiantly have those days, just take a deep breath and go on. One thing it has helped me understand is all the things my mother use to say like "Cant I just use the bathroom in peace!!" LOL

Answer 7

I agree with you. I have a 2 year old also and she can be a handful when it comes to picking up after her. I have to fight with her to get her to do her share and to let me be so I can do my share of the housework that she cant help out with. I also have an 11 month old and I am due for the 3rd one the day after his birthday. I hate all the work that goes with taking care of 2 kids but like you I love them dearly!

Answer 8

i feel the same i love being a mummy but hate the other household stuff i do it but hate it and would prefer to earn money at work then do the same relentless chores and get nothing back for it but i would hate to send my children to stranges at this age so i carry on and waith patiently until the children start primary and i can get a job and away from the house at that stage i will hire a cleaner because my husband is useless at home life including the children and things will get out of control if i dont hire a cleaner

Answer 9

Hmmm, same smiley that beats herself up for not playing. Sounds like the burnout that comes with spending too much time and energy doing for others and not enough time for self. Hey, keeping up with, much less picking up after a young one can be a tiring, sometimes thankless job. And so from the rest of the world to mothers of young children, I say thank you. Now do something nice for yourself, yes, EVEN if the bathroom is a mess!!

Answer 10

most of my friends have children and it's safe to say that yes we all feel that way, we LOVE our children but sometimes we feel overwhelmed. I know most mums know work and then when u come home u still have to keep working. It's the hardest job in the world. I too hate housework but we have to do it.

Answer 11

I feel the same. I loathe housework,and shopping,and I loathe other parents,I loathe having to have anything to do with other parents. I loathe the guilt that comes with being a parent when you inevitably get it wrong. I loathe being stuck in one bl**dy place. I loathe the school run, the endless responsibility.
I will never have another child. But I do love my daughter,and try my best with her.I enjoy taking her out,showing her stuff,seeing her learn and play. Shame about all the crap,isn't it?