why is she always in our business?

Question

my fiance mom is always in our business. she always asking are we have problems, why i like, are my feelings for him the same, why am i with me, she even had the nerve to ask about our sexual life. I am like dang........can we please have some privacy. My fiance and I do not live together. We will both live at home until we get married. When we are at his house they are constantly up under us even his little sister. She is a total drama queen and a b don't want to finish the rest. well she aint one she just act like that. she was cool when i first met her, but i dont know what happen to her. anybody else have some future monster-in-laws

he has tried to talk to her but she dont even want to listen.

when my fiance and i first got together his mom said that i was a answer to her prayers she said that she had prayed for someone for her son and i was it.

if i have to tell her to mind her business it want be nice. i'll try to make it nice though

it is just his mom with the B.S

Answer 1

OMG im so sorry. You just described my mother in law! once you two live together it will get better, but talk to your man and tell him you feel your private life with him isnt all that private. Ask him to talk to him mom, nicely tell her that some things are personal and although she is his mother you two just are not commfortablr sharing all the private information with her, and she need to lay off, because if anything it will just damage both of your relationships with her. Have him tell her that he and you are starting your own life together, and just need some space to just be the two of you.

Answer 2

Totally agree with Carlito, she might act as a ***** but why doesn't HE do anything about it??? It's HIS mother!! You can't go and tell her to mind her own business (well, you could, but you would have to be really subtle and you could risk a big fight with her and then with your fiance), so why doesn't he ask her to stop bugging you guys?? You're adults..... if she's doing this now that you don't live together and you're not part of the family, can you think of what things will be like once you've gotten married??? NIGHTMARE.... he really has to be a man and keep her off your personal business. I've had this happen with 1-2 BFs and I used to tell them: I'LL LET IT PASS THIS TIME, AND YOU TELL HER TO MIND HER OWN BUSINESS..... IF YOU DON'T DO IT OR SHE CONTINUES BEING A NOSEY ***** THEN NEXT TIME *I* WILL TELL HER!!! SEE HOW YOU AND SHE LIKE THAT!

Answer 3

If you're right about the drama queen business, she needs something to be dramatic about. Get a pet or some other huge, not so personal issue. Do it now before the grandchildren come and she makes their lives HH.

If you're wrong, she's worried about something. Either you ain't the one or that you'll find out something about the fiance.

If you're really brave, say, "All these questions makes it sound like you're afraid I'm gonna find out Sonny's on the down low or something." That could put a stop to the questions and give her a whole new interest.

Answer 4

Wow seems such as you get carry of your self right into a venture. adult males that i comprehend that have lost their jobs, form of bypass by using a melancholy. He is attentive to what he's doing is incorrect and till he's an entire @sshole, he feels very undesirable and takes total blame to your venture. you're able to desire to stay on your husbands case. you're able to desire to tell him, he needs to have a activity and which you will no longer stay in his mothers and fathers domicile perpetually, that finally, you will bypass away him there together with his mothers and fathers and flow alongside your merry little way. once you attain the snapping element, i'm hoping you have adequate money interior the financial company. For starters, on the grounds which you at the instant are not getting the interest you like, according to possibility you are able to try something in quickly nutrients or the like? it could no longer be the interest you like, yet its a activity. sustain you cash so which you're able to desire to purchase an apartment. If by skill of the time you have saved up he has confirmed no sign of having his stuff mutually, flow interior the apartment without him.

Answer 5

Tell your fiance about it. Then confront his parents and sister. Let them know how you feel. Don't be rude about it just nicely let them know that you feel their concern because that is their son and that your love is true for him. Also, let them know that you are very uncomfortable with the questions. You have not done anything wrong. If you let this continue than they will stay in your business and cause your marriage trouble. So don't wait do it NOW!!!!!

Answer 6

you need to set personal boundaries with these people NOW, and also remember they are not going to change over night. In fact, they may always be nosey... but that doesn't mean you have to give them answers.

you can simply tell them, "you are intruding"... or "your questions aren't appropriate"... give them all this message a couple of times and after that, simply ignore their comments, change the subject, or just get UP and go do something else...

you don't have to spend a lot of time in their home either, do you? i'm sure there are other places to go, and things to do away from these people.

remember you are marrying the SON not the parents.

take care

Answer 7

Getting married is combining the karmic conditions of two families. If you exchange the rings, you're buying the karma. You can't change the other person, and it would be wrong to try. I suggest getting to know your potential in-laws better to understand and appreciate if this is really what you want. In a very real sense, you're not only considering marrying him, you're also considering marrying his family. Best to go in with full awarenss of what you're getting into.

Answer 8

you have to talk to your fiance and both of you need to decide how to handle this. You and he must stand united against this invasion of your privacy or there'll be a big family fight and you will lose.

You have boundaries. If your hubby to be cannot stand up against his family and support your views then the best answer to any of their questions is: "You'll have to ask your son, I don't kiss and tell or air my dirty laundry out. I try to have some class."

that should remind them that you are the one in charge of your life and they are not. But talk to your fiance FIRST.

Remmeber the vows, "forsaking all others...."

Answer 9

You need to ask HIM why he isnt telling her to mind her own business. If he cant do that expect this to last as long as you marriage lasts.
If he cant stand up for the both of you then youre marrying a wimp. He needs to tell her to back off and keep telling her that til she catches on.

Answer 10

When (hopefully soon) you all get your own place do yourself a huge favor. Put atleast 1/2 hour between you and them. Trust this, when it takes a concerted effort for them (in laws) to see you all that kinda nonsense goes away. They will be to easy to aviod if it persist.