I would just like to take a second to wish C & K a happy half hour anniversary. I would like to say thank you to my parents, Mr. & Mrs. M, for all that you've done to make this the special day that it is. And, of course, my gratitude to Mr. & Mrs. L and family for all your support and travel time to make this the perfect day for C and K. At last, I would like to welcome C and his family into our family. The more the merrier!!
I have only been married for 6 years so there are probably many other couples here today that could give you better advice but here is mine. Actually, it's advice Mom gave me the night before my wedding day. So in reality, combined it is 46 years of experience. She told me: love is a decision.
On the surface it sounds a fairly clinical and an unromantic assessment, but if you think about it a little deeper you will realize that there is truth in these words.
It’s easy to fall in love. When a couple first meet, life
2007-08-22 06:13:14 · 21 answers · asked by Nezz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is great, neither can do wrong.
But the longer you are together realities of life happen - things like a mortgage, kids and the general ups and downs happen – you start to realize that love actually is “a conscious decision of your commitment you made together today.”
That being said, here's to Chris and Krissi, “May all your pain be Champagne!!!
2007-08-22 06:13:31 · update #1
On all the wedding sites it says it is tradition for the toast to include a thank you to the parents of the bride and the groom.
2007-08-22 06:49:28 · update #2
It is very sweet. I like it a lot. is there a personal story you can add that will add laughter to it- a funny one liner or quick anecdote about the couple or your marriage?
2007-08-22 06:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by ciao_gina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know perhaps I read a different speech than everyone else. I hated it. But perhaps its just b/c I didn't really understand.
Why are you thanking your parents? What did they have to do with anything? It seemed as if you were making the speech about you--and its suppose to be their day. Are your parents really her parents as well?
But it just seems so negative. Speeches are when people talk about how beautiful everything is, how perfect they are for each other, how their love will help them climb mountains. The best man tells a couple jokes something along the lines of ball and chain comments, but then goes on to say how lucky the groom is to have landed such a fabulous girl.
Mentioning how life sucks is such a downer on a perfect moment. Yes reality is morgages and pain but this special day is not the time to mention that. A wedding is a fairy tale moment. Can't you tell a sweet story about when they first met and you knew he was the one b/c of the way her eyes glowed, and the blush didn't leave her cheeks--just the way she still looks today? Something about how well he fits in with the family. A sincere liking for the fact that they are married.
I think you'll end up with people looking at you wondering why you don't approve of their wedding and the person after you feeling like he has to be romantic or super funny to make up for it. There is a reason these speeches are sappy. If you don't want to gush or something, just recite an irish blessing.
2007-08-22 06:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all sounds great but the thank you part should be left for the bride and groom
" I would like to say thank you to my parents, Mr. & Mrs. M, for all that you've done to make this the special day that it is. And, of course, my gratitude to Mr. & Mrs. L and family for all your support and travel time to make this the perfect day for C and K.".
I would also remove the part when you said "things like a mortgage, kids and the general ups and downs happen – " you already mentioned reality so thats already given....
everything else like i said is great...
2007-08-22 06:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like it but it needs more!! How about
Life is a cycle that we all will go through, love is like the ocean, sometimes smooth.
Love is like a river that flows on endlessly, life and love is also like the mountains, sometimes rockie and not steady.
But as we enter our life together we can accomplish anything, with a mortgage, children,pets and bills the stronger we may be. Just remember communication is the key, and that everything in the future will work out easily. I have been married for 18yrs and still going strong.
2007-08-22 06:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by tabbycat3840 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actually really depressing. On their wedding day you should be showering then both with compliments and telling them what a happy life they will have together and how much you like welcoming your new brother in law into the family. Everyone knows marriage is hard and takes work but they don't need a slap in the face reality check on their happy day!
2007-08-22 07:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Stained Glass- Baby C 11/15/09!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first paragraph is really out of place. When the bride and groom speak, they will do the thank yous then.
And wishing them pain just sounds icky. Better to say something like "And may all your troubles be little ones." - and everyone will laugh because of the double meaning (kids).
If she's your sister, you really should be including something personal in there for the two of you.
2007-08-22 09:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you worried that your mom might give the couple the same advice the night before and it will be redundant -- or that she might be planning on giving your sister the same advice and you might be stepping on your mom's toes?
Also, despite your caveat, it seems a little bit of a downer for a wedding toast. I feel like it would make me a little nervous to be reminded about mortgages and stress on the wedding date. Also, the final joke is kinda hokey.
2007-08-22 09:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by ay ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the sister to the bride... or groom, say "our" parents rather than "my" parents.
It sounds good to me.
My favorite line in my MOH's speech was "Vicki, you look stunning. Dave you look... well... stunned." That got a good laugh.
But I also agree with those that said the toast isn't really usually the place to give a long advice monologue. My MOH said some very nice things about me... a few things about how he & I were a great pair, said about one line of advice... then wished us a lifetime of happiness.
2007-08-22 06:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like it!! Very nice. I was a little shaky on the opening joke though. A half hour anniversary? I guess. Hmm. That is my only semi criticism. The rest is great!
2007-08-22 06:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds great. can i argue a tad? 'committment' is a decision...a marriage is a contract a committment. A part of loving someone you are going to marry is sticking to the commitment and the marriage vows and to your partner.
Love isnt merely a decision...it is born within ...that got it's start...its spark...from one another in a way that to this day people can find no word to describe other than...Love is a piece of Heaven.
2007-08-22 06:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋