Im 32 hes 25 I look 25 and him 32 I feel 23 I look VERRY GOOD i still get carded for i.d. people think my daughter is my sister we're together EVERYDAY (i work from 8-5) we sleep in the same bed EVERY NIGHT if hes cheating its while im at work cause when i get off of work we are together from then on been together for 10 months I tell him i need sex and all and he still dont give it to me but he gets angry if he thinks ive played with myself (masturbated) I know im small but not that small 5'3"120-125 lbs. I have put on lingerie slept naked im all over him while we sleep i even gave him oral sex he doesnt even hold or cuddle me at night We have sex twice a month I know the sex is good when we do have it after we're done he always says "see it wouldn't be that good if we did it all the time If we space it out it will always seem like the first time." but DAMN twice a month come on now Im 32 and my sex drive is bigger than ever hes 25 where is his sex drive? WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM?
2007-08-22 04:34:23 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need a new man. No man would turn down sex if it is thrown at him the way you do if he was still diggin you. I think you might already know the reasons that one might. Time to move on.
2007-08-22 04:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by daniel b 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It would seem that he has it in his head that it would be more meaning full & more fullfilling if only doing it once or twice a month. Think about it, your so charged up when you do get some ya go "Nuts!" But I understand how you feel too. I just turned 38 & she's in her mid + 40's, and I've done the same things as you have & more. I've always been ready, been like that sence I've started having sex. First, tell hem how you feel and what he is missing. If he gets upset then that's the way he'll be. Understand this, you've waited for what he has to give(not alot at this point) let hem waite for what you have. In between that time, do what makes you feel good. Try ah toy or two, ah peep show on dvd would be good as well.
2007-08-22 05:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some people like sex, and some people don't. To him, although it's quite rare with men, twice a month is enough. So I would suggest that if for your sex is very important, you might want to break it off. At some point in your relationship, you will resent him and believe me you would rather do it now then wait. Just talk to him about it and see what he has to say, if he wants to continue that way and if he is satisfy with the sex life you have now, then it will become a problem soon.
Good luck
2007-08-22 04:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 25 he is young and probable not interested in been too committed. He may feel you are crowding him. He may just have low sex drive. Has he been like this from the start of your relationship. Give him some space. Or he may do a runner. Describing him as "my man" does not sound too romantic. He may feel that you have much more experience than him so he lacks confidence around your "full on" approach to sex.
2007-08-22 04:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by wally 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either he has errectile problems or he's just not into you....Or he's cheating on you.
He could have depression issues or high blood pressure effecting him, ask him to go see a doctor and get a full physical. Something must be wrong with his body, at 23 he should be having sex every night of the week, if he was normal.....And for no less than 2 hours per night.
2007-08-22 04:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Date Dr. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who knows? Most 25 yr olds would be wanting sex at least 2 or 3 times a week. Either hes cheating, or hes just one of those guys that got tired of sex for some reason and just wants it every once in a while.
2007-08-22 04:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by JohnB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
How long have you guys been together?
I have been with my girl for 3 years, we use to have sex about 3-4 times a day (VERY good sex)
For the past half a year, we have sex about 1-2 times a month!!
(its even better than before) but we dont do it often at all.
I encourage my girl to masturbate since my sex drive is not as high as hers, and i also masturbate often, i have been addicted to it since i was like 10 so ive been doing it my whole life.
Sometimes sex is just frustrating, and masturbation is soo much easier. When we have sex i go for the home run everytime and we do it for about 2 hours which drains us and then cleanin everything up is also a mess (we are both clean freaks) Sex has just become too much of a hassle.
Im sorry to admit it, but i just got bored. I knwo if i get with any other girl im going be doing her 3-4 times a day.
Its like when your a kid and you want a toy real bad, when you finnaly get it you play with it like crazy, but then you get bored and want something new.
We are in the process of finding another girl for a 3-way which i know its gonna kick up our sex life like before
(at least for a couple of months)
2007-08-22 04:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Q 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1st of all you should really talk to him about this problem and tell him if he cant satisfied you then you will have to look else where and if you really think he is cheating on you then have someone follow him for a few days while your a work maybe a friend or even your daughter could do this! You are special and should be treated accordingly. Good Luck !
2007-08-22 04:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by queenbezzzzs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell you that something is very wrong here he's 25 come on now thats the age where all guys want sex! i really feel bad for you because to tell you the truth he's probably seeing a young chick i'd say he's cheating. but that's my thought gee i'm 35 and my man is 38 and were having the best sex ever at lest twice a day everyday may i add well the best thing to do is have a long talk with him and if things don't change then move on. i know it's hard but us girl's gotta to do what we got to do life's to short to be un happy. good luck i wish you the best.
2007-08-22 04:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by valrietorres 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would suggest you talk to him about this b/c it is obviously putting a damper on our relationship. His problem most likely isn't you and he could be depressed, stressed out, have anxiety problems, or a lot of other illnesses. If you calmy talk to him and tell him you're concerned about why he isn't intersted in having sex more often and don't get to pushy or yell or anything he'll be more willing to open up to you. Tell him how you feel- that it makes you feel like he's not attracted to you anymore and you're concerned he is stressed out or depressed and you wish to have him talk with someone about what the problem could be- even if it isn't you and its a psychologist or doctor. As frustrating as it is, try to stay calm and not get too worked up over it b/c it will only cause more problems and make him less likely to open up to you. Good luck.
2007-08-22 04:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by hefillsmylifewithgoodthings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has self conscious issues that he needs to work through, or hell maybe he likes to keep it exciting. Either way, your not getting what you want and I think you two should talk about it. What if he thinks that after he has sex with you say 5 times a week (just a what if) that later he won't be able to please you like he used too? You should let him know there are always things to turn too to make sex fun.Why not try roleplay? light bondage? how about the classic whip cream? tantra? There is always a way to make sex great every time.
2007-08-22 04:45:39 · answer #11 · answered by ~*Demented_little_me*~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋