Maybe it's just me..but I am pretty laid back when it comes to parenting. I set rules and limits but alot of moms on here seem very "old fashioned" in their ways. It just seems not too many people have a sense of humor and let the weirdest things bother them. Is it just me?
2007-08-22 06:40:54 · 17 answers · asked by Willow 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
hockey-you are very uptight
You must be a very unhappy person
2007-08-22 06:55:14 · update #1
Rich-I disagree It is the one with the parents who don't let them do anything they end up like that. Once they hit college-they go wild
2007-08-22 07:15:29 · update #2
Hockey, who exactly are you applying your comment to?
Because I am 21 year old with a 4 month old baby boy and I happen not to be married. I've been to college, which means I am well educated. I think that you could be 30, have a ring on your finger with a baby on the way and completely unhappy. If you teach your kids that getting pregnant at a young age when you aren't married is a horrible thing then naturally they'd look down on those who are. I'm very happy with my life, I am dedicated to my son and partner and I have no regrets on my life choices. I think that if you have the same ideals that I have, are financially stable and have a good relationship then why should you have to wait?
2007-08-22 11:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Renee E 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I see a variety of strict and laid back moms, but we all have the common bond of caring about our kids. Otherwise we would not be seeking help with a problem that we have tried and failed to come up with an answer that works. I am very glad that if I happen to have a tough parenting or any other type question for that matter that there is a very diverse group of people that will rack their brains to help me think outside the box so to speak. My kids get a better parent because of the network available to me. I find the resources here quite valuable. Some of the answers work for me others don't, but it is that variety that allows me to choose the best option for me. I love the idea that I might be able to help someone from my experiences or something I have read and I am glad that someone else with a different point of view would take the time to help me.
2007-08-22 09:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by moonprincess_serenity2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. My child is friends with someone and there parents are very strict. No music with swearing, bedtime at exactly 8:30 no exceptions for weekends or summers. Special chores and if you misbehave (a little fighting or aruging) you get hit. One time in the winter the child was coming over and since we have a hot tub we told her to bring her bathing suit. The mom made a big deal about it and wasn't sure she wanted the child to go in the hot tub. She had to see were the drain was, how deep, and make sure I was going to be in there too. I think it is weird. Just my thoughts. I am layed back also. I laugh at what they do.
2007-08-22 08:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you for the most part. I am I think pretty laid back, but I also have rules and set my limits with my kids. My kids are very well behaved and I have not had to be strict, but maybe I am just lucky. But there are a lot of moms on here that are strict. One thing that I see a lot of parents are strict about is sweets, and I am some what, but if my kids ask for a cookie and if is not right before dinner or for breakfast they get one, I see no problem with it. They have good teeth, are not hyper children and eat a variety of fruits and veggies, so that one cookie is not going to kill them. Let your kids be kids, lighten up!
2007-08-22 07:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are wrong for being judgmental of someone else's parenting style. At least they care enough to try & do the best job they can as parents to make sure there kids are not annoyances to other people & will grow up to be decent people with decent morals. I think that's way better than just not caring at all. I've seen some parents that I would consider a little much on certain things but it's their kids & it's their decision on how to raise them the way they see fit.
2007-08-22 08:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haha yeah I agree. On this site a lot of the moms here think that if people do not parent the same way they do, then that person is in the wrong. Also have you noticed a lot of people on this site think everything is child abuse? Spanking, yelling too much at your child, time out, etc etc... I try to keep an open mind when people give me parenting advice but the other people giving the advice think their way is the right way and there is NO other way. For instance my uncle's girlfriend had tried to give me her old crib, she told me her daughter hardly every used it. She says her daughter slept in bed with her till she was seven, and that buying a crib is only spoiling your baby. Now I thought that was ridiculous. i just smiled and nodded and said "okay thanks" when I was thinking to myself, isn't letting your child sleep in the same bed with you till they are seven, spoiling them more? And I am sure other people think the same way as my uncles girlfriend, but I don't insult them or tell them they are horrible parents because of it, like most of thsoe "uptight" mothers do. So it's not just you, I see it too.
2007-08-22 07:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi Willow,
I agree with you, but also in public notice a lot of fathers with this attitude as well.
I tend to be laid back, not worried over spills or a child getting dirty, etc. Recently had a father start flipping out because my son colored on his own arm with a marker. Getting upset over innocent things kids so - it just confuses me.
Y/A is a realm of extremes - folks from the comic/whimsical clear on up to the ranters and ravers.
good luck ~
2007-08-22 07:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by yoak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you ARE On a website of people who are actively dicussing parenting. That in itself indicates these people take parenting more serious than the average layman. I think if you pooled random parnets on the streets, you'd get a completely different set of answers.
2007-08-22 06:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i don't have kids-yet!. but i am shocked by the way kids behave in the streets where i live. they are out wayyyy too late,drinking and smoking.giving abuse to passers-by. when i was a kid,i would not have dared(or wanted to) behave like that!. so i assume that parents need to have more control over their kids and teach them to give respect!.so in orfder for my future kids to be decent citizens i think i will be laying down the law quite a bit!
2007-08-22 07:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by scorpio_queen_2003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive always been amazed on the number who support/practice spanking. I dont find that more or less strict, just "old fashioned" as you say.
2007-08-22 06:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by lillilou 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋