So basically I'm a junior this year and my boyfriend is going to college 2 hours away. We love each other very much so we want to conserve our relationship and not mess it up or anything. He's been getting advice that we should break up so there wont be any hurt feelings slash hatred for each other if we do break up for some reason in college. His friends think that this way we can still be friends and what not. We both don't want to end it but he's thinking we might have to. We are both confused and ..HELP!?
2007-08-22 07:20:11 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesn't want me with other guys and I think that has a lot to do with why he's confused. Like he wants to mess around with other girls because he's never done that before he's always had relationships and he doesn't want to regret later in his life about like me being the last person he ever sleeps with and stuff. What confuses me though is he's a legit guy and he told me from day one of our relationship that he doesn't have sex with anyone unless he loves them...I'm just a bit surprised he'd want to do that. but it's understandable I guess...we're having a talk tonight and I've already told him I'm okay with a break....but idk...it almost feels like if we really do love each other we'd be able to survive through all that....
2007-08-22 07:43:38 · update #1
If you want to stay with each other and you both decide that you love each other and want this to work, then I say try it. I boyfriend and I had a successful long distance relationship for two years. July 24th of this year he asked me to marry him. So for all of those people putting you guys and your relationship down...don't listen to them. Just tell your boyfriend to be honest and upfront with you. If he gets there and after a few months he is no longer happy, then he should maybe end it. But you will never know if you don't give it a try.
2007-08-22 07:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by mally_pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Break up - amicably of course. Openly Agree that you both can date/see/hang out with/ other people.
You are in different worlds now. He's in college - which is WAY different from high school. You're still looking at football games and prom. He's got too much to do to keep up his GPA to have a girlfriend anyway. And he's 2 hours away for heaven's sake.
There is absolutely no reason for you to "wait for him" either. When he does come home - of course, get together. Renew old ties etc. BUT he will come home from college a changed man. Accept that.
That doesn't mean that you can't treasure your time together - but again, openly agree that you two can date others. If either of you have the time of course.
In the meantime, you and he - hit the books from the git-go.
2007-08-22 07:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is a big step in anyone's life. You experience so many things and meet lots of new people. It is possible to still be together seeing that both of your feelings are the same. So don't break up your relationship. But also, don't forget that distance can case a rift if you two are not careful. Just brace yourself if he does want to break up with you. But other then that, just relax and see it through.
2007-08-22 07:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by blckmustng2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friends,if u break up,then u both will see if u want to stay
to gether,afteru all are a part for awhile u to have to deside
for yourselves,no one can tell u what to do
2007-08-22 07:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by goodwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to break up..just keep in contact, and if he has a car, he can come and visit you.
2007-08-22 07:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋