Is something wrong with this picture?Is it just me?

Question

Should I be careful? I met this guy online in June.We have been dating eachother ever since.Lately he has?
began telling me that he wants me to move to his city. We live only 30 min away from each other.I dont have my own apartment because I have to help my grandmother,she wants me here.He has been looking for apartments in his city for me.The rent is really high where he lives.Why does he want me to just pick up and move there to be with him.The only help that he has offered is to rent a car and help move my belongings from here to there.He said that I am always coming to his place and he doesnt want to come to mine because it is too far.Could he be abusive?
Is this a warning?
Should I be carefull?
Does this mean that he wants to get married?Should I be carefull?
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be carefull

Answer 1

Fret not for nothing but with prayer and supplication make your request know to God.

You do not have your own apartment because you have to help your Grandmother? Has that changed? What is your conclusion?

A man with a bad temper that takes pictures of you without your consent? Dating him for two months? Meet another guy on-line? Our is this the same guy? Your subjects are running into each other! Question! Do you have a habit of making bad decisions? If so you should be cautious about men .

Answer 2

Run as fast as you can in the other direction!!!

That little voice of doubt you have nagging you is your instinct telling you he is no good.
He is moving WAY too fast in this relationship and pressuring you to do things that you are not comfortable with. He is attempting to seperate you from your family. He has already displayed his ugly side by punching a wall. How long is it going to be until he hits you? He has followed you and taken pictures of you...stalking / obsessive behavior. All are warning signs.

If he had your best interests at heart, he would be more understanding of the situation with your grandmother. He would not try to pressure you to do things against your will. He certainly would not have violent tendancies towards you.

RUN!!! You are worthy of better treatment than this guy is giving you. There is someone out there that will love you and give you the respect you deserve.

Answer 3

First of all, change your "username." You are asking for trouble by sending out bad vibes, with that name, as it's VERY suggestive. Red flags are waving high!!!! Don't you see them? You have to listen to your gut feelings & your gut feelings are telling you to stay put. Tell this guy, it's not working out, & that it's time that you both went your own way. Be firm & don't back down!!!!! Stay with your grandmother, she needs you. The guy needs someone to control, so let him find someone else. He's got a BAD temper & he's VERY controlling. Those two things will never change where he's concerned. He could very well begin hitting you when he's angry. As for the picture taking, again, it's a "mind control" game he's playing. He's trying to control your every move. If you move in with him, he'll follow your every move & monitor your phone calls, etc. This guy is sick!!!!!Don't let him do that ever again!!! Break ALL ties with him NOW!!!! If you want to meet a guy, try meeting someone from your area, the right way. (church, grocery store, etc) Stay off the dating sites or chat rooms!!!!!

Listen to the smart advice others here are telling you. Use common sense.

Answer 4

If you sense that there's something wrong with the picture, there probably is.

Red flag #1: You've known the man for 2 months and he wants to relocate you.

Red flag #2: He's already started looking for places for you to live without your consent.

Red flag #3: Will not make the effort to come see you, you have to go to him. (selfish)

Red flag #4: Wants to know whether or not you are capable of having children two months after you meet him. (creepy)

Red flag #5: Has a bad temper, throws tantrums. It might have been the wall last time, eventually it will be you.

Red flag #6: FOLLOWED YOU TO THE BATHROOM TAKING PICTURES OF YOU THE ENTIRE WAY THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you seriously need more reasons to get yourself out of this?

Answer 5

Be careful. In fact, you should consider moving on. It's much too soon for everything he's talking about, and while I may be jumping to conclusions, too - it does sound like you have a potential abuser. Pushing someone into commitment very early on is a sign.

My initial reaction is get out now.

Answer 6

Honey, its only two months. You are taking it too fast. The fact that he doesn't want to come to your house because "its too far" is very telling. He definately doesn't want to get married, he just wants you to be more convenient.

And if you're asking this question, you know you obviously aren't ready to pick up and movie. Slow down. Take a breath. Look at it from a clear logical head. You already know what you should do so stop letting him push you into something.

Answer 7

wrong section hun. But it sounds like something is wrong in the relationship. If ur not comfortable with him taking pictures of u when u dont know it then drop him! has he hit u? if he ever tries, u need to run! and dont go with him if u are hesitating. U want to be the happiest as can be with a man! so if he doesnt make u happy then perhaps he's not the one for u. but dont do anything u dont want to do. Remember ur more important to u then he is!

Answer 8

Two months.... it is way too soon to be thinking of anything like moving in together or marriage. Take time to really get to know him. In your own words you say he has a BAD temper. As you get to know him you will start to see thing with more clarity. Just so you know, isolation is an abusers first move
against their victims.

Answer 9

Dearie, you should be running in the opposite direction from this person!!!.... no one who truely cares about you would ever expect you to leave a member of your family who needs you there.... the guys is a self-centered DORK and you need to leave him.... and if you had half a brain you'd report him for taking pictures of you in the bathroom!!... he's a FREAK....RUN, girl.....

Answer 10

It's not you. Get out of this situation immediately; he has all the signs of being an abuser. This man doesn't love you--he wants to control you.