my friend was telling me that me and my girl should get married before i go into the military which is on monday what exactly are the benifits and if i ship overseas like to italy or puerto rico can she go with me?
2007-08-22 06:14:36 · 10 answers · asked by dloc 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
we were planing on getting married just not this soon
2007-08-22 06:41:45 · update #1
Please don't get married just for the benefits. If you were already planning on getting married and you have a date set, wait for the date. Don't rush in to anything. I have been a military wife for quite a while and it isn't fun and games. You certainly don't get shipped to places such as Italy and Puerto Rico as often if you're married because it costs the military more money to ship you plus your wife there and pay for your houses. They will probably keep you stateside and you'll live in base housing. My advice since you're asking...wait. You're single now and if it's meant to be, it will be. The military can be fun for a single male/female, especially all of the floats you may get to go on. You could get an opportunity to see more of the world through a single person's eye vs. a married person's. Post again and ask a married person's view vs. a single person's view of the military and see which response you like better. I just talked to a Marine Lance Corporal the other day who's leaving for Spain on ship next week, he's 21 years old, he served 7 months in Iraq, he's not married, and he's so thankful that right now he isn't, he extended to go on float to Spain for 7 months...imagine the parties and scenery he'll enjoy at such a young age. Live your life, the girl will be there when you get back and if she isn't then she wasn't worth it anyway.
2007-08-22 06:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you are both in love and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then get married. The only benefit $$ wise is BAH and she will be cover'd with health insurance. You do not get much more of anything else. Yes she could go with you where ever you get station'd as long as its not a hostile place. If you think that being married will hold you back from partying then either your not ready for commitment period or you could both party together Anyhow, the benefits to being married period wether military or not is companionship, love, living your lives together through ups and downs, fun, boring, scary,sad,angry,joy,happiness moments together. If you would want to get married anyway even if you weren't leaving then go and do it. If you are in love do it. Don't do it if you think it will financially add to your life. It won't. It about the love nothing less nothing more. Good luck !!!
.......um you shouldn't get into trouble, our status changed during A school (crossrate) and there was NO PROBLEM at all. Had pay trouble cuz of DFAS and was NO trouble at all fixing, filling and updating paperwork, its just more legwork for you and more time savy you will have to be before and after classes. look follow your heart and mind. opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one.!!!!
2007-08-22 13:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by luvmyhubby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you want to get married for the right reasons don't do it just for the benifits. You will regret it later down the road. As for her going with you it all depends on where they send you and if it is an accompanied tour or not, if it is then she can go but if not you will receive separation pay and she will either have base housing in the states or she will receive money to live off base.
2007-08-22 13:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by krismallery 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The benefits are so good you should really consider marrying at least two or more women just before you enlist! If they both know about the situation then each of you can keep more money and still come out with extra!
2007-08-22 14:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get more pay to support you new Dependent (wife). It takes a while for her to live with you at your duty station. Depends if there are any housing available.
Get married when you are ready. Rushed into marriage just to get a few extra dollars is not a good idea.
2007-08-22 14:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I understand you wanting to get married. Wait until after your schooling, at the very least. This will give her a small chance to see what life will be like after you are married. She will see if she can handle separations if you are deployed.
2007-08-22 14:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Diane 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should get married because you love this woman and want to share your life with her. Don't marry her because it is a convenient time or for the benefits you will receive.
2007-08-22 13:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
getting married and then showing up to ship out will most likely get you into a lot of trouble, as your status will have changed.
wait until after your training is done and you are at your first duty station. It isn't worth the hassle to do it sooner.
2007-08-22 13:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It depends on where your stationed. Most places will allow spouses if you stay there longer than the standard 2 year tour.
There are exceptions; IE Korea where no spouses are allowed except in certain circumstances.
2007-08-22 13:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by chefantwon 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
do not get married cause of the military
but if you do.. even if ur already enlisted.. u get a housing salary and a pay increase and you will have to get base housing cause ur wife cannot live in the barracks..
but i would not suggest doing that to make more money
and yes if u get shipped out anywhere that isnt in combat she can go :-)
2007-08-22 13:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by drlstephe 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋