My husband and I have not talked to his mother for well over a year now. We had a disagreement with her and she took off out of state. She did not tell us that she moved, we found out from someone else. We know how to reach her if we want to. She has made no attempt to contact us at all. What started the whole thing was so little compared to what she turned it into. Before she left, she walked right by her son and me like she did not even know us. I just can not get over how easy it was for her to walk away from her own son.
Since this whole thing began, we have had 2 baby girls. Our first daughter past away last year, the other was born a couple months ago and is at home but with some medical issues. Should we let her know about the babies? Ever since I had the last baby, I have been feeling a need for family in the worst way. Should I let her know or should I let the sleeping dog lie? Thanks in advance!
2007-08-22 05:06:53 · 4 answers · asked by GlitterSno75 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To answer the question "where is my family", my parents are both deceased.
2007-08-22 05:21:12 · update #1
i'm sorry for your loss. i can't imagine your pain... and also, i hope your new child is ok... medical problems can be frightening.
about your mother in law: you can't change her feelings... and if she's avoided her son and you, well, there is not much you can do.
you can probably try to contact her, but if you feel it will cause you stress, then don't....
hon, your need for a family is normal, but his mother isn't normal... and she seems to have issues since she simply walked away.
do what you think is best for YOU.... and take good care of that baby... lean on your husband and the good friends you have for care and support, in the meantime.
sending hugs.
2007-08-22 05:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, send her an announcement and photos and a personal note explaining what happened to your first precious little girl (I am so terribly sorry for your loss!).
Let her know that the next move is hers, that if she desires a relationship with her granddaughter, you all would welcome her to your home with open arms and joy.
EVERYONE makes mistakes they regret and perhaps she is sitting and wondering what she could do or say that could reverse her impetuous decisions of the past.
Mend your fences while you can. Time in this life is so short. Blessings on your new family!
2007-08-22 12:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is not going to fulfill your need for family. Please don't expect that. I think that any grown woman who does what she did and is perfectly comfortable not knowing what is going on with her children is toxic and you certainly don't need that in your life.
Where is your family? If you don't have any, then find a support group for parents of children with the conditions your daughter has or a support group for parents who have lost a child. My heart goes out to you, that is a terrible burden to handle yourself but please understand that her behavior is representative of her true nature. It won't change.
2007-08-22 12:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her anything. Give her a taste of her own medicine. She's the one that needs to come to you two and apologize.
2007-08-22 12:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋