is it stupid to be depreesed just bc your single, boys plz help?

Question

im single and im deprresed bc i liked the guy but i stoped liking him and im still depressed. and i really need a bf.

Answer 1

What you need to realize is that a boyfriend isn't what you need to make yourself happy. You're never going to find a good boyfriend if you act out of desperation. I suggest you find things that make you happy outside of a relationship, at that point the problem will solve itself because guys will realize that they want to be part of that happy life.

Answer 2

Have you heard the saying "don't put all of your eggs in one basket? because if the basket drops all the eggs will break? The idea behind this is that if you only feel happy when ONE thing is happening in your life then no wonder that when "the basket" drops you are depressed. Some people say "Get a life!" which means, get yourself busy. Look for a hobby, do voluntary service, clean the house, get a new look, find a new job, go back to school for a new career, make new friends, DO SOMETHING!!!

What you have, many people call it "Love addiction," which means that your behavior is much like any other addictions, you depend on doing something to feel good about yourself. No one wants to be in a relationship with a needy person, unless that person is as needy and emotionally imbalanced.

There is a rebound, griefing period after relationships end, but after that, being depressed is not good.

Keep your mind busy. Love (from a bf) should not be the only thing that makes you happy.

Answer 3

I've been there.. and I felt that way for so, soo long. And then one day, things just changed. I know that sounds weird, but really. I started going out with this guy I didn't really like in that way just because I wanted a bf, and of course we broke up after like 4 days.. BUT, after that.. the guy that I'd really wanted all along asked me out, and I've been with him for a year and two months now. Just chill out though, by the way you type and spell, you're too young to be so worried and 'depressed' over guys. Give it some time, you'll find someone. =]

Answer 4

You do not -need- a boyfriend. I thought I did in school, and I've learned that, if you're depressed, finding a man isn't going to make it better. You probably have self-worth issues, and you think that having a boyfriend will prove that you're not worthless and that everybody hates you. This will not happen. When you're that depressed, you only attract boys that will take advantage of you and make you feel even worse.

What you ---really--- need is to address your problems with your self-esteem. Why do you think you're worthless or whatever it is you're thinking? Try changing it, and see what happens. If you think you're ugly, try fixing yourself up. If you think you're too fat, try losing weight. You can never have a good relationship if you don't think you're even worth one.

Talk to your parents and maybe see about seeing a psychologist. A boyfriend is only a one-stop shop to more heartache when you feel like this.

Answer 5

It's natural, a form of loneliness.
Just don't center your life around getting a boyfriend. It would help make the depression worse & I can't say I've ever had a chance with a guy when I'm down. They are usually attracted to women with confidence.
Go out with a friend & have some fun.

Answer 6

I am single, and have been for the last couple of years and absolutely hate it. Where I live, it's hard to even find a date. I am 29 and attractive, there just isn't much selection out here in Wisconsin (a lot of drunks, lol). I am happy with other things in my life, but I know I would be a lot happier having someone in my life. But I try to look at in a positive way- "good things come to those who wait."

Answer 7

you do not need a guy to feel good about yourself. too many girls feel that way ad i wish they would stop. the more desparate you act the more guys will not like you so you need to snap out of it and find some activities that you enjoy and get your mind OFF of boys. the more you linger on them the more pathetic it will become and the more depressed you will be. Join a club or two, get into dance classes or something, volunteer somewhere, but DO SOMETHING besides drool over some boy who doesn't like you anymore or just sit around wishing you had someone. besides, by going out and joining new activities you may meet some great, new, and way more interesting guys than the old loser one.

Answer 8

we usually find boyfriends out of the clear, blue sky when we are least expecting it... and we get together because we are attracted to each other.

being depressed because you are single, is probably common, but being desparate is another thing all together.

don't settle for JUST ANYONE! i'm sure that someone nice will come along eventually. meanwhile, enjoy your life, keep busy with a hobby or project... spend time with friends.

socializing with others is a good way to meet a variety of people...

Answer 9

You do not "really need a bf". What you really, really need is self-esteem. If you feel that you have to have another person in your world in order to somehow make your life complete, then yes, something's wrong. People with good self-esteem are content with their own company. The first and foremost relationship that people need to cultivate is the one they have with themselves. Being sad over not having a boyfriend is a waste of time. Can't you channel all that energy into a worthwhile, positive pursuit instead?

Answer 10

I understand, sometimes begin single can be depressing because you want that companionship. Just remember the up side to begin single and wait until the right guy comes along.