I've been talking to this guy online for about 3-4 days now. but i added him to my s/n about 3 months ago. and i really enjoy talking to him, he's really nice. but here's the problem...we are four years apart. i'm 15 he's 19. And from what he's been telling me, he's like in love with me. is that even possible when we haven't even met? that brings me to the next thing. he want's to meet me. and i just dont know what to say to that. cause i know my parents would freak. 1. being he's four years older than me. and 2. being we met online. i don't know what i should feel. and if this is okay or not. helllp please and thank you :]
2007-08-22 06:57:14 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you decide to do, please be careful. Don't meet him alone, and make sure someone else knows that you are planning on meeting him. Sadly, there are a lot of creeps out there. Please be very, very careful.
2007-08-22 07:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should put a little more thought in to it! I mean the way the sexual predators are out of control now a days...I mean this 19 year old boy could very likely be a 30 year old man. Just feel out the situation and TELL YOUR PARENTS. If they say no, then it is probably the best thing for you. Parents always find out the truth, no matter how good of a liar you consider yourself...parents ALWAYS know.
2007-08-22 07:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by mally_pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that all depends on how you feel about him. My gf and I are 5 yrs apart in age and we meet online 5 months ago and we talked alot and started feeling more and more like we knew each other and were meant to be so we met. Now we talk on the phone all the time and i go see her almost everyweekend also we are starting to talk about getting married in June or July of next yr. But to say that he is too old and that you are too young and that you should date someone your own age is wrong by my book causes everything happens in life for a reason and things are just meant to be.
2007-08-22 07:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At your age what you are talking about is a dangerous thing to endeavor upon. You should not be meeting older men or women on the Internet. Be careful what you say and how much information that you give out. Have you ever seen the show To Catch a Predator? Watch yourself. I would hate for anything to happen to you.
2007-08-22 07:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is stupid. You have no way of knowing he is who he says he is; pedophiles frequently set up fake IDs and lure their marks and you could end up raped or murdered.
Read Chris Hanson's book "To Catch A Predator", especially the story about Kacie Woods, the 12 year old that ended up being raped and murdered by who she thought was a 17 year old boy who lived in California in a Christian chat room online who turned out to be a middle aged rapist and murderer.
If this guy really cared about you, he would not be pushing to meet you so quickly and would want to meet with your parents first and have their approval because if you would engage in sexual activity with him, even if you consented, all they would have to do is pick up the phone and call the police because it would statutory rape and he could go to jail.
2007-08-22 07:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same problem - were both 14 though. so unless someone drives us to the other place's...
but try to remember where you met. like on myspace or facebook? there are ALOT of sexual predators there. we met on divineart (i think thats the name lol)
but he tells me he's pretty much in love with me too and i think i might like him at least A LOT. try to get as much information about him as possible. even if its little stuff like siblings, school or somthing. cause the more you know that doesnt sound like he's a bad guy, the better. also, what makes me feel more comfortable about my relationship is that he told me his age and where he lived before i did.
2007-08-22 12:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Marissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT meet him. You are 15 and have many experiences yet to learn. He's taking advantage of your "lack of knowledge" and wants you to follow him. This is dangerous. He's a walking hormone and when he meets you he will convince you to have sex with him. He may not even be 19, he could be much older trying to rape you. It's ok to be excited and want to be loved but not by a stranger online. DON'T DO IT.
2007-08-22 12:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Iseethrough you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stupid while you're underage and just dangerous when you're of-age. What if he's lying? What if he's a 45 year old who loves 15 year olds? This is the reason so many parental controls exist on the internet. They are irritating, but they protect you. Bad people are out there.
2007-08-22 07:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by tabby90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
Don't panic. Everything sounds normal so far.
For a 19 y.o the age difference is not too big. I personnally do not think he is that bad...
But i think it is not time yet to meet him
Keep the good friendship now and nurture it.
If he survives friendship for a couple of years, he might be in love... Or else he would depart !!
Good luck
2007-08-22 07:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about because i met one of my long term boyfriends off the internet. It happened so random. I went on my messenger and this addy popped up. I accepted and he said opps i added the wrong person. We never deleted eachtoher though, but eventually conversations came. I found out he loved not far from me, so we met up. I had a friend come with me and sit at the park just incase. I sat in a car that my good guy friend had unlocked for me to use. I saw the guy walking up the staris and around the park. My friend looked at the picture i gave her of him and she said he looks exzactly like the picture and he looks 18. I got outta the car and we met up. We stayed in public areas because i felt safer. I was 16 at the time almost your age. We really clicked and to this day we are friends. Please if your going to have a friend help you out. Be careful because there are a lot of weirdos on the internet.
2007-08-22 07:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey. I think it's a little crazy that he thinks he's in love with you after you've only met him online. I don't see a problem with meeting up with him--Heck, when I was fifteen, that's how I met my first boyfriend. Well--except one person I knew in real life knew him, but not that well..Hah. But, if you do go and meet up with him, make sure you take a friend and a cell phone with you.
2007-08-22 07:03:25 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal♥of♥Iris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋