How did you feel when your husband/fiance/boyfriend came back home from the Army or basic for the first time after not seeing them for months? What was it like? What did you do stared in silence ran to them and hugged and kissed, what did you say. I just haven't seen my boyfriend for months and I am nervouse to see him again and what I'm going to do or where i will be :) what was your experience like?
Also for men or women who came back from the service what was it like to see your spouse again, how did you feel? Thank You
2007-08-22 06:26:23 · 8 answers · asked by XQZ-moi 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
To me it was love all over again. It was so innocent at first but you knew what was going to happen when you got home (we're married). It was hard to pick him out of all of those other men who looked just like him but then when you did and you were locked on, it was magic. And then to hug and kiss again, you can never take that away. And to wonder where the military is going to send us and how we're going to live our future together. It's all just magical and now part of my everyday life...that was 15 years ago for me. Good luck sweetie!
2007-08-22 06:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill be honest....
Its hard to say exactly. I have seen all you mentioned, and I have seen some that is seemed like they were never apart. I have seen some that got divorced, and I have seen some that fell in love all over again.
There will be confusion. Anytime two people are apart, especially in a situation where they cannot talk to each other like Basic Training, things change. People grow at BCT. The same is true on a deployment. It is a real test of a relationship.
You have to accept that things change. Do what comes natural. If it seems like nothing happened, then great. If things did change, then talk about it. Change is part of life. Even if he did not go someplace, over time both he and you will change. Building any relationship is working through those changes and growing together.
You have to decide. If just going to BCT and AIT is hard for a few months, deployments are a year. This is a good test for you. I know a test seems impersonal, but that's what it is. This is the first step of being an Army Family. Separation is part of it, and its never the same for two people. Sometimes its not even the same for the same people on different deployments. Some are harder then others.
Hopefully someday you can look back and see this a positive experience, not necessarily a fun one, but a positive one. I hope the best for you.
2007-08-22 13:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by mnbvcxz52773 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Great question!! I had dated a man in the Navy for 2 years in the late 90s. When he went away it just about broke my heart. However I stayed with it. When I saw him, there was always a wave of hello because there were always other military men traveling with him then a long hug and kiss. I was happy and comforted, but in the back of my mind was always that nagging little thought "he is going to go away again". For two years I went through this with him and he was the best man he could be for our country for himself and for me. Because he was in the military for most of our relationship it took us a long time to realize that we were not as compatible as we once thought so we ended up breaking up. I had chances to be with other military men but I was never truly happy knowing that he would have to leave. For me it was a wonderfully sad part of my life. I would not trade it for anything. God Bless Military Wives!!! They are much stronger woman than I am. Good luck, and I pray for your man and all of our soldiers to come home safe.
2007-08-22 13:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be supportive and understand that it may take a little while for things to go back to normal. As long as you were both honest with each other during the time he was gone then there shouldn't be any problems.
2007-08-22 13:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by krismallery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't plan out everything for him. Give him time to decompress. He will be high strung, excited, a little edgy. If he wants to do things with you, great. He may also want to do things with others. Let him. Don't try to understand everything because you can't. He has learned some things about himself and not all of them good. He won't be able to explain so don't press. Good luck.
2007-08-22 13:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know when I came back, all I wanted to do was stuff I couldn't while in Germany and Desert Storm.
Let him relax and plan on doing what ever he/she wants.
(Lots of hugging and kissing went on too)
2007-08-22 14:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming home to my wife was the best feeling in the World!!!
2007-08-22 13:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by LnM 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It didn't go well at all for me, but I wish you luck and hope it all works out for you.
2007-08-23 21:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋