When your life is fallin apart, what do you do?

Question

I've lost 4 people that I love so much 2 from cancer and the other 2 from a serious head on collision there was 2 fatalitys and 1 that survived. it was a head on with a mustang a semi-truck my aunt uncle and couzin were in that mustang it was totaled after the wreck, i lost my aunt and couzin in that wreck and my uncle survived. it was a miracle he survived but, he was in a coma for 3 months and a week and 3 and a half days. they were about to unplug his breathing tank but, he came out of his coma right before they unplugged him. well, i lost my other aunt to cancer as well, as my grandfather. all 4 people ment so much to me... what am i supposed to do now? my life is fallin apart.

Answer 1

That is life on lifes terms
Heres something you might enjoy.....
Everything happens for a reason, nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Injury, Illness, love lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be a smoothly paved path to nowhere.
If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, foregive them. For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.
If someone loves you, love them back uncondittionally, not only because they love you but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you never would have seen or felt without them.
Make everyday count. Apprichiate every moment and take from it everything you can, for you may never be able to expierience it again.
Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up high because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you dont believe in yourself no one else will believe you either.
You can make your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

Answer 2

Hannah,

We all go through tough times like this. Unfortunately, it seems your getting alot in a very short while. We all lose people who are close to us. It does make life harder, however, I don't think your relatives would want you to believe your life is falling apart. Its normal to feel the way you are feeling right now. Its all part of grieving. You might even be going through a bout of depression (which wouldn't surprise me after what you have been through). It's going to take time moving on after your loss (though I hate to use the term "moving on"). I don't think we're ever really the same after we lose the people that are closest to us. It will slowly get better day after day. Keep your relatives here with you by doing something they would of loved (some sort of hobby). If you feel like the sadness won't leave, it might be a good idea to see a therapist also.

Answer 3

First of all I'm very sorry for your loss as I have experienced the loss of loved ones and family members and it is hard to overcome. I have had alot of things falling apart in my life lately as well, which I won't go in to but I was feeling completely useless and unnecessary. To the point that I was tired of waking up. I'm not a devout christian but I DO beleive in God and His power and I can honestly say that without Him in your life, there is No relief. I recently went to the Lord earnestly and honestly and gave him ALL my problems. Now, they are still there BUT I actually want to wake up everyday and I now enjoy life again! I have regained my strength and happiness with myself! If you turn it all over to HIM and truly let go, you will find the light at the end of the tunnel (and it's NOT a freight train!). Good Luck and God Bless you!

Answer 4

Hi Hon... there are a lot of websites out there on coping with grief.. I'm going to find some for you and post them at the end of my answer, if you don't mind.

You have certainly suffered quite a lot of loss in your life, and it can be difficult to cope with, that's for sure.

Everyone dies, and it's sad for those who are left behind because we do miss them very much. I'm sure you have heard this before, but i'm going to say it again -- your relatives would REALLY want to see you carry on with your life... as well as keep them in your heart forever!

I am sure that during their lives (your grandfather especially) these people have also had to deal with losing people they loved very much.

Everyone walks through our lives for a reason.. Keep the good memories of them. Time will help you to cope.

There are also grief counseling groups in some communities. You could probably try calling your local mental health clinics and ask around about this type meeting. Hospice in your area may also sponsor meetings like this?

Sometimes knowing you're not alone, and listening and talking to others helps too.

The first website i've listed has a lot of information, not just about grief.. but it's a site to help teens along through life, too.

If you would like more information on this subject, do a Yahoo search for TEENS COPING WITH GRIEF, TEENS AND GRIEF, TEENS COPING WITH DEATH.
sending hugs

Answer 5

It sounds like you need God in your life. And I am very sorry to hear what has happened to you. You suffered through some hard times. I think you should start praying. I am being serious, too, so plz don't think I am joking around.


Good Luck and let God be with you.

Answer 6

That is so sad to hear. I am so sorry. try to do your best to remember the good times that you had with these people. It's not easy to deal with loss let alone loss of this magnitude. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to email me. =(

Answer 7

pray