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Question

I was talking to a friend of mind a few weeks ago and he made this comment to me, "I would never date you! You are to pretty. I need to be with a women that has a little something wrong with her." I asked him why and he said. "Because pretty women have a way about themselves and I would give you all my money and would lose my mind."

Do men really feel like a women can be to pretty to date and why or why not?

We were not talking about dating each other. That never come up in the conversation.

Answer 1

Your question takes me back over 30 years. I wa sin college-Boston U-and it was 1974. One of my closest friends was a former Miss teenage New Jersey..I was a senior, she was a freshman. And she was gorgeous.
I had been one of those who was proud of having a personality because I was not confident in my looks.
I still remember walking home, Robyn holding onto my arm, and asking me why I was dating so many others, but never asked her out. I turned to her and said, "Robyn, look at you and look at me. I could never ask a girl as pretty as you are out."
See, she was taking a closer, deeper look at her and at me. She saw through the looks (I am not ugly, but am average, and I did not have the confidence that I was worth a woman like her.)
If this young man was serious, he needs to see the true person...he is not saying that you are "too perfect," he may be saying, "I am not perfect enough for you. I am not worthy of you."
I took that lesson with me. In some ways it changed my life. I saw that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the heart of the beheld. I have been married twice, and both women are attractive. I have had my share of dates, and several of them have been very attractive in the eyes of others. I let the real me, the inner me, the guy that goes beyond the looks, shine through.
I have come to realize that if someone sees something in me, it is there to be seen and I have to go with their feelings--they are the ones dating me, or in two cases, loving me enough to marry me.
It may have been just a line, or it may be a man saying he was not sure of himself, and all he might need is for you to boost his confidence. He is a friend for a reasons, something you see in him. Whether it ends up makign a difference or not, let him know what you see. However old you are--or young you are--let him know that his real beauty is what is inside.
He may be insecure, and the good looking guys who look at you, if you ever did date him, might concern him. What I had to learn was, it was not who was looking at the women in my life, it was that they were looking at me! I was with someone that another man considered worthy enough to want, and that woman wanted me. It took a while for me to realize that, and to get used to it...but after I did, it made a tremendous difference....Yes, I am worth it. I am heavier, older, balder now than I was as a kid, but I am also wiser, more mature, and more loving."
Help this friend see that who he is is what counts, that if he gave up his identity for any woman, he would be losing that which got her to like him in the first place, and any woman who would want all he had and not let him be himself, however she looked, would not be worth it. If you two never dated, it would be one of the greatest things in the world you did for someone, and whatever happens in your life--if you get him to see himself--his true self--and all he is worth--it may last his entire life.
As I said--Robyn and I had that conversation 33 years ago. I lost track of her along the way over 30 years ago, and I will never forget her. But, funny thing is, except for remembering she was blond, I have no idea what she looked like anymore.

Answer 2

NUrDreams, Of course not ! Looks are only part of my fasination with women. The main ingrediant is a compassionet and loving heart ! I also prefer little women,so I can carry them across mud puddles, the thresh hold ! Yes I am an old fashioned man !

Answer 3

I am not a guy but some guys feel intimidated by the looks of a pretty girl like they are to good enough for her. Maybe your friend is a little insecure about him self. Maybe if you are signal you could ask him out to make him feel better about him self.

Answer 4

He probaly feels like you are to good for him and he feels uncomfortable dating you because all the other guys will be trying to be with you as well. and about the money thing, he probaly feels that the only way to keep you is to buy you the finest things in life so you will have a reason to stay with him.i kinda had a girlfriend like that so i know what he means.it is really stress ful being with a girl that you think is out of your leaque so you worry about her more than you enjoy being with her. you should ask him to meet you somewhere and talk about it. if hes like me he just wants to know that your in it for love and not just to get by on looks tell him that hes the only guy for you and every girl has there own taste and hes your taste. it will make him feel like he can date you or he won't feel like he will have to buy your love.

Answer 5

I think the factor is a suspicious mind.
☻ Why would she date me?
☻ What can I do to keep her?
☻ She's the best thing that wille ver happen to me

I'm thinking we seem to forget the heart of you. The part that we should consider and realize, the package is pretty, but get's torn away at Christmas.

Answer 6

us men do get intimidating alot but hey its nice when we date pretty girls.i don't think the pretier ones should take us average guys for granted and spend all our money just so we can get a little lovin you know? women should treat us how we treat them. a lot of us guys do care for you girls and do everything for you we just want only the best from you

Answer 7

Never really thought of it that way. But I`m surely too handsome for certain girls to date me.

It`s about the personality anyways.

Answer 8

Oh yeah. Women that are too pretty are no good to date. They can and will have whatever they want.

Answer 9

No not at all. I've always been told there's no such thing as too pretty. If your as pretty as he says you are and you were my girlfriend I would WANT to spoil you and show you off to the world.

Answer 10

I think you misunderstood what he's saying. He's saying that very pretty girls are almost always gold diggers, and he thinks you're a gold digger, thus he would never date anybody like you.