even though you may not like aspects about your true self who you really are...you see certain aspects of yourself as inadequate or inferior, not as good as the others.
ive battled with low self esteem for a long time due to trauma and abuse and bullying in earlier life
2007-08-22 11:23:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is an area that I am all too familiar with.
What helped me was one day just looking at myself objectively. Growing up I was the geek, the nerd, no-one wanted to have anything to do with the the "ugly fat-girl".
I always kept in the back of my mind there has to be someone out there for me, that's what I grew up believing. I did find that someone and that someone still loves me for my personality, my physical appearance be damned. He doesn't care.
I will still struggle with my self-image from time to time; but for the most part, having sat down and looked at myself objectively, I discovered... while, I'm not a super-model miss america looking thing, I'm not butt ugly either. Yes, I have some pounds I need to shed, but overall it is my inner-self that I allow others to see now.
I've taken on the attitude if you don't like the way I look and if you just don't like me... too bad.
I just got to a point in my life that I couldn't stand it anymore. Either it was going to take control of me, or I was going to take control of it!
I was the one who took control. If I can do it, I know others can too.
Just got to say "enough is enough" and take back your life.
2007-08-23 04:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Totem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off stop comparing yourself to everyone else because sometimes your view is only the good qualities and in their life they have problems too. you should try looking in the mirror and say five good things about yourself and nothing else. get out and volunteer your time you will get back more than you give. you are not inadequate or inferior. it is easy to say but hard to do. ignore the negative thoughts about yourself and always remember the good. for example if you say one negative thing about yourself you have to follow it with two positives about yourself. I am sorry you were abused and had trauma. but it only gives us more character.
2007-08-22 11:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my favorite saying is.. LET GO AND LET GOD! But to be more detailed, we are all born a certain way and we have no control over it. So why feel guilty? For all those things you are "bad" at there is at least one thing you are good at. Really try hard and find that good thing and then milk it for all its worth! You are happy when you do things you are good at. And it really doesn't matter what other people think! When they are on their death bed, will they really be judging you in their mind? No! They will be making judgements about their own lives.
2007-08-22 11:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you are suffering from depression. That can be corrected by proper counseling from a doctor qualified in that field.
To answer your question, if you don't like the life you have change it. Get involved with civic affairs, attend dances, hang with people that like good clean living.
Never try to be someone else, unless you are going to be an actor.
Your life will only change if you change your way of living.
2007-08-22 11:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people are struggling with low self esteem just as you are, even myself. I think a good way to combat low self esteem is by using affirmations. I'm leaving a link to help get you started. Good luck and good health!
2007-08-22 11:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it's a lifelong battle for almost everyone, to one extent or another. The first thing I would suggest is therapy. For your background, it's often the first step on the road to recovery. And you can try making a list of your good traits and post in on the mirror and read them out loud to yourself every morning. Good luck!
2007-08-22 11:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Join the club. I feel the same way.
I started college today and I felt like crap, being surrounded by all these virile kids with their tank tops and mini-shorts and their rap music. I felt like I was the old fat, bald guy in his 30's who didn't belong there.
You hear a lot of motivational stuff about learning to love yourself and all that, but in actuality, it isn't as easy to pull off as it sounds.
2007-08-22 11:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can teach you to love yourself, you have to learn it on your own. You also have understand if you don't like yourself how can anyone else. You say you want to get married, you have start changing your behaviors or you will never find that person!!!
2007-08-22 14:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that evryone has positive and negative aspects to their personalities and something that is positive about you in one way is negative about you in another way.
2007-08-22 11:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by SUSAN G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by listening to willy wonka's imagination.....
2007-08-22 13:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋