My ex-girlfriend that broke it off with me abut 9 months ago and I have stayed in contact. We have had a few drinks or lunch from time to time but nothing serious. Keep in mind, this girl knows I love her still.
So, last week she calls me at 11:00 pm on a Thursday to see what I am doing and if I want to grab a drink. I tell her she can come over and have a drink if she wants. She does and ends up sleeping over and we have sex.
The next day I find out she is seeing another guy and it was his birthday Thursday and he blew her off. So she obviously wanted to get revenge on him by fooling around with me. She claims to like this guy a lot and tells me she wants to be "just friends" like we have been. (I still want to be more than friends.)
Now the tricky part. Her Birthday is tomorrow, one week later.
Should I call her and wish her a happy birthday? I do love her but she plays with my emotions. any advice?
2007-08-22 11:00:01 · 14 answers · asked by Jeffrey B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you have strong feelings for her but for your own sake, you need to let her go. Right now she knows she can come and go and you will still be there. DO NOT call her for her birthday, let her wonder. Don't be a door mat, you need to believe in yourself or no one else will. Go out and have some fun and maybe she'll realize what she's missing or you just might stumble across someone who will appreciate you as you are.
2007-08-22 11:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by littleone 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ouch - she used you to get back at another guy. The scummy thing about this is that she knows you still love her, and she took advantage of your feelings - she knew you'd be willing. What a hurtful betrayal. I would talk to her and just be really honest. Tell her that you care about her but you feel manipulated and you can't trust her. Tell her that you are tempted to do something nice for her on her birthday, but that after the way she used you to get back at another guy, you feel like you need to protect yourself and not even go there.
Hopefully this will trigger some kind of apology or regret - follow it up by telling her that she needs to decide what she wants and then stick to it - no acting like more than friends if she isn't interested in being more than friends. If she cares about you, she will respect that. If not, she can't possibly resent you for skipping her birthday.
2007-08-22 11:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Janelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call her to wish a happy birthday.
If i were her, i'll expect for present. So i suggest you not to give her one. Let her get dissapointed a lil bit will ya??
Next move : Dont really ask her for a drink if it isnt necessary, or dont even call her if you dont need anything. I know its gonna be hard because you love her, but its already 9 months and she plays on you!!
Hang around with your friends to keep you busy and not thinking about her. Flirt with ppl.
You'll get over her!!
2007-08-22 11:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this girl is still in love with you too otherwise she wouldn't of slept with you even though she says she only wants to be friends. I have played the mind game many times with women and they are very good at it. If you love her that much, I just wait for her to make her next move on what to do. I would just send her a birthday card, and wish her happy birthday. You should tell her exactly how you feel. honesty is the best way to go. Also we cant let women take advantage of us and play with our mind. If she couldn't make up her mind and just wanted to keep doing what she was doing, I wouldn't talk to her at all and just ignore her. Remember, she is already playing with your mind so you have to beat her at her own game. I would wait to see if she would make the effort to contact you or want to be with you, then from there, it your choice. Remember one thing though, listen to your heart and not your head.
2007-08-22 11:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh Jeffrey! Honey, I don't want to hurt you any more than you are being hurt. You really need to move on to someone who will love you right!
You already know this girl is using you. And I know you can't help it that you love her. But this is a very sick and unhealthy kind of love. She is going to ruin you for the one who is really looking for you right now!
This girl is very bad news. She cheated on her "boyfriend"! Don't you know she would do the same or worse to you? Please don't waste another moment or a single tear on this girl who cares nothing for your feelings and pride. I am not saying it will be easy, but you have to move on. Quit her cold turkey. Don't call her and don't answer her calls. Gather your strength and get involved with other things until you aren't thinking of her all the time!
I care. And I am sorry you are going through this. Hugs! Nana
2007-08-22 11:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her on her and wish her a Happy Birthday (and a farewell) Move on. There isn't nothing tricky about it. You need someone who is going to be honest with you and love ONLY you. It isn't fare that you have laid out all your cards on the table and she is holding back hers.
You need to find yourself someone who is worth your time. Let her go. If you keep this up, you'll always end up on the back burner. That isn't healthy. -Good luck.
2007-08-22 11:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 10:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-04 12:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by bloomer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should at least call her and say happy birthday. Nothing more, nothing less. Let her know you care about her but also let her know you were hurt by what she did.
2007-08-22 11:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO thats not your girl. She just used you to get revenge on someone she is seeing. Dont get her anything or call. Call the booty call her b-day present and ignore her.
2007-08-22 13:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋