the lady i work for could not find someone to take her son as my two back up sitters are sick so she says it is my job to either take her 2 year old with me or reschedule my appointment i say that this is important for my son and i to get taken care of and she should take the afternoon off work to get another appoinment for us will take weeks to months if this was just a normal appoinment i would cancel but I feel my son and I's hearing should get taking care of do you think i should suck it up and cancel or tell her to suck it up and come get her kid at lunch tiime?
2007-08-22 04:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by twojustbe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I did not have time to give her warning i went to the doctor monday he reviewed my son and i's results and got us into the ent today (wednesday) witch is really rare usually people wait months and I tell all moms i work for I can not always find back up care in two years i have worked for her i have only had two days i could not get back up care p.s. i was the one mention she should get a daycare because we will both have to get our tubes done and my son has some more things comming up i feel bad but this opoinment is going to be 2 1/2 hours long to long for her little guy
2007-08-22 05:00:36 · update #1
You are not obligated to find a back up sitter. She should either take the time off or find someone else to care for her child. What would happen if your son was sick all night and you could not have the child in your home for fear of infecting him, it would be up to her in the case of an emergancy.
2007-08-22 05:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all takes time... just start with the simple pleasures of home and family. Think of Maslow's Hierarchy. Give him a chance to rest and adjust to his time zone. Let him enjoy long showers and hot soaking baths. A series of his favorite home-cooked meals would be heart-warming. He will want to bathe in past fond experiences with his friends who might not be available or be in their own focus... so help him see that. The world doesn't stop for any of us. Everyone is different... so there are no set ways to go about integrating back. You sound very insightful and supportive so I don't think you will have any problems knowing what to do. He probably has a lot of insights he learned from you. An opportunity for him to help others is healing. If he gets into some issues... the local veterans administration is suppose to have programs in place. I think it they have groups they run with others that have experienced similar or same. When they are safe and secure at home... they have a great awakening of what all they experienced... it has to be balanced and he will probably share with you. Some come up with some pretty overwhelming things. As a parent, you will show unconditional love and understanding... that is all that matters. I don't know your son's personality...but, a welcome home party with family and friends is usually a positive and good thing for all. ... I value everything he has done! Good Luck! ...it will be fine...I am glad he is on his way home
2016-05-19 22:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by oralia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any other alternatives? A family member or neighbor that could keep an eye on him. If you have no other options and gave her advance notice of the appointment then I would call her and tell her she has to come pick up her child. My old sitter would have called me and told me tough b/c she gave me notice and that was our agreement. Do not feel bad and do not cancel your apt.
2007-08-22 04:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by llamma2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your responsibility to find back- up child care for someone else's child. You can make dr's or any other appointments whenever you want. Tell her you won't be home so you will not be open to do child care. Don't let her make you feel guilty.
I am a certified child care provider and when I have an appointment, it is up to the parents to find a back-up. I do not charge when I am closed.
2007-08-22 04:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by blue eyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would take the child with you or find someone to watch him. You have a commitment to the children you watch. This woman will not get paid if she has to leave work and that could hurt her family. If it was my child you were watching, I would find a new daycare if you didnt watch him. If I cant work, I cant pay you.
2007-08-22 04:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as the caregiver (you) i feel it is your responsibility to let the parent know way ahead of time about changes in the schedule, she depends on you to be there for her and her child so you should either reschedule or take her child with you!! its only fair if you did not or could not give her notice ahead of the appointment day!!
2007-08-22 04:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bambam 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not if possible have your husband or the childs father take him
2007-08-22 04:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you gave her ample warning then its her responsibility to find another babysitter !
2007-08-22 04:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋