How do I love myself? I dont know how ): Im sooo sad about it. Please help?

Answer 1

ChocolateChip, Knowing that you have a problem is the first step on the road to recovery ! Jesus loves you and so do I ! Do you have a compassionet and loving heart ? Try to be positive, honny I am disabled and I can honestly tell you that if you want it bad enough it can be yours ! Chocolate Chip, how can you say that and not smile ?

Answer 2

Just a shot in the dark here as there is not a bunch of information. Maybe you are so emphauated with the concept of someone else loving you that you have forgotten the first basic of loving yourself first. Just because you do not have a significant other does not mean that you are without worth. Try journaling for a while. Everyday write your feelings into a journal. After three or four days reflect back and re-read the three or four days after clearing your mind. It will amaze you at what you see in yourself. After that, what you want to change will be evident as your value about yourself will change and improve. Once you love yourself there will be a plethera of people that will love you also. Would it be prudent and rational for anyone to find attractive a person that does not think they have value to themselves? Is your love for yourself really reflected in the love others have for you? Don't be sad, fix the problem. Life is way too short to be sad or miserable and it took an extended period of that for me to figure out. It was not until I figured out the regardless of the others in life I like me and the things that I do are kind, considerate and in respect of other people. That is value and where I started. Value can be built or brought out but you have to find a place to start. To find where you are write it down. A journal is perfect. You will not like what you see or read about yourself and to change those things is a perfect place to start. When your journal becomes uplifting reading you are on the right track. It works but you have to do it. The beginning for me was very ugly but it made me ugly and that was the starting point. Physically, I am still ugly but that is not the driving force as inside I am a nice person and do the right things and that builds value. Now I like me and who I am as I will always be plain physically and that will not change but inside I am a good person and that emulates to the outside of me to feel good about me. Hope this helps. It is a long road but it builds self worth and respect that cannot be taken away and is worth every step of the process. I promise. It works as I love you already, now it is your turn to love yourself, do it for you.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry, Ms. Chip, but this is honestly the sort of question that needs a professional answer. The cause for your lack of self-love is going to be unique to you - the best we can do is tell you what has triggered our own symptoms and/or how we got around our own mental hang-ups. Psychologists are specially trained to help you explore your own mind and figure out what your root cause is, and how to work around it.

If you're in school, see if you have counseling available to you (you should). If you're in the workforce, see if your workplace has an Employee Assistance Program - this is usually more for emergency/crisis counseling, but it covers a few sessions with a professional. If you have a choice of professionals, do try to find a psychologist rather than a counselor, since they'll be better equipped to handle deep-rooted ongoing things like this.

Answer 4

Here's a little secret. Everybody is insecure. Everybody judges himself or herself harshly, and everybody struggles with even the concept of loving himself or herself.

The good news is that once we become aware of the way we treat ourselves, we can change it. The most worthwhile goal you can ever set for yourself is one of self-love and self-acceptance. Once we begin to strive for self-acceptance, once we realize that we are supposed to accept ourselves, our lives will begin to change before our very eyes.

Let's start looking at some of the obstacles we put in the way of self-acceptance. First, we think love is something that has to be earned. We look at ourselves and say, "I will love myself when I am thinner. I will love myself when I stop messing up so much. I will love myself when I stop being insecure. I will accept myself when I can be like so-and-so-and-so, or I will accept myself when I am no longer the way I am."

We all engaged in this kind of thinking, but do you see how silly and absurd it is?

The best possible person that you can be...can only be when you love yourself completely.

Have you ever had the experience of being nice to someone who was feeling down? Have you ever complimented someone and then seen that person transform right before your eyes? He or she instantly becomes more attractive or funnier. You say something nice to someone and his or her face glows and his or her eyes get a little sparkle. This isn't imagination. This is true transformation. The very same thing will happen to you when you compliment yourself. Try it....

My heart is with you as you begin to work on accepting yourself. Remember that loving yourself can open the door to a whole new life, one that has as part of it relationships of the very best kind.

ravishingV

Answer 5

Look at yourself in the mirror,this is what and how you appear to be .You cannot change how you look this is how god created you and he loves you the way you are.
Make a note of all the postive things about you , make a note of all the negative things about you .If you are not sure ask your friends/family they could help ..Remember everybdoy has their good and bad qualities and everybody is not perfect.
Once you know your negatives work on it ...you may not get perfect but it will get better and smile about your positive aspects ...it will make you feel good.

Answer 6

Take each day as it comes and dont look too far ahead....make a list of all the blessings in your life, and then some short term and long term goals. Sometimes seeing it all written out makes it more apparent where you are headed.
You live with your grandma, ask her to tell you some things she loves about you.

Answer 7

ummm o dear.
trust in self
belief in self

to trust others is trust yourself, not of knowing them, but trusting in that you can and do take care of your self.

blah blah
that sort of stuff
or you can vbe a fool like some and be self centred and demanding of others

seems to get it right a balance between
stand up for yourself and makesure that you arent oing just to take from others.
take care of yourself.
and dont let the idiots get a grip on your life

ahh not sure im making too much sense o well alcohol tnite heeheee

Answer 8

well the first thing you do it take everything that anyone has ever told you and throw it out the window. Dont listen to what other people say, they dont know you like you know you. If your a good person then focus on that. Take care.

Answer 9

YOu are a very special and important human being. It doesn't matter what you've done, or what you are doing, everyone is special because God created you that way. He gave everyone something unique and wonderful, including you. None of us are perfect, but we all can love ourself despite our imperfections because God doesn't make anything that is not awesome. And you know what, Jesus died on the cross for YOU and ME because we are not perfect. That was His gift to all of us. If God gave His son to die for you, then you MUST be pretty special.

You need to write on your mirror " I am special, unique and wonderful" and read it everyday and say it everyday until you believe it. God Bless you.

Answer 10

Chip, it's me again. You've got some issues darlin'. But this does explain an earlier post you had. You seem to understand that you can't love someone else until you love yourself. Have you thought about going to counseling?