My boyfriend and I have our 4 year anniversary today. I bought him some really expensive sporting tickets to something he has always wanted to go to all his life and has never been before. And I made him a dvd with our pictures and our song on it. I gave it to him the other day because I couldnt wait any longer. He promised me he was going to work an early shift so he could be off early to go out to eat. Hes still in the bed!!! And he has to be at work at 12 so that means he wont get off until late! Plus, he never buys me anything for special days. Birthdays...anniversarys...nothing. So I know I wont get anything today. Should I be pissed?
2007-08-22 04:29:13 · 17 answers · asked by ModelSmile 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you answered my question yesterday and told me that you were going through the same thing. my boyfriend doesn't buy me gifts either, it was my 21st last sunday and he didn't buy me anything, i just cut it off because of the whole not wnting me around thing. i do the same thing for him all the time. we've been together for 5 years and 4 of the 5 years he didn't have a job, i would buy him everything and on special occasions i would do cute stuff i knew he liked like buy sexy lingerie and make him scrapbooks. he just never appreciates me. he sounds just like my boyfriend, i know deep down he cares but maybe they're just not mature enough for the relationships we are offering them.
2007-08-22 16:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by JTOdapizzLE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be pissed. Why? because you already know by past actions that he doesn't buy you things on special days. You KNOW that. What made you think he would change? Your nagging and complaining about it?
If you don't like the way a guy is treating you, or you feel you should be treated better that you are by a guy you have two options. 1) tell him about it, discuss it, explain how you feel and how what he does (or doesn't do) makes you feel. 2) end the relationship and look for something that is more to your liking. Keep in mind that for 90% of the guys out there.. after you try doing option 1... chances are nothing will change so you will move on to option 2 within 3 months anyway. Why? because no one changes for someone else. they only change if they want to change and that change has to be beneficial to them (and no matter how good you are in bed.. thats not reason enough...sorry).
Short version: If you don't like the way you are being treated don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out. Life is too short to drama over what a guy is or isn't doing and how he is or isn't treating you. If you don't like it.... leave.
Personally.. if I thought I was being treated badly as you believe you are.....I sure as hell wouldn't stick around for 4 years... talk about glutton for punishment!
2007-08-22 04:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understandable that your pissed. What can you do? You love him even though he just isn't romantic when it comes to special days. Send yourself some flowers sometime in the near future, no card. Tell him you sent them to yourself because you miss getting flowers. He want believe you. Atleast not before he freaks out that some guy is after you. Maybe he will get a clue that he needs to romance you a little more before someone else does.
2007-08-22 05:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! In fact, I am PO'd for you! Get him out of that bed now and send him to work and THEN keep him up all night long to spend some time with you. If he doesn't acknowledge your 4 yr anniversary, well, I would pummel him to death!!
Sandy :O)
2007-08-22 04:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He felt disrespected and/or intimidated via that shaggy dog tale, I dont think of he enjoyed it in any respect. It looks like he meant " why could you even ask that to this dude suitable in my face, I dont choose opposition, i'm pursuing that woman and she or he's out of the marketplace from my view factor".
2016-11-13 04:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be mad! I was in a relationship like this, and it gets so tiring doing special things for the guy when you get absolutely nothing in return. I had to break up with him. Imagine a lifetime of nothing.............
2007-08-22 04:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell yeah I would be pissed. I would also stop doing so much for him and give him a taste of his own medicine. See how he likes it. Worst case scenario you could leave him and see his reaction. If he really cared he would change to have you back. EVERY WOMAN LOVES TO BE SPOILT!!! and we deserve to be after the **** we put up with from guys.
2007-08-22 04:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh hell yeah! i would be livid! this is a special day. but if he is always like that then why do you put any effort forth. hell thats grounds for a bumping for sure! blows you off and cares less about a 4 years aniv. hell i would be kicking him to the curb. its obivious you care more then he does!
2007-08-22 04:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
please don't get mad at me if i'm not right, but he might have taken the WHOLE day off to spend it with you. but that is just my guess if he is the sweet type. And he might just be sleeping in since he is not going to work any way. well, either way, have a great aniversary and don't get too mad b/c life's too short to spend it mad. (i know that saying sounds corny but it's true, lol)
2007-08-22 04:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
**** yes girl there are guys out there taht will buy you things just because it is monday what are you doing with somebody like that you need better
2007-08-22 04:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by bigboobs17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋