what to do with dead beat dads when the system fails you and your child!!!!!?

Answer 1

File for Family First Assistance that gives you cash, food stamps, health insurance and pays for partial daycare. That way you and your child are taken care of and for some funny reason when its their money that needs to be recovered they work a whole lot faster finding the dead beat dad! They will eighther garnish his paychecks or threaten to put him in jail if he doesnt have a job. Takes a little paperwork, but you get your benefits with in 2 weeks and then they have to deal with him, not you!

Call your local Department of Human Resources -DHS office

Answer 2

Keep your chin up and focus on you and your child. I have battled with the system for years, I found in the end that I am much happier now that I have just focused on myself and my daughter and let him go. If they are like that, I figure they are losing out anyway, and must lead a pretty miserable life. I am blessed to have the custody. Times were tough for a while, but it will come good in the end, and you have the love of your child/children

Answer 3

In my situation both of my children's father are never consistent with paying support sooooo, I drive the kids to chicago where they live (two hours away form where I live) and drop the kids off with them so that I can work extra. That way, I can depend on me. It is not the ideal situation b/c neither is the best role model but it is their fathers, I can't protect them forever (and they have started to see the labor of my hard work and appreciate it). I also equip the kids with prepaid cell phones with programed numbers to call if anything goes wrong or they want to talk at any time if something goes wrong,I am on the way!

Secondly, and in this order seek reliable friends, family and sitters and churches to watch your child while you better yourself (education, and work wise). Just so that waiting on the next check is an issue I am resistered at multiple temp services (weekly pay), nursing agency(next day pay) and have a PRN job that allows me to work when I want and study in addiditon to my FT job that only requires three days a week at 12 hours. All but the FT job is the only one the state tracks and moniters so I am still eligible for benefits according to the states welfare system. If dad is totally unsafe or not to be trusted in any shape form or fashion find a support network that is dependable. My kids bounce house to house at times but the bad about that out weights the intent of what I am doing to ensure they do not have a future like what i am going through now.

I've have been on this route for ten years and now three times over. Can you get the dad to come to your house and watch the your guys child while you work? Does he have relatives that knows how he is, but can assist you if he can't or won't? Ok if that fails here's another idea . Play hard press with the state child support enforcement bug them daily with letters, phone calls and e-mails. My states attonery got tired of me e-mailing her about my problems and issued a body attachement for one of my childs father who refused to work. Get armed with a court order and fax it to the police stations where they live. Lawyers sometimes take cases pro bono (which means free, just get the phone book and call and ask)If he is dating someone encourage him to get married, it creates stabilityand usually links him to income that you can have seized (worked for me). If all else fails keep his current info and talk to anyone who can help or just listen.

There is a good book in the library called something like deadbeat dads, but it only helps if the father has somthing to take , but a good read anyway. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Have you tried asking family to help you??? Sorry...I'm only 13...so I don't know much about this stuff. Try living with a sibling or your parents until you are back on your feet again. I wish the best of luck to you and your child.

Answer 5

Get over it and realize that some men are just full of empty promises and cold hearts. Most men only want what benefits them. Just realize that you can do it alone and pray alot!!! Prayers is the best way to get things to work out! Good Luck!

Answer 6

i let him go running to his mommy and raised my daughter myself. i even worked 2 jobs for awhile because we needed the money. i've been w/my BF for almost 5yrs now and he's way more of a father to her than her biological father. he now owes $6100 in back child support and still lives w/his mom.

Answer 7

Halley is right!!!!

Even if you get $5 in foodstamps they will go after him for childsupport!!!! Thats how my husband FINALLY got support for his daughter! It works!

Answer 8

hire an attorney