i have a 2 year old that has behavior problems? what can i do to help control him better any ideas ?

Question

he doesnt want to listen at daycare. tells his teachers and me no all the time.

Answer 1

Your 2 year old needs to be home with you, not at some daycare. No wonder he has behavior problems. You should be raising him, NOT STRANGERS. He's just a baby.

Answer 2

This is common for 2 year olds, but you should also think about what is going on around him (home and child care). However, reward incentives may help. Another issue is sometimes they test the waters to see how far they can push the teacher. Kids are smart. The most important thing is that you both are consistent...and come up with a plan together. You 2 year old should know that you are in support of the teacher, and that the teacher supports you. So if it's time out at home, then time out should be used across the board. As parents, we are sometimes too tired for the fight and give in and this leaves the child care provider to deal with the kid expecting to have it their way. He's bridging, not really a baby but not a "big kid" either. Give it time and be patient.

Answer 3

consistent is most important!!! first make sure that nothing is happening at daycare. Have a meeting with daycare and make sure you and the daycare are on the same page for how you handle things. what he is doing is very normal for his age.I found giving my daughter small choices and giving her more room in the house where i did not have to tell her no that was all things she was allowed to do helped. If it does not get better try finding a in home provider that can maybe take more time with him but he is at an age where he is going to test boundaries and people a lot and consist discipline from you and the daycare should take care of it for the most part he will learn what you teach him :) hope that helps

Answer 4

This sounds like normal behavior; don't automatically assume (or listen) that something is wrong with your son. I'm not saying it's in your head, but give it some time because he'll probably grow out of it. My daughter would say "no" like it was her personal mantra, but she'd still do whatever we told her to do. I've found that consistent discipline worked and hopefully it will for you. I stole this from "Nanny 911" or whatever it's called: designate a spot, the "naughty spot," where your child has to sit whenever he misbehaves. The first couple of times I did this I was up all night with a screaming child, but eventually she learned to calm down and think about her behavior (as much as a 3 yr. old can, anyway). After her 3 minutes were up (she got 1-3 minutes depending on what she did; serious things like hitting or running into the street got her a swat) we talk about what she did and what she could do next time. Then she has to say she's sorry and I give her a hug. It's not perfect, and she still finds herself there, but she's starting to understand punishment and ways to avoid it. You don't have to do this, but just be consistent! This is why my husband and I argue sometimes, because he'll let her do things I wouldn't because it's "funny," but when it wears on his nerves she doesn't stop. It's because she gets conflicting messages about what's right and wrong, and behaves as she wants to.

I believe in the power of a spanking, but I've come to understand that it's not right for every infraction. It actually made things worse for a minute because she just toughened her little hide and continued to do wrong; now when she gets one she knows she did something terrible or something dangerous, because that's all I give them for.

Every child is different; maybe you should spend a day or two with him, one on one, and observe him. Maybe there are other factors you weren't aware of. Are there any problems with the daycare? I had my daughter in a daycare and every time I picked her up she was horrible, not eating and fighting constantly. I talked to the other parents and realized that the staff was untrained and loved to yell at the kids, and that the kids would literally sit for hours unsupervised. I found a better one and interviewed this lady and watched her run it. She even let me put a camera up. I hope it resolves itself, but don't feel bad. The terrible twos are so much harder on the parent than the kid!

Answer 5

welcome to the club!!!! they are so stubborn and hard headed at that age and it wont stop until they are grown and out of the house! LOL anyway just be patient and try different discipline options like time out and taking away toys (or some favorite thing) or grounding from outside,games,toys, etc... patience is the biggest key and once you find something that works it will get better eventually but it takes time for them to understand these things and when and why it is happening, always get down to the child's level and talk face to face and explain what and why they are in trouble!! good luck and hang in there!!! its the fun times that make kids worth all the hard work...............tell twinkletoes to bite my @ss, not every mom gets to sit home on their @ss and watch soaps all day, some families it takes both parents working to make it!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

He sounds like a normal 2 year old to me. It has been my experience (20 years a nanny) that all two year olds act that way. You and his teachers have to reinforce the discipline- if he is told no dont let him do it again, if you say come here-make him come here, if he says no then just say ok you can say no but its still lunch time.

Answer 7

Don't listen to what "twinkle toes" wrote you. They obviously don't realize that it is 2007 and it takes two incomes to live these days!!

However, what you explained it PERFECTLY normal for that age. I am going through it right now! I ignore him when he acts a fool and when he acts really bad and throws a temper, I put him in his bed and tell him if he is going to cry then he can cry in his bed. He doesn't come out until his temper tantrum is over...

Answer 8

Doesnt sound like behavior issues... it sounds like he's a two year old who's not had the one on one time with a consistent parent teaching him how to behave and holding him accountable for that knowledge.

This is how a child in its natural state will act.

He needs consistency, and boundries. teach him how to behave, point it out in children around him (good and bad) and hold him accountable for that knowledge, use the same punishment each time, and the INSTANT he is disobediant.

this sums it up:

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Answer 9

Ask Him Three Times. Then if he still does not do it take him aside form all the other kids, gte donw at his level and tell him he needs to do it. If he still won't time out.

Be Firm. If Needed gently force him into it. (Example who be making him get dressed.)